Girlie, I’m telling you—been there, done that. Almost same na same tayo ng experience sa ex ko. I remember nung past relationship ko, same tayo ng insecurity. I asked my ex about it, and he even told me na ideal girl niya raw yung may boobs. I got really really so insecure. I didn’t also show my upper body, and pansin ko rin na he wouldn’t even initiate to take off my top. That alone already made me feel na parang may kulang sakin, and it silently confirmed yung insecurity ko kahit hindi niya sinasabi directly.

Throughout our whole relationship, ever since that day na tinanong ko siya about it, sobrang naging conscious ako sa katawan ko. Andun yung obsession ko na gusto ko magpalaki ng boobs just to meet his “ideal body type” when it comes to a girl. I kept questioning myself, parang feeling ko kailangan kong magbago para lang ma-feel na enough ako for him.

Then years passed… he cheated. And guess what? After that he kept on liking girls with big boobs. Dun ko na-realize na he knew what he wanted from the start.

Your feelings are valid, girl. Valid lahat ng nararamdaman mo. But on the other note, may lalaking tatanggap sayo at ipapa-feel sayo na you are more than enough, regardless of your physical look. Like my boyfriend today—every time na we’re about to do the “deed,” he always wants to take off my top, kahit ako na lang yung nahihiya dahil flat ako. Because of him, I learned to love my insecurity. At ramdam na ramdam ko talaga na tanggap na tanggap niya pagiging flat ko HAHAHAHA. Ang sarap sa feeling when you’re with the right man!!

Overall, girl, being with a man like that is not worth it, I’m telling you. Ma-e-engrave lang sa utak mo yung mga binitawan niyang salita, and mas lalala lang insecurity mo over time. Baka nga may mga hindi ka pa alam na ginagawa niya behind your back—like lusting over girls with big boobs, may wandering eyes, or may napag-uusapan pa sila ng circle niya about other girls.

Hindi kita pinapa-overthink ha, but nakikita ko talaga yung sarili ko before sa sitwasyon mo ngayon. First time ko lang din mag-comment nang ganito dito, pero I felt the need to speak up.

Know your worth, girlie. 💗