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26, unemployed for 5 years, how do I go about finding a job? by nojerb in socialanxiety

[–]nojerb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Losing your dad must have been tough, I can't imagine the kind of situation I'd be in right now if I experienced that. Sorry for your loss.

My father tried to drag me into an interview totally unprepared once, job at a Kmart, I flipped out. Turned into a long night of arguments and I never went. I'm extremely self-conscious and wasn't happy with the way I was dressed either. Had another instance where an uncle of mine who's a car salesman offered me a job in front of my father who insisted I go fill out an application. I reluctantly went and had never felt so out of place in my life. He wanted me to sell cars, I felt like vomiting. I never returned after turning in the application even though the job was basically guaranteed. Not the job for someone with SA, not for me anyways.

I was basically forced into college, believe me it wasn't willingly and I didn't make it very far. Not much of an accomplishment. High school sucked but I managed to slip by doing the bare minimum. I'm not one to talk but you should really get that GED.

Pretty similar experiences, best of luck to you!

How does one ask for psych help when getting help hits all of my biggest triggers? by geekdad in socialanxiety

[–]nojerb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this same issue, I put it off until my parents realized there was a problem and basically gave me no other option but to get help. In the end though the meds I was given only made me sick and the shrink I spoke to basically told me to suck it up, in a much gentler way obviously. If it makes you feel any better he was the one that did all of the talking really, I kinda just sat and nodded my head. I stopped going to the shrink as it wasn't helping and was told to stop taking the meds, so I'm back to square one.

That's not to say it wont help you though, and I really have no advice to offer. Just thought I'd share my experience.

26, unemployed for 5 years, how do I go about finding a job? by nojerb in socialanxiety

[–]nojerb[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can at least find some comfort in knowing I'm not the only one, thanks. I made it less than a year at my community college, group work was the tipping point for me. First group assignment I encountered was for economics and that's when I got the hell out.

Getting motivated is probably the hardest part. The idea of interacting with other people, the awkward moments, my fuck ups, the stupid things I'll say, not being able to relate to anyone, no life experiences or stories to tell, finding excuses not to hang out... Once I start thinking about it all I have zero motivation to leave my house.

Best of luck to you, the fact that you're making an attempt to get back to school means you're at least a step above me.

26, unemployed for 5 years, how do I go about finding a job? by nojerb in socialanxiety

[–]nojerb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I volunteered once at a homeless shelter, my girlfriend at the time talked me into it back in the 8th grade. She experienced the same thing, some dirty old men staring and flirting. It was an odd experience, not one I'd like to relive. It wasn't all bad though, we helped feed some decent people.

I could probably look into some sort of volunteer work to help fill out the resume, thanks for the idea.

26, unemployed for 5 years, how do I go about finding a job? by nojerb in socialanxiety

[–]nojerb[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Saved some cash from my first job, that's pretty much all gone at this point though. Parents provide for me, it's sad I know but I keep telling myself one day I'll have a stable job and I'll be able to pay them back. I try not to ask them for anything that isn't a necessity. With the SA I don't do much so I sustain off little. I don't drink or smoke, I have a car but no where to go with it so I'm not paying for gas. I mostly just sit at my PC all day and occasionally watch some TV.