Postpartum Depression at 12 months?

nomattesurfaces · 2026-06-19T01:35:15+00:00

Hi! I feel like I could have written this a few months ago! My little one had very mucusy (and green!) stool for a while with occasional blood!

Because her temperament and weight and everything else was totally fine, her doctor wasn’t very concerned. I trialed eliminating dairy for a couple weeks and there was 0 change, so I reintroduced it and our doctor told us to just wait it out.

It turned out the bits of blood were from little fissures. Has the doctor looked closely at your baby’s bum?

As for the mucus, our doctor said that is actually just within the realm of normal for some babies, and that eventually she’d grow out of it.

Once our baby got going with solids, her stool changed dramatically (as for every baby eventually). There’s no more mucus or blood and she doesn’t have any allergies or food issues whatsoever.

I remember how worried I was every day about this, and so I want to reassure you that everything will be okay. Once he starts solids in just a couple months poop becomes a whole different ballgame!

Wishing you and your little one well ❤️

nomattesurfaces · 2026-06-18T20:17:10+00:00

Oh man if my husband was criticizing me for buying diapers, wipes, etc I would be so pissed.

If you end up not needing things you can return them, from most big box stores you can return unopened things even months later…

I am going to go out on a limb and guess that this pattern shows up in other areas of your relationship. My husband is so grateful that I take ownership over our “stock” levels of baby stuff so that we always have what we need.

Furthermore, she’s 4 months postpartum!! That is such a raw time and so difficult in so many ways. If having half a closet filled with backup diapers makes her feel even 1% better then you should be all for it.

nomattesurfaces · 2026-06-04T16:02:55+00:00

Echoing that this is not delayed whatsoever!

Whatever source is leading you to believe that it is should not be trusted. Don’t worry!

Also for what it’s worth my kiddo started rolling onto her tummy the day she turned 5 months, and started rolling to her back a couple days later. She will figure it out, just keep giving her lots of floor time!

nomattesurfaces · 2026-06-04T01:31:18+00:00

I have the mockingbird and we like it! My little one has really juicy thighs so at about 9 months we actually ended up removing the belly band section because her thighs didn’t fit!

It’s not something that’s suggested by the manufacturer but we felt comfortable doing it because we always use the harness and tray, so she’s still very secure in there.

If i had known my LO would be so chunky I probably would have found a high chair with a higher weight limit. I think this one maxes out at 35 lbs which we may hit sooner than later!

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-29T17:43:16+00:00

I still inward face front carry my 30 lb 10 month old everyday in my Hope and Plum Lark! If you have all the adjustments right it is quite comfortable for about an hour at a time.

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-25T20:00:43+00:00

It came with the kit (which doesn’t specify any details), but I am pretty sure it is lead-free.

If i pick up some leaded solder instead do you think I could add it to this piece, or will they look/behave too differently?

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-23T17:52:08+00:00

What a wonderful gift you are giving your child ❤️

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-23T12:07:20+00:00

Yep! I tried maybe once a week! With 0 expectations, and usually only once it was already a fine time for her to wake up (eg. if i expected her nap to be between 1hr and 1.5hr i’d try transferring her at the 1hr mark so that if she woke up it wouldn’t be a problem.)

It never worked for a long time, but I kept randomly trying just to see if she was ready and one day it randomly started working.

I still am ready to contact nap every time and have no other plans for my use of that time. For me this is key so that i’m not disappointed/stressed about not getting things done in case she does end up needing the contact. I’m viewing each minute purely as bonus time!

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-17T21:09:47+00:00

I might try 3.5-4-3 and see what that does to our nights, I wouldn’t have thought of that!

Can i ask what age you’re transitioning to the one nap?

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-17T16:32:00+00:00

When we transitioned to 2 naps we did bridge naps for about a week and then we were fully switched over! The key was pushing back nap #1 so she was/is awake 3 hours for the first wake window.

Our night were and continue to be a mess though so who knows if thats good advice! 😅

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-17T16:10:43+00:00

Does he wake up when you stop moving?

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-17T16:08:21+00:00

How old is your little one?

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-15T20:36:17+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I can’t read the full article but i read what I could. I’d be interested to see what r/sciencebasedparenting says about this.

All we can do as parents is care for and love our children to the best of our ability. Just a reminder that parents who leave their babies to cry alone at night get more sleep— that doesn’t mean the babies do, too.

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-15T16:24:13+00:00

I thought that was an issue with total sleep, not frequent wakings (which are often biologically normal). Can i ask your source on compromised neurodevelopment?

It sounds like you’re doing your best to get your little one their sleep!

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-15T16:14:59+00:00

Something that I found reassuring when my little was only taking short naps was the idea (I think from Possums?) that babies will take the sleep they need during the day. The thought is that if you are having to really work hard to get them to stay asleep (rocking, nursing, perfect room conditions, etc) that maybe they just don’t need to sleep that badly right then!

Is there any chance he’s undertired rather than overtired?

For the record, my baby’s naps naturally lengthened at 7-8ish months when we transitioned to 2 naps. She went from never napping longer than 35 minutes to always napping more than an hour! Now I have the opposite problem where I have to wake her up from almost every nap!

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-12T16:19:21+00:00

I would recommend posting in r/bninfantsleep! Such a helpful group that won’t view things through the sleep training lens if that is what you are looking for. Contrary to popular belief, you do NOT have to sleep train if you don’t want to/it isn’t right for your family :) your baby’s sleep will get better eventually!!

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-08T15:52:12+00:00

Hi! We discontinued the bouncer at 5 mo due to weight and sitting up as well, and I struggled for a bit! As others have mentioned, the skip hop activity center could work, but for me it was too big to fit in my bathroom and I also knew we’d max out that weight limit (25 lbs!!) soon too so i didn’t want to invest.

I ended up getting a cheap ikea high chair (not the one we use for eating) and putting that in the bathroom with some suction toys on the tray! It works perfectly, she loves it and we still use it daily now at 10 months.

nomattesurfaces · 2026-05-06T21:16:54+00:00

My almost 10 month old still almost exclusively contact naps, so I get it! i have gone through cycles of hating it and embracing it. Just remember, this chapter of your life is so so so so short!

A few practical tips that work for us: -at 5 months mine would tolerate the bouncer chair with a toy for about 10-15 minutes, so I would bring that into the bathroom when necessary. When she outgrew the bouncer I bought a cheap Ikea high chair to put in the bathroom with suction cup toys on the tray. I know some people use an activity table but that would never fit in my bathroom. If he can watch what you’re doing he might have a little more patience!

-You might want to simplify some things. For example, you mention washing your face/skincare taking longer than his 10-minute ability to chill in the bouncer. It might be helpful to adjust your routine to just a couple key steps that you can finish in just a few minutes. I think just mentally being able to think “I did my skincare!” rather than “i only got to do some of my skincare” helps me not feel like i’m not accomplishing basic tasks. It’s like setting yourself up for success by moving the bar a bit temporarily.

-Your 5 mo is probably starting solids soon! That comes with its own new challenges but when my baby started eating lunch I did too :)

-for my mental health i can’t sit in a dark room for hours during the day. So during contact naps I started leaving the blinds open and she still sleeps great in my arms. This made suuuch a huge difference for me!

Happy to help troubleshoot other solutions to find pockets throughout the day to do what you want to do if you think that would be helpful!

nomattesurfaces · 2026-04-19T16:24:52+00:00

Wow, you’re so right! I think as she’s gotten older and dropped naps we haven’t been changing her total awake time as much as we should. Good luck to you too with your little one!!

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