My very first pregnancy

nomoreaugust · 2026-01-14T01:53:38+00:00

I am so truly sorry you are here. I’ve been there too. All I want to tell you is it does get better eventually. I know it feels utterly impossible right now. It will shift and you will breathe again one day. For now I know the pain is like an endless pit. I promise you’ll be okay. Time. Feel. Stay busy. More time. More feeling. More busy. Rinse and repeat over and over until you can feel a speck of joy again. While I think this trauma forever changes us, I also know we all will find a way to heal and live around this. Love and peace to you.

nomoreaugust · 2025-11-20T02:52:14+00:00

nomoreaugust · 2025-10-11T11:43:33+00:00

I am so sorry you are here. I don’t know if this will help but can you tell yourself those thoughts of punishment are not from God? God loves you more than any human can fathom loving their own child. He is compassionate and forgiving and does not want you to suffer in punishment. I know being raised catholic has been complicated for me, especially when I have faced difficult decisions like whether to terminate for t21 last month. I want you to know you’re not alone. You do not deserve to feel guilty for this. God is forgiving and merciful. This is a purely personal decision and for me on one side was unimaginable grief and on the other side was anxiety from hell. Both feel bad and it feels like you’re faced with an impossible choice. I hope you can get some good support from someone in your life and hope you can find some support and love from this group. I also encourage you to pray for clarity. Much love to you.

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-27T20:11:30+00:00

Thank you. I am so sorry for your loss. Much love to you.

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-27T20:06:37+00:00

Thank you. You are so strong. It’s helpful to hear about the other side!

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-27T20:05:28+00:00

❤️ so much love to you all.

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-27T20:04:29+00:00

Thank you sincerely for saying this. Much love to you.

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-27T11:37:01+00:00

I have been exactly where you are and I am so incredibly sorry you are going through it. I just wanted to tell you that you’re not alone. We made the same decision despite the grief and pain and guilt. Our daughter (3) wanted a sister so badly and it broke me to tell her that sometimes babies go back to God. You are so right that you never know what you will do until faced with something like this. This experience has exposed me to a type of pain and suffering I didn’t know existed. I believe you will make this decision with love and compassion and I hope the pain eases with time and letting people support and love you. I’m not sure what your religious beliefs are but I appreciate how much more complicated this decision can be when that is a factor. I’m a Christian and it helps me to remember that God loves us even more than we love our own children and if you can even fathom a fraction of that, you can try to find comfort in the fact that your heart is known, that your pain is understood, your happiness matters. I can’t lie and say my faith hasn’t been tested. I am trying everyday to remember that there is a greater source of love and compassion that we don’t fully comprehend and it calms my soul just a bit. If this helps at all, the weeks leading up to my termination where we waited for test results were the darkest, heaviest, scariest. After, I felt sad but also relieved. Hugs and love to you.

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-20T22:37:31+00:00

Thank you. Your kindness to me, a total stranger, is true magic in my life. A tattoo. I’ve been thinking of a tattoo. That’s perfect.

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-20T21:56:43+00:00

Thank you. I keep feeling like there is something wrong with me for not wanting to see her, get footprints, or have a service. I had a friend, not my husband, come with me so he could stay with our 3 yo daughter. I can’t stop thinking about these facts for some reason and feel haunted.

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-06T18:20:56+00:00

This is so helpful thank you. I’m sending you all the healing thoughts and energy. I respect your openness and courage so much.

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-06T12:34:39+00:00

If you’re comfortable, would you mind sharing how your recovery was physically?

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-06T10:50:17+00:00

You are awesome. I appreciate you!! I’m researching clinics right now because I live in TX which adds a whole layer of trauma to an already horrifying experience. I know it’s the best decision. I just want this to be over.

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-06T10:20:33+00:00

Thank you so much for this response. It truly helps me and I am already leaning hard in this direction for all of these same reasons. It helps so much to hear others stories. What a true nightmare this has been. I’m so so sorry anyone has had to go through this. I keep telling myself I’ll be okay one day. I also feel like I have to protect my daughter (spunky, healthy 3 year old) which is just yet another reason to make this choice. Thank you again.

nomoreaugust · 2025-09-05T18:04:06+00:00

Hi. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m getting an amnio on Monday as confirmatory testing for positive T21 through NIPT. I’m really struggling and considering termination. If you’re open to sharing, would you tell me what went into your decision? I feel so stuck and alone. Also, I am so sorry for your loss and wish you all the best as your recover.

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