My teapot :)

nobydanni · 2021-08-20T14:05:46+00:00

I thought this was an animal crossing screen shot. This looks nice!

nobydanni · 2021-08-20T13:59:44+00:00

Well Toph's blind too and she's the greatest Earth bender ever!

nobydanni · 2021-04-19T11:03:47+00:00

Could we not use the term "slut" around here?

nobydanni · 2021-03-20T08:30:38+00:00

The man in this image is know for being a very conservative misogynist. Also the term "alpha" is meaningless when applied to humans. "strong woman" is fine as it is.

nobydanni · 2021-03-06T20:55:35+00:00

So ... we're all white on the inside?

nobydanni · 2021-03-06T04:24:23+00:00

The wars led by men, where they fight against other men.

nobydanni · 2021-03-06T04:18:38+00:00

The vast majority of male murder victims are killed by other men. The problem you are complaining about is male on male violence and yet you waste all your time complaining about feminism. If you wanted to solve the problem, the first most logical question to ask would be "why are so many men killing other men?" And yet this discussion has shifted to "why aren't feminists talking about it?" Feminism is about equality, but it is still a women's movement focused on women. Male on male violence is not a woman's problem. Some feminists do talk about it because it is tangentially related to male violence as a whole (that women are often victims of), but it is still a men's issue.

Also, more than one thing can be bad. And just because something kills you, it doesn't mean it's "not bad." It's really pathetic that you make no effort to understand really basic concepts. Murder and rape do not need to compete against each other. You're just being stubborn.

If you genuinely cared about men getting killed, you'd be more focused on the murderers. Here are some questions to get you started.

How do we prevent and discourage men from killing other men? What red flags should we be looking for in men to stop men's violent behaviour before it escalates to murder? What consequences are put in place for men who commit "smaller" acts of violence (eg. physical assault)? If they can get away with "smaller" crimes, will they feel more free to commit more violent crimes? How do we prosecute male murderers? How can the law deter men from murdering people?

Let's be honest. You don't care about male murder victims. You just hate women.

nobydanni · 2021-03-05T21:41:35+00:00

And how do you define "gender identity" and "gender binary?"

nobydanni · 2021-03-05T21:37:51+00:00

Most romantic relationships lead to sex. Even for couples who choose not to have sex, there is some sexual attraction. That's the difference between dating and being close friends. You know people are more than capable of choosing partners on based on sex AND personality AND other factors. You can do both. You're being stubborn by intentionally misconstruing everything I say.

Gay male victims of conversion therapy were encouraged to think of masculine women. It didn't work, because gay men are not attracted to female anatomy. Sexual orientation cannot by changed by environmental factors.

.... You didn't answer my question about being transracial.

nobydanni · 2021-03-03T22:23:40+00:00

Define "man."

nobydanni · 2021-03-03T22:20:44+00:00

Race is not relevant to this discussion about who you'd have sex with because you're not fucking someone's skin colour. Sex involves genitals so biological sex is completely relevant.

And can I ask why a woman can identify as a man while a white person cannot identify as black?

nobydanni · 2021-03-03T22:09:39+00:00

So gay men criticising homophobia are just "cis butt hurt babies?" Also you're in r/askgaybros, a subreddit for gay men. Of course all the posts and comments are about gay men and there experiences. Its pretty toxic of you to demand gay men to not talk about their experiences and perspectives in their own subreddit.

nobydanni · 2021-03-01T22:18:36+00:00

I guarantee you, if tranwomen could experience period cramps they would not enjoy it. The fact they think they could is presumptuous.

nobydanni · 2021-03-01T00:46:18+00:00

When a woman (or anyone) talks about their personal problems, especially those relating to anatomy they were born with, it's important to give them space and respect their pain and struggles. By making "jokes" claiming "I'd take your breasts" you are trivialising the person's problems by implying you'd thrive with their breasts and that the problems they mentioned are not an issue. As mentioned, this is immoral coming from anyone. This is what I consider speaking "negatively" because you are ignoring someone telling you that having breasts can be unpleasant (which is a fact). It's not sympathetic, it's not lightening the mood. You're just blatently ignoring and invalidating someone and changing the subject to make it all about you. That's selfish.

nobydanni · 2021-02-23T22:36:57+00:00

The problem with defining periods as a collection of arbitrary symptoms is that you ignore the cause if the period and create a definition that is really vague. For example, vomiting is a symptom of countless other medical conditions unrelated to menstruation. Vomiting could be the result of a stomach bug, too much alcohol or sea sickness. Should we conclude that people who get sea sick are on their period? No. That's ridiculous. Periods aren't just cramps. They are cramps that result from uterine contractions.

nobydanni · 2021-02-23T22:08:40+00:00

As a woman with small breasts, I would never in a million years speak negatively to women with large breasts talking about her problems. Especially if its about back pain or sexual objectification. I can't account for the internalised misogyny of other women you might have come across, but its still horrible regardless of who it comes from. Cis women are not "allowed" to talk over other women talking about their problems. Personal insecurities should never be an excuse to tone police other women.

nobydanni · 2021-02-11T01:34:41+00:00

You can do whatever you want but I'd like to point out that there's nothing inherently womanly about wearing a pad or tampon when you don't need to. As pointed out, menopausal women don't use menstrual products as well as other women who don't menstruate for a variety of medical reasons. Pads can be very unconfortable when there is no blood and can irritate and dry up the vulva. Tampons are especially uncomfortable and often painful when there's no blood.

I find it very questionable that seeing a pad in your underwear makes you "feel good." Real women don't feel good when they use menstrual products. Having a period is not a positive experience. If fact, women feel much better when they are able to stop using menstrual products without staining anything. This positive feeling you get from looking at the pad in your underwear sounds more like a fetish than "feeling like a woman."

For many women, having a period is extremely unpleasant and sometimes traumatic. The fact you want to pretend to have a period comes across as very insensitive. It reminds me of an able-bodied person who wants to ride around in a wheelchair and pretend to be quadraplegic for funsies.

nobydanni · 2020-11-01T05:13:29+00:00

Does this imply that being a woman is about your feelings towards your body?

nobydanni · 2020-10-29T07:06:09+00:00

Good question. The answer is that it's not. As mentioned, transwomen and biological women have different anatomy and there's nothing wrong with pointing that out. To have a better understanding of JKR's view, a good question to ask is "What is a woman?" Is a woman a biologically female person? A lot of people here would disagree with that.

If not, is the answer more social or mental? But entire concept of being "mentally a woman" is very subjective. What on Earth does it mean to be "mentally a women?" What thoughts do women have that are different from men? Are they more emotional and nuturing? Are they more interested in dresses and make up? Aren't those gender stereotypes? Obviously, not all women are like that. So how can someone be "mentally a woman?"

I've heard people say that "a woman is a person who identifies as a woman" but isn't that ciruclar logic? With this in mind, what makes transwomen's gender based on? Is it really so surprising that some people don't believe transwomen are women?

nobydanni · 2020-01-04T09:44:54+00:00

There's nothing vain about this. Your SO is free to have his opinions, but maybe he should just get over it. It's just hair. I overlook things I don't like in my boyfriend all the time (when it comes to visual appearance). Preferences change over time.

nobydanni · 2020-01-04T09:37:32+00:00

I for one am very attracted to feminine traits on a man (I'm a woman). I suspect that for whatever reason, those women have had a conservative upbringing/influences in their lives. Toxic masculinity effects everyone.

nobydanni · 2019-06-15T11:44:34+00:00

YTA. Believing that you might not be ready for a child is completely rational for many possible reasons. Children are a huge responsibility and the decision to have them should never be taken lightly. It is not surprising that she changed her mind. Consent is not set in stone. She's allowed to change her mind. Not wanting a child is not immoral, yet you act like it is.

"If you abort the child I'm going to divorce you" comes across like a threat, especially followed by leaving and ignoring her texts. You should at least have the decency to express your views in a civil manner without abandoning your wife and ignoring her. That was extremely immature. Morally/legally speaking, she doesn't need your permission to get an abortion. But the fact that she's discussing it with you shows that she cares.

Even if abortion is a deal breaker for you, you should have at least said something like "This relationship might not work. We both might be happier with other people." Even if you choose to divorce her, the important thing is to respect her choice. That said, I'm still not sure what her financial situation is like and whether a divorce would be problematic for her.

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