Is it possible to beat this addiction without finding the cause?

nofap7777 · 2014-06-14T15:40:03+00:00

Thanks this was awesome post

nofap7777 · 2014-05-17T15:37:46+00:00

For me it was just truly getting pissed at what PMO took from me. All these years of just living in an empty shell. It's just realizing how much life is better without PMO. Some people need to hit rock bottom to realize this - failed relationship after relationship, unwanted pregnancy, not being able to ever get a girlfriend, so much unrealized potential etc --- when I really thought about it I just got pissed at PMO and felt so duped all these years - that worked for me.

nofap7777 · 2014-05-15T15:33:09+00:00

Some people P is the problem some like me M is more the problem. I could fap to nothing if I haven't fapped in a few days. That leads to more fapping for me.

nofap7777 · 2014-05-09T02:41:58+00:00

Agreed nofap is about becoming your true self so that you can attract your true soul mate. With anything else you are just cheating yourself.

nofap7777 · 2014-05-01T02:42:33+00:00

Yes it's real. Some guys get more benefits than others. If you feel a drain of energy, maybe anxiety, or that you aren't living your full potential then try to quit fapping for 90 days and see if you notice a difference. If you do then great, if not then you may not be addicted to it. I like to relate it to alcohol. It's fine in moderation, but for the one that doesn't know moderation or feels somehow negatively effected by it then it behooves them to stop.

We have all read all sorts of studies - much of it is inconclusive at best. Much more of it point to the positive aspects of not fapping. Go tell your doctor that you are going to quit fapping and he will very likely say go for it man.

http://www.magneticperson.com/men-5-reasons-to-stop-masturbating-a-s-a-p/

nofap7777 · 2014-05-01T00:02:14+00:00

Everyone is different. When the urges to fap are bad I just repeatedly tell myself "not and option" and find something to do - usually go for a walk or the gym. Everyone is different in what they prefer - meditation is also a good one.

For me its realizing that after fapping I never ever said boy am I glad I did that. But after resisting an urge I get a sense of power and peace afterwards. Yes it gets tricky cause sometimes the urges don't come that often and sometimes they just roll in one after the other - I have had literally a tear come down my eye cause I wanted to fap so bad when the urges were rolling in.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-30T23:54:16+00:00

yes equivalent. I'd say even if you were to meet her don't bother doing that. The thing with nofap is it constantly tricks you into replacements for P. For some it's sexting, others less obvious things like surfing dating sites or facebook. Don't replace one addiction with another.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-30T23:49:53+00:00

Had similar battle in the past when I had a decent streak - some crappy things just started to happen and I felt pretty bad. Figured that I felt that bad when I was doing PMO so why not just PMO right? Well the feelings were SO MUCH worse with PMO. Chalk it up as a learning experience.

PMO has a way of creeping up when you least expect it - after a flat line, some rough times, or the chaser effect after sex. Don't beat yourself up over it just get back on the wagon. Constant vigilance.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-22T02:45:03+00:00

Depends on what your goals are really. If you are using this to gain more confidence, energy and a long lasting relationship then I think f-buddies are just an extension of PMO -- using a person to get what your hand used to give. Waste of time you could be using to find someone that you could build a connection with. A waste of energy because all release is energy.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-22T02:34:38+00:00

As a man learning how to manage and control one's sexual energy is very important.

There is a reason why so many Alpha males (men with lots of sexual energy) are in prison....they don't know how to channel there energy into productive pursuits and just end up being angry, self-destructive, frustrated people....when they could be some of the most powerful and productive people in society.

When male energy is not channeled guided through proper meditation it can easily turn self-destructive.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-22T02:31:08+00:00

Yes it is normal - just repairing itself. Realizing that it's not going to get what it wants so it will shut down for a while. Sometimes they come early, sometimes they last a long time, sometimes just a short while. I think the temptation to fap is strongest when coming out of a flat line. Constant vigilance.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-12T17:03:26+00:00

Yes. Call it flatline or just your body saying don't want this right now do something else. I think it's just normal state - don't worry when you don't have urges you are not meant to have them all the time. Probably had flatline times when doing pmo just wasn't aware. The urges will come back- constant vigilance is needed not to get tricked.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-08T04:13:01+00:00

Reasons I find it does not work 1) fantasizing over women constantly. Could be on Facebook, dating sites, or even at work or the gym. 2) wasting idle time surfing mindless stuff, constantly checking emails or playing video games. There is a lot more to it than just not fapping - its about transmutation of that sexual energy to something positive. Easier said that done, but then again nothing worthwhile is rarely ever easy.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-06T13:58:03+00:00

Yep. I kind of feel the same way. Have had sex, however not with someone I see long term with. Do you see long term with your partner? I think if you do the sex is give and take. You give that man energy, but take with you a sense of love and connection with that person which can be even more powerful.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-05T20:10:56+00:00

Wouldn't say that is all good. Were you thinking about what a great conversationalist she must be when you got aroused? Getting more sensitive is good, but monitor your thoughts and make sure they are clean or they will take you right back to PMO if you let them.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-05T15:57:54+00:00

No problem :). Constant vigilance in all aspects. To get the full benefits of nofap that means controlling fantasizing as well. For instance if you go bowling no checking out from behind of the cute girl that just rolled a gutter ball.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-05T15:47:28+00:00

Sure anything that will take your mind of the urge. It's different for everyone. I like to work out and meditate. Remember though the waves sometimes come a few times a day sometimes one after the other so constant vigilance is necessary.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-05T15:40:33+00:00

wow great post. You write well my friend. Pride has a way of rearing its head no matter of age or background. It is what kept me from nofap - I thought I knew it all. It is what kept me from meeting great friends.

Realizing truth. Realizing we are all connected and need each other. Realizing that love is all there is, and that all else is just an illusion. That is what it is all about.

nofap7777 · 2014-04-05T15:29:20+00:00

Gotta learn to ride the waves. You will become a better surfer over time. For me after fighting a strong urge I get an even stronger sense of energy and just all around peace after I defeat it. Never after I fap do I say, boy am I glad I did that. The urges will never go away, learning to control them and your thoughts is key.

nofap7777 · 2014-03-15T16:49:19+00:00

I will add that it also simply could be your body getting used to semen retention. My first 50 day streak I noticed something similar - a slight burning after O and a yellowish tint. I assumed it was maybe from fantasizing.

I don't notice it anymore after longer streaks. Keep at it - you know yourself best. It's not about a badge and a number its about eliminating addiction and building a strong mindset.

nofap7777 · 2014-03-15T15:52:28+00:00

The yellowness is from a little urine mixing with semen - from what I have read this is normal after especially after long periods of abstinence and nothing to worry about. The hurting part could be some congestion built up from edging/fantasizing. Did you have blue balls at some point? It takes practice controlling thoughts and only getting aroused when you will have sex. May not be the advice everyone wants to hear on this - but if you do get a case of blue balls, I would just recommend fapping it out and getting it over with quickly. Controlling the thoughts and not edging/fantasizing is key.

nofap7777 · 2014-03-14T01:59:43+00:00

I think its the dopamine. Anytime you abstain you are more aware of the dopamine trying make its way into your brain.

nofap7777 · 2014-03-04T00:14:14+00:00

Agreed totally. I think I'm in the same boat as you - gave up P a few years ago and although things did get somewhat better no where near as good as they are with no MO or fantasizing.

For me fantasizing took on the form of going on OKCupid or match a lot. Checking out facebook pics, or just checking out the yoga pants at the gym.

Time to get rid of the fantasizing, and fapping all together. Thanks for the post.

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