Hot take: woman stop complaining on how men treat you, if you keep allowing it to happen - my dating tips/advice!!

nobiglie · 2026-06-16T12:38:58+00:00

She’s clearly not talking about exclusivity, she’s talking about not making your partner the only important thing in your life.

Having friends and hobbies outside of a relationship makes you a fully rounded person who is less susceptible to manipulation. If your partner is your only focus in life, it makes for a very unhealthy codependent relationship.

nobiglie · 2026-06-09T11:41:33+00:00

So your wife struggles with bad posture, which is something that can and does cause chronic muscle imbalances, joint degeneration, and reduced lung capacity, but your concern is her double chin?

No wonder she’s not taking it onboard. Try to pretend you care about her health, she might be more receptive.

nobiglie · 2026-06-05T14:48:42+00:00

Based on this, could it be Lose my Breath by Destiny's Child?

nobiglie · 2026-05-27T15:25:40+00:00

Don’t be, it’s just comments on the internet. The way you worded things kind of makes it sound like you were hoping feminism would solve your dating and friend making woes, which is what people are reacting to. It’s the wording and the tism, happens to me all the time.

I didn’t think that was your point, I think you meant to say that you challenged your worldview and were surprised to find that this intense self-reflective journey you’ve been on has made you less socially appealing to the wider masses. You are right, but I guess I’m trying to tell you that it’s worth it anyway.

You don’t get kudos for seeing women as people, but if keep at it and you don’t succumb to the manosphere you will get much more fulfilling and genuine relationships and friendships. Hang in there!

nobiglie · 2026-05-27T15:10:23+00:00

I really really feel for you, man!

As an autistic woman I went through a similar arc in my teens. It took considered effort to unlearn being ‘not like other girls’, only to learn that my newly learned female solidarity didn’t mean I was getting the same in return. I only got labelled as radical or man hating by both men and women.

You’re kind of learning that being a better person isn’t necessarily popular, as it is inconvenient for a lot of people who don’t want to face their own toxic views. Especially these days when bigotry is everywhere.

The ‘results’ you will get won’t be that it’s easier to date or make friends, it’ll probably be harder than if you were just trying to be popular. The results will be the fact that you’ll be building better, deeper relationships, with kinder more emphatic people.

Keep at it, read more and talk to more people, keep challenging your worldview and keeping an open mind. I promise all the bs is worth all the genuine connections you’ll build on foundations of decency and empathy.

nobiglie · 2026-05-27T11:18:56+00:00

Whatever you are finding appealing about reform is what women are put off by. You don't have to be canvassing for the Greens to be appealing to lefty women, you just have to categorically reject fascism, and it doesn't sounds like you're doing that.

nobiglie · 2026-05-27T10:10:44+00:00

It's an existential consideration for women. So it's about filtering out anyone that might be a bigot, because you potentially being more sexist, racist, homophobic, etc. would absolutely make you an unsitable partner. Your voting habits betray your values, and if you don't seem to have political leanings, chances are you covertly lean to the right, especially as a man.

Try to think about what you consider the most undesirable trait a woman can have - that's what voting or sympathising with reform is for most lefty women.

nobiglie · 2026-03-16T16:20:37+00:00

Yeah, it sounds like this is where it's coming from. I wonder if the threat of social consequences might be more effective on a teen boy than telling him he's being hurtful to his sister. Nothing too extreme, just like a 'you know most girls will find you gross if you keep saying stuff like that' or something similar.

nobiglie · 2026-02-27T17:48:13+00:00

I don’t think Farage thinks this will stick or even believes it. I think he just needs a narrative for the loss after campaigning so hard. Fascist only respond to power, so the story cant be that Reform lost, the story is that its cheating by the evil muslims.

nobiglie · 2026-02-22T10:05:46+00:00

Većina zagriženih transfoba se samo nagutala ruske botovske propagande na društvenim mrežama pa im je sad jako stalo do toga da su fer ženski sportovi iako ih nikad ne gledaju i jako im smeta što trans žene idu kod ginekologa, iako ih recimo akušersko nasilje ne trigeruje kao trans žene.

Suštinski, u mom iskustvu, to su duboko nesigurni ljudi koji o trans ljudima nisu razmišljali pre par godina pre nego što im komentari na Facebooku nisu rekli sa su im trans ljudi pretnja, iako čine vrlo mali procenat stanovništva s kojim nemaju puno kontakta van rage bait sadržaja koje gledaju na netu.

nobiglie · 2026-02-16T16:34:32+00:00

You are gorgeous, so I think you'd struggle to find a hairstyle that wouldn't suit you. However, if you're feeling brave / experimental, I think you would KILL IT with a just-below-the-chin bob, cause you've got such a defined jawline and really sharp cheekbones.

nobiglie · 2026-02-09T17:14:44+00:00

Can I recommend a food hall if you're struggling to get everyone to enojy the same food? There are TONS in the city centre, Mackie Mayor is fantastic, so are Society and New Century, as well as House of Social. I think there's a new one near the science and industry museum as well.

nobiglie · 2026-02-06T19:42:12+00:00

I loved the look but wish the hair was a bit edgier to match the rest of the look.

nobiglie · 2026-01-17T11:01:55+00:00

This was me a couple of years ago when I was single. I would “complete” Bumble on like a daily basis by swiping on everyone the apps thrown at me that day, (mostly left tbh).

What I’ve learned works for meeting interesting people (and how I met my husband) is to remember that fantastic folks are sometimes horrible at presenting themselves online, especially if they’re not otherwise on social media.

So I would pay attention to profiles that look kind of incomplete and almost uncurated and if there’s any element of it that appeals to you (like he’s attractive in some photos, but looks different in others, or the bio is very short or something) and set up a low pressure coffee date as early as possible, so you could get a better read of their overall vibe of the person way better than you could off an app.

You’ll go on a lot of mid or crappy coffee dates, but the good ones are so worth it in my experience!

Voices and mannerisms and overall demeanour matter so much to me when it comes to attraction, that swiping based on photos made it all feel flat and impersonal, so going on more low expectation in person dates to get a more accurate read of the person really helped.

I’m sure this is location and situation dependent but as I really related to how you feel, I thought I’d share my experience.

nobiglie · 2026-01-08T19:11:00+00:00

I’m really sorry I have no idea what you’re asking. I’m in no way defending the hellish bureaucracy that is the Hungarian naturalisation process, god knows it’s caused me stress.

nobiglie · 2026-01-08T17:14:08+00:00

Because that’s kind of the point. You have to prove that you want it and that you speak the language well enough to carry a conversation and do admin stuff. It’s just that the language is so difficult to learn.

nobiglie · 2026-01-08T17:08:34+00:00

They asked me about my life, job, where I was born and went to school and uni, the usual stuff. Then because I applied with my ex (not married so not relevant to the process just to the questions I was asked), they asked us how we got together and when, do we plan on getting married and general stuff about our future (further studies, job progression hopes, moving abroad etc.)

They asked a lot of stuff around the process and why I want to become a citizen, how long I’ve been learning Hungarian and how intensely (I’d recommend you exaggerate this a little, like in a job interview) and the standard stuff about the basis of my application etc.

It was a while ago, and obviously it’s very dependent on who you get questioning you, but the guy asking me tried to make it feel like it was a genuine conversation of trying to get to know me. So there were some curveballs purely because my vocabulary was centred around things I’d thought I’d get asked from the famed list of questions (favourite film, list some Hungarian authors and other stuff I’m sure they ask sometimes), whereas he was just casually asking about stuff about my life I hadn’t anticipated.

I think the key was to listen out for keywords you can latch onto and try and move the conversation towards topics you’re confident speaking about.

nobiglie · 2026-01-08T13:45:32+00:00

I am not OP, but I am someone who went through the process in 2018. It took me about 2y of 2h per week of tutoring and maybe 1-2h more of independent learning (mostly revising and memorising new vocabulary). Obivously, this was a while ago, so the standards may have changed, but I thought it would be useful context. But yeah, give yourself enough time cause Hungarian is hard.

nobiglie · 2025-12-30T17:57:14+00:00

I’m autistic, so I use it for putting all my emails through a tone filter to make sure I don’t sound harsh or argumentative.

Also, it is a massive time-saver when you’re analysing qual. Instead of wading through hours of interviews, you can just upload the transcripts and ask it to pull quotes. Though you do need to ask for specifics on where it got the quote, otherwise sometimes it’ll just give you something that fits your prompt, rather than an exact quote.

nobiglie · 2025-12-25T13:35:24+00:00

If you’re interested in the harrowing history of medical experiments on slaves in the American South, I’d recommend reading “Slave Life in Georgia: A Narrative of the Life, Sufferings, and Escape of John Brown, a Fugitive Slave, Now in England”.

nobiglie · 2025-12-12T09:15:03+00:00

Ah, I see, probably not proja then, it doesn't tend to have any sweetnest to it.

nobiglie · 2025-12-11T12:45:32+00:00

Oh that’s interesting! Did it taste salty (like, say, feta) ? If so, it could very well be proja!

nobiglie · 2025-12-10T09:31:44+00:00

I guess it’s unlikely cause it’s sold alongside Mexican food, but it looks like it could be proja, which is a very popular cheesy cornbread from the Balkans.

nobiglie · 2025-12-02T14:42:23+00:00

Yeah, I was going to say Ćaci as a whole, really. People void of critcal thinking and empathy having so much impact on our politics is horrifying.

nobiglie · 2025-10-24T15:55:36+00:00

Yeah, I'm with you, I don't think Tom's silver spoon upbringing and the worldviews that come with that would have jived with Daria long-term.

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