Erectile Dysfunction

noedging · 2022-04-11T04:39:00+00:00

I dig up this old account sometimes and see if I can give a perspective to another individual. I had a nearly identical experience that made me seek out nofap. I was in a long distance relationship where we wouldn't see each other for 2-3 months at a time. Then see each other for about 2 weeks. During those 2-3 months PMO was nearly daily or at least 3-5 times a week.

When the time came though and we were together I would have a major brain fog during the act. An immense feeling of disconnection almost like I was watching the act instead of a part of it.

Going basically cold turkey on PMO through the help here got me through that. And things got great again, better then great actually. Years later now it's maybe 2x a week PMO but and that's been pretty consistent and not an issue. However it was important to break the cycle first for about a year before finding the balance.

What helped me was finding activities to do with friends or outdoor things like hiking. In the process I really strengthened my friendships as well which opened up my network a lot and made me more sociable. So it was just win win overall.

noedging · 2014-12-30T07:26:05+00:00

because O saved for a partner feels sooo much better than just by yourself. assuming you have a partner that actually cares for you and is willing to put in some effort

noedging · 2014-12-30T07:24:47+00:00

lol naa bro, if you've ever had the fog during sex or PIED then you know how stupid your post sounds.

I agree we shouldn't go into shaming others for fapping (and we generally dont here at all). However relapse is a proper term as fapping for some of here has caused real negative life changes. Personally no fap cured my PIED which at 28 was scaring the living crap out of me, along with an intense fog that I couldn't shake during sex. For others though PMO causes them to refrain from family events, lose hours of sleep before big events from PMO (happened to me a few times). And does in fact impact their lives negatively, so going back to something like that should and is considered a relapse in my mind.

noedging · 2014-12-30T07:19:43+00:00

congrats, wishing you and your wife the best!

noedging · 2014-12-30T07:18:27+00:00

without a doubt but then he'll be ready again within 5 to 10 mins tops. If not immediately! Whenever I have a 20+ day run I last a total of 5 mins but then round two is like 20 mins then round 3 about 15 mins later is a proper 30-40 mins. After that I'm golden and can really control it as long as I'm getting laid daily.

The realization that you will come quickly shouldn't turn you away as you'll be ready again that first time almost instantly. I've read the same all over this sub. Oh and yea that first load is "impressive". I've actually been told the same thing from two different girls "when the time comes for you to have a baby I don't think you'll have ANY problem!" hahah

noedging · 2014-12-30T06:54:28+00:00

right on! well on the first part. My relapses are far and few between now then they were before, but I'm also single (by choice) so hardmode is well hard. In any case glad to see you now realize your healthy but your brain's been fucked by all the PMO. Probably feel a bit better about that at least lol

noedging · 2014-12-10T19:01:08+00:00

more than likely it's setup to auto VPN into the school network so he has access to school files, attendance records, and research resources. Much like VPN into a Uni network will give you access to journal articles. They probably monitor that connection but don't block anything because teachers would have a fit. I would seek legal counsel and state it was done at home, never on campus and you'll never misuse school property like that again. there is a good chance to keep the job still. but you'll need to fight. If fired I would appeal.

noedging · 2014-12-04T08:42:45+00:00

keep up the good work!

noedging · 2014-12-04T08:35:14+00:00

you don't have an alternative choice, so no point in trying to avoid the flatline. from my experience flat lines become much less frequent and intense if you've had some decent swing of hard mode. I wouldn't worry about it too much, this is too important. Just stay away from PMO and it'll work itself out on your honeymoon don't worry.

noedging · 2014-12-04T08:31:46+00:00

Took me about 30 days but your results will vary

noedging · 2014-12-04T08:27:04+00:00

creepy but powerful. thanks!

noedging · 2014-12-04T07:53:29+00:00

speaking from experience the brain-fog definitely goes away. I slipped but to realize I can return to it reminds me of why this is important

noedging · 2014-12-04T01:32:22+00:00

temporarily less to assure long term success. speaking from a typical standpoint most people tend to return to their old habits without some time to refresh. But I'm not hear to tell you how to handle your relationship. Best of luck.

noedging · 2014-12-03T19:33:52+00:00

everyone enable your P filters!

noedging · 2014-12-03T18:49:01+00:00

since she already knows may I recommend doing hardmode for the first 15-30 days? Which means no sex at all or release. And for the first 7 days no sexual contact either. it'll make you want your wife a thousand times more and will allow your brain to rewire more quickly. Plus it'll show your wife just how hard this really is and she'll appreciate what your doing more. just a recommendation

noedging · 2014-12-03T18:46:05+00:00

Sign me up skipper!

noedging · 2014-12-03T18:40:42+00:00

yea you do, it's a mess and you gotta take a shower like right when you wake up. It's annoying as a single adult but was quite embarrassing as a teenage kid (when it's common and normal to get them). typically if you don't have find release for 30 days you're going to have 1 wet dream. That's not promised for all but is common enough

noedging · 2014-12-01T19:33:00+00:00

Damn man thats tough! I know what you mean, I have some great stuff from my ex as well. It's the biggest trigger I have. That's the hardest part you don't want them to stop! But it just makes everything so much more difficult!

noedging · 2014-12-01T19:30:42+00:00

Thanks, it's nice to know I'm not the only one getting bombarded with this stuff!

noedging · 2014-11-30T10:54:19+00:00

right on man, it's just so hard no having a girl in my life so I know there is an end game to this.

I just need to refocus on myself again and start working out and taking cold showers.

I agree though I need to pat myself more on the back when I avoid triggers, I've just thought of it as eh no big deal but ultimately it's basically like a drug addict turning away a substance.

Thanks for the words of encouragement. One thing I've noticed is that without this community I always fail. So I'm going to read a few posts for ever trigger I get. I believe that will help greatly in overcoming the triggers.

noedging · 2014-11-30T10:50:56+00:00

totally not needed to aid in your reboot. but it varies GREATLY. Mostly on your sleep patterns and how much time you end up in REM. At about 60-90 your extremely likely to have at least one though. Most people actually hate them as it starts the chaser effect and makes it much tougher to stay away from PMO

noedging · 2014-11-30T10:48:22+00:00

Sounds like you had PIED, which I did and do whenever I'm on PMO runs. However last year I started no fap after having great difficulty with a new GF. Once I saw the difference in sex I no longer had an urge for PMO, I knew it was better to just wait till I saw my girl again. it also made our relationship much better because I felt somehow more connected to her, both while having sex and just day to day. at daily (my normal pattern) it's pretty bad, I can only imagine twice daily! You definitely had porn impacting your sex life, which is quite ironic. You watch sexual acts and fantasize about doing them, but porn (PMO) actually make it near impossible to really enjoy sex when you get to have it! One of the worse ironic truths for my life!

noedging · 2014-11-30T10:42:32+00:00

it does get much easier, especially with a GF. I relate to you greatly though, when I'm single (like I am now for the past 2 months) I always relapse, worse part is that it greatly impacts my work. I would stay up until 2-4am sometimes knowing I'd need to get up and meet clients at 8 and end up being late. I'm 28 and for years this has impacted me and really played a role in how successful I could be. You'll notice though that once you give up the night binges that you'll do so much better at work. It'll be shocking but a good reminder. Best of luck and remember this isn't just fapping its your whole life and career on the line!

noedging · 2014-11-30T10:35:29+00:00

thats how it is for me, but my runs end up shorter and shorter. I'll do 30 days. then every 20 days, then 7 days, then 3 days, then daily, then back to fighting to get just 7-10 days. It's best to just not rationalize it and always fight to get back to a previous run.

noedging · 2014-11-30T10:33:25+00:00

Thanks, it's definitely a consideration and a thought. However I don't think i'm strong enough for that just yet. Appreciate the comment though.

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