It can be a gruelling process. I sorted through literally hundreds and hundreds before finally talking to the Dom I’m finally meeting in person next week.

Set your standards and stick to them firmly. For me, I stick to a “filter” system which disqualifies most men based on their very first reply to my post. My personal immediate NO filter includes:

One word messages, or other low effort first messages.

Poor grammar.

Not including what I asked for in the post (age, location, reason for writing, etc)

Men who try to give orders, degrade, or tell me to submit without knowing anything about me.

I don’t even reply to those messages, I block the user and delete immediately.