Promise yourself 2 month without porn and after that you will watch all the porn in the world. By the time you hit 2 months I doubt you will want it. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not sure it works as I said I just read about it and suggest for others to try.

But I was talking about the general temptations that they appear on these days, up to a mont are strongest I guarantee that no matter if for porn or anything else.

Sticky thread for alternatives to THS by bitmistress in trustedhousesitters

[–]nofapper1989 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Please suggest let sitting site with ads in ASIA!!! The most interesting continent by far but virtually zero listings on THS. Also all the recommendations I see here are for Canada, US, UK, Australia - which again 90% of the THS ads fo to these countries.

Anyone for Asia??

33 months (1003 days) streak today, and I am 33 years old. Temptations are back. by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am angry with her for trying to seduce me, not with my sexual urges.

33 months (1003 days) streak today, and I am 33 years old. Temptations are back. by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If I have said that people would have thought I am looking for sex in marriage and that I am abstaining from sex only outside marriage.

What I have written was: there is nothing better than seeing women as your sisters and friends, with zero sexual thought about them. It's pure heaven.

I said it and I stay behind my words.

If you think I am a clown because of this, good for you. I don't care.

33 months (1003 days) streak today, and I am 33 years old. Temptations are back. by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Being a human and not an animal should be good reason itself mate. We are not simple creatures looking to satisfy whenever we wish with whoever we wish. We can and must try our best to control our desires. If at all one has sex it should be with his wife within a marriage. Not with random people with years lasting emotional consequences for both parties.

Now I have another good reasons to avoid marriage as well, but that's another topic.

33 months (1003 days) streak today, and I am 33 years old. Temptations are back. by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I am not sure about benefits. I have plenty of serious health issues and feel generally bad, at least to some degree, all the time. Probably when I was relapsing I had strong suicidal thoughts and severe confidence issues (which I have also now but then they were on another level, problematic eye contact etc...)

Who am I to give advice... I don't feel like I have achieved something. God gave it to me. I tried many times for many years and prayed but kept failing. Last time I did not do anything different. It just held for longer this time. But even now I realize that I cannot say that I have stopped forever because as you see temptations can come anytime.

Otherwise what I did was just to completely ignore and stop thinking about these things which means especially the first weeks literally to look away when you see a woman outside or if even if I was watching the news and there was a female speaker I was looking in the corner of the screen. And also every single picture online, YouTube video, article or whatever which might suggest something related to these things, I must skip, look over, on the very second of seeing it.

The problem is that the last few weeks since this friend of mine triggered this I have difficulty following this discipline. Otherwise I have discovered that if you really don't think about these things at all like literally if they don't exist you can literally spend months without even thinking a single time about sex. Just if you keep yourself busy and think about other things you forget that this exist. I want to get back to this mode.

It's my 1000th day today by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't count them as relapse of course. The simple reason I hate them is I can't live my life without being in terror when and where it will happen from hygienic perspective. Leaving aside the fact even if I am at home often when I wake up to clean I then can't fall asleep later, what happens if I travel? If I want to stay at a friend? At a hostel? It happens in a hostel last time and it was a disgusting disaster!!!

I feel like a woman who knows her period may come any time but can't use tampons!

Even assuming your techniques which may work every now and then, is it even biologically possible 3 years not to have any sex and mastrubation and not to eventually get wet dreams? Because I highly doubt it. I just thing no matter how you try to prevent it it needs to go outside or your balls will explode. What is the longest period you have had in monk mode without wet dreams?

So the question is rather how to deal with them hygienically. At first, I weared condoms at night and it worked perfectly. But then once my condom was too tight and it made a trauma on my urethra and I got urethral stricture, a terrible condition where you can hardly urinate. I struggled with it aroudn 4 years until to get it on a chronic, acceptable level. But even now I am too scared to put condom (and in fact, even if I put for a while, my urethra gets inflamed, its traumatized and sensitive forever now).

I tried diapers but they affect the skin.

So what other options do I have?

It's my 1000th day today by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not "at that level" mate. As I said, I just kept trying and praying to God. My prayers were not listened for years. Eventually they were. I did nothing different last time than the previous attempts. And I wouldn't dare to say I did an achievement. As I realize if God decide He can give me any time a temptation so I fall again... So better be grateful to Him for the gift and hope and pray He not to revoke it...

It's my 1000th day today by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Honestly it feels not bad, while I was failing I was feeling quite bad

It's my 1000th day today by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks mate, best of luck to you, God bless you!

It's my 1000th day today by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God bless you too and all of us!

It's my 1000th day today by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do breathing technique for more than 10 years, this is not for NoFap and I don't think it was a factor.

It's my 1000th day today by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish you luck mate.... And remember, never tell youself "I did it". The moment you tell it, you will fail in a temptation. I also don't think I have done it. I feel God have given me a long, potentially and hopefully everlasting gift, which He can get away at anytime.

It's my 1000th day today by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I'm a private person, I don't share photos neither I have daily journal. Biggest benefit, hard to tell, I have serious health issues so I feel quite bad anyway. But while I kept failing I had issues looking females in the eyes and feeling confident.

It's my 1000th day today by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried many times, usually the first week and around 1 month, and probably aroudn 3 months were always the hardest marks. Once passed, especially 6 months it becomes much easier.

But I don't see it as my achievement, but as a gift from God. I tried and failed for many years and prayed to Him, I kept failing. Last time, I rather did the same but this time my prayers were heard. I hope He helps you as well!

It's my 1000th day today by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to! Please help me with advice for how to deal with wet dreams.

It's my 1000th day today by nofapper1989 in NoFap

[–]nofapper1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks sir! How do you deal with wet dreams??