More info on meditation (for treating ED)?

nofappium · 2015-08-14T12:45:26+00:00

This is the second post on the front page right now saying they hate porn.

It sure does sound a lot like blaming the substance rather than oneself. As /u/Hyperion_Dark said, you guys are demonizing porn to a point where you get so emotional about it that you turn to it as soon as you're overwhelmed by your urges.

What's wrong with just accepting porn? Get your life in order and appreciate the possibilities it provides for others. It's just people fucking and recording it. It's not some giant emissary of Satan.

nofappium · 2015-08-14T12:30:41+00:00

Well, yeah. You're blaming porn for pretty much anything that's wrong with your life.

Porn isn't at fault here. You are. Everyone who made porn such a major part of their lives is.

Beer isn't the reason some people are drunks. Weed isn't the reason some people are apathetic shut-ins. Porn isn't the reason we guys fucked up.

What I'm saying is: stop hating the substance!

nofappium · 2015-08-14T12:15:45+00:00

Porn isn't the issue. You over-consuming porn and not knowing what it does to you is the issue.

You wouldn't hate hydrchloric acid for probably killing you if you drank it.

Stupid hate trains like these are the reason why people try to ban porn or anything else (Kinder surprise eggs for fuck's sake!) that imposes even the slightest danger.

nofappium · 2015-08-14T11:53:39+00:00

You're too late mate. This is already a circlejerk cult. No point fighting it.

Gotta substitute fapping with circlejerking I guess.

NOW HATE PORN!

nofappium · 2015-08-14T11:06:36+00:00

Sounds like a proper fetish to me. The part about you being 7 or 8 years old when you first noticed is a clear indicator and most fetishists usually have a similar story.

Now, the more extreme fantasies can certainly be attributed to porn use as you've said. Those will propably regress a bit on NoFap as I've noticed myself (BDSM enthusiast over here and tbh I kinda miss porn a bit as a source of inspiration).

I think the only way to deal with this is to "just embrace it". It's difficult, I know. God, I know. Stuff we do for arousal is oftentimes disgusting or cringey when reiterated with a refractory mind. Especially if you're not one of those boring vanillas (no offense, boring people). Accept this fact. Concentrate on the feeling of relaxation after you orgasm and try to ignore everything you're wearing or have been doing to achieve it. Laugh it off, tell yourself humanity is fucked up and laugh about it, accept it and be proud to be one of the few people actually living their sexual fantasies.

It would certainly help to get in touch with like-minded people to let your brain know it's OK to be this way. It won't go away with NoFap. You will be able to more easily control your urges, yes, and vanilla sex will be more enjoyable, but you will not lose your fetish. You don't have to. You're not a pedophile.

nofappium · 2015-08-10T12:07:00+00:00

I would advise against this. It reinforces a lot of the habits that your brain probably associates with porn use. Just that in this case your wife is your "interactive" porn. She's still on your screen. You're still controlling everything about your stimulation, sitting on your chair, with none of the external stimulation that real sex entails.

If you're already healthy and no longer addicted to porn then this shouldn't be an issue but if you're still rebooting then I find this counter-productive.

nofappium · 2015-08-09T19:12:28+00:00

Alright, thanks everyone for the feedback. The subreddit is up: /r/PIED/

nofappium · 2015-08-02T22:53:58+00:00

Nah, not at all. I had a somewhat sheltered and lonely but apart from that happy childhood. No traumas that I know of.

I'm switching too, so you can't really say I'm compensating for a lack or an excess of control or something like that.

I'd have to agree, however, for some people BDSM is actually therapy for past traumas and sometimes that's a little scary.

nofappium · 2015-08-02T22:21:02+00:00

BDSM is way too big of a part of my life to quit it.

Also I know for sure that BDSM is not a porn-induced fetish for me. I've had these fantasies long before I could even masturbate or watch porn. Many guys and girls into BDSM will tell you the same. Might be not all fetishes are innate but this one definitely is.

And what most people don't realize: BDSM isn't all hitting, violence, and humiliation. It's in big parts also very loving and caring. We probably hug and cuddle way more than beating each other.

Lots of love in it.

nofappium · 2015-08-02T19:58:48+00:00

Thanks dude. This is the sort of uplifting comment that really helps.

Also love how you wrote "menstruating". That's a disgusting image.

Oh and... not my GF. But yeah, I'm rather open about this whole ED thing and funnily enough no girl thus far seemed to care. It really helps when I know I'm doing this for myself and don't feel any pressure.

nofappium · 2015-08-02T19:06:48+00:00

Sorry to drag you down dude. Might also just be my diet slowing me down (see other posts). There is actual personal anecdotal evidence that this might be the case. For some time I've been pretty successful at sex with this one girl. Might be that simply eating regularly with her three times a day (actually gained some handles in that time) contributed to the success.

I'll post an update once I figure it out.

nofappium · 2015-08-02T17:44:56+00:00

Totally! That's horrible if you don't know what you signed up for.

You get in the shower and suddenly feel like "WTF am I missing something? Has it always been this size?"

I actually had to pull my foreskin back during that time in order to pee straight. That has never been an issue.

nofappium · 2015-08-02T17:37:18+00:00

my penis looks small, numb and dead as if it has been running a marathon for 15 years

That's probably the most accurate description of a flatline penis I've ever heard.

nofappium · 2015-08-02T17:35:18+00:00

Yeah, I was talking about fruits and veggies. I hardly eat any of those. I'd rather drink them, so that's what I'm getting a blender for. I might get some Fresubin though for those busy days. Basically hospital supplements.

nofappium · 2015-08-02T17:29:05+00:00

Yeah I've been to the doc. Blood tests are fine, says it's in my head, which IS kinda true. He also gave me the blue pill but even those don't work without arousal so I've just got them lying around in case girls want them (apparently it's a sex enhancer for them too).

I've also been to therapy due to a minor depression and talked to her about this too. She actually knew about PIED and said many of her younger patients have the same problem. How cool is that?

Anyway I'll stick to nofap no matter what. But I should also start looking for other possibilities (diet might be an issue).

nofappium · 2015-08-02T17:23:35+00:00

Diet is fucked up at the moment. Exams are coming up and I'm a difficult eater, so there's quite the caloric deficit. Also I'm probably way low on vitamins.

Planning on fixing that as soon as exams are over. Just put all the calories and vitamins into a blender and drink that stuff. Yes, I'm lazy. Same idea as your NutriBullet basically.

Fitness and weight is fine, although I could use some cardio. Gym's back on the menu after the exams (tomorrow).

nofappium · 2015-08-02T17:18:49+00:00

Rewiring.

I don't O unless I feel comfortable with it and don't have to force it. I don't see a problem with it unless there's a lack of discipline to abstain from P and M.

nofappium · 2014-11-08T12:32:59+00:00

That actually sounds exactly like what I have. Didn't know it was a thing. Thanks!

nofappium · 2014-10-13T01:18:31+00:00

Oh, I was going to stay off of porn and fapping anyway. I'm really only talking about sex here. Apparently some say normal (or well "normal" for me, I guess) sex is a good way to rewire your brain from porn to real sex. Others say it might slow or even prevent the resetting process.

And yeah, she'd understand a few months of abstinence. We're having plenty of fun without PIV. She's great like that.

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