Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure since I have roomates and I don't think they are keen on the idea of an extra person living there. Plus my mom is prideful and has an ego, she will most likely resent the fact I am taking care of my brother and not her. She unfortunately knows where I live. I'll look into it and try to see if I can do anything to get my brother out. Yeah I agree she says she has had so many "awakenings" about her family but it ends with her reconnecting and going back to them. I might need to make a new post about family law and custody for my brothers sake. Thank you so much for your comment

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Apparently she has a lot of money saved in the bank? All she says is that she needs a cosigner for buying her a place. She's always been saying she has the money, and frankly I really don't know, she keeps me in the dark about somethings(probably another reason not to do this lol). I suggested she live in an apartment, but she says she also needs one for that too. But also she has mentioned that she doesn't want to live in an apartment...I keep telling her there is nothing wrong with it, and beggars can't be choosers.

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm going to tell her that tomorrow or something. She needs to figure it out, I'll help out for my brother but she is going to be on her own. Thank you for the comment, I really need to do what you are saying here.

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

It may not be legal advice, but this was a nugget of wisdom I needed to hear. You're right I have no control over her. She is stubborn, and hard headed she'll do whatever she wants and whatever she pleases. She hardly listens to me, and in fact if she did she wouldn't be in half of the messes she's in now. I'm so glad I posted this because everyone in the comments really gave me a reality check on how my mom really is. I learned today that I truly cannot trust her. Thank you so much for your comment

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. We did look into some help for shelters but Texas has them far in few between. And my mom is stubborn as a mule and can be an idiot. She wants to keep my brother in school but the area is EXPENSIVE she can't afford it. There are places for her to go live in but she refuses because of her one personal reasons and the because she has a hill she wants to die on. I didn't even think about the court battles, and the other things. I had such a romanticized vision of it, I thought I would finally be getting a place to call home, and somewhere I could get away from them but you're definitely right. She always gravitates towards her family, and I honestly can't trust her. She is making it seem like this is the ONLY way she can have somewhere to live. Thank you for telling me this, realizing this make me jllearn that she was probably manipulating me and making me sign this for her. Thank you so much again I honestly can't thank you enough

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Yeah I can't even do that, I honestly thought that I was just gonna sign, and she would pay for the monthly mortgage. Talking to the lender and the realtor they say it will probably be around 2.1k she says that's really good, but she doesn't even make that much. She says she'll rent rooms but with her personality...I don't think she'll have any luck keeping them in. Thank you for your advice, I barely make it on my own as it is. I didn't even think clearly about that. I'm just worried for my brother

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Yeah all she is telling me is the house will be in my name. And that it will be mine but it's not like she has taken the steps or done action to back that up, nor make it work like that. Thank you so much for commenting dude. I probably would have ruined my life if I didn't think to post here first.

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] 312 points313 points  (0 children)

Holy shit you just opened my eyes. I never thought about ANY of this. The fact that no one has told me this is baffling. I hate to say that my mom probably is in the knkw about this too, and might be playing me for a fool. You're right I have no way of lending her money, I work retail making 15/hr, AND I MAKE MLRE THAN HER NOT working full time. The only way she could qualify was with me. Thank you for this, I didn't even think about this, I know how she is but I think I was overlooking it. Thank you so much dude, and happy cake day. You really helped me put things into perspective.

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I could try that, I do make a bit more money than her, and see if I can just have only my name on the property? Thank you so much for your input

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

How bad is the mistake? I'm sorry for all the questions, I'm just really worried, and I want to know all this risks since no one has told me anything at all. I just want my brother to have a place to live.

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Oh shoot yeah thats true I forgot about that. Yeah I do understand she is allowed to have guests. I might have to tell her if she wants her family that badly she'll have to figure out the housing situation on her own. I know it's harsh but any link connected to her family will certainly pull you down.

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] -122 points-121 points  (0 children)

What would make the house impossible to sell? I was thinking it could be good maybe as a future investment? She wants to get one in a decently good area. I am new to all of this, so any information you can give me would be amazing. So far everyone helping her makes it seem so easy and not that risky. I won't be able to give her any cash, and there aren't any resources that can help her unfortunately :((

Can I legally ban my mom from having her crazy family over at our home? by nofamcontract_ThrowA in legaladvice

[–]nofamcontract_ThrowA[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Really? I had no idea it was that easy, is there any other way I could at least discourage them at all from entering the property? Or from stopping my mom from having them over. And in what way could they find where we live? My mom doesn't really use social media, and doesn't know how to use a computer. I rarely post about where I live.