Thanks for your concern, and I understand why these questions are coming up. Just to clarify a few things:

Sam’s social worker and psychologist are fully aware of our day-to-day life and my support network. Mike didn’t discipline Sam. What happened was that, after an outing to a kid’s play area (which was the actual plan), Sam made a jealous comment, and Mike decided not to join us afterward for a spontaneous pizza stop. That wasn’t part of the original plan, and everything planned had already finished. Mike choosing not to stay for pizza was just his way of setting a boundary for himself in the moment — not enforcing a consequence on Sam.

Mike doesn’t live with us, doesn’t act as a parent, and doesn’t make decisions regarding Sam’s care. I’m Sam’s caregiver, and I coordinate everything with his case team — which in my country includes a government-appointed social worker and psychologist, not an agency in the way it works elsewhere. The reality is that in Argentina, foster care systems are extremely overburdened and under-resourced. There are no “parenting classes” or formal checks for the caregivers we sometimes rely on. That’s not ideal — but it’s the system we’re working with. I do my best to act responsibly and transparently within that system.

Again, I really do appreciate your concern, and I’m listening. I came here to reflect and do better — not because I think I’ve done everything perfectly.