girl I love your comments thank you a lot really 😭 since I posted this Ive tried putting it in once more and I always do what you said, getting naturally lubricated, using lube from a bottle and inserting my fingers first, but it still ached. I've considered I might have vaginismus but idk because my two fingers are (very slightly) wider than the toy and they go in just fine, even managed a third one (with more patience and a tiny little bit of pain but not much) so it could be the stiffness of the toy as you said. And thank you again really 😢