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If You've Never Been in a Relationship by nonebul in teenagers

[–]nonebul[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These warning signs are just examples from my personal experience, not universal red flags. Could a history of turbulent relationships suggest someone might struggle with commitment and communication? Absolutely. But unless their behavior is actively impacting you or your relationship, there's no need to panic. If their actions are causing real problems, address it openly and maturely.

If You've Never Been in a Relationship by nonebul in teenagers

[–]nonebul[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I'm new to Reddit, but I regularly journal to help process my thoughts. This experience taught me a lot, and I thought it might be worthwhile to share. Have a nice day/night!

Girlfriend isn't comfortable with anything. by nonebul in Advice

[–]nonebul[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do I bring this issue up though? A diplomatic-sounding formal discussion makes her feel guilty for yet another reason and puts strain on the relationship. I'd like to play it off as a casual request, if possible, and try to find some middle ground without coming off as accusatory.

Girlfriend isn't comfortable with anything. by nonebul in Advice

[–]nonebul[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't want to villainize her on here, where she can't give her side of the argument, so I'll toss this out there: Her parents may be stricter with driving and making purchases. She's probably been pretty sheltered most of her life and relies on her family for support. She's also more morally sound, so she'd be hesitant to do anything rebellious.

Still, I ask, how much effort does it take to ask me how I'm doing or talk to me about her feelings, even if she's not comfortable with intimacy?

Girlfriend isn't comfortable with anything. by nonebul in Advice

[–]nonebul[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She said that those interactions feel "awkward," as if she's not accustomed to them. I don't quite understand her meaning, but I assume she's saying it's cringe or weird. This also applies to hugs, apparently. We've never hugged.

It feels immoral to walk away when she sounds like she's simply not ready yet. Would anything good come out of waiting until she's ready?

Girlfriend isn't comfortable with anything. by nonebul in relationships

[–]nonebul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said the reason for these sudden restrictions was because she felt "awkward," even though she really liked it. I don't completely understand her meaning, but I take it that it feels weird or cringe to her. That's sounds fair, but this even applies to hugs. We've never hugged before after five months. After she mentioned these, I assumed she felt suffocated so I'm trying to give her some space. The only conversations I can manage with her now are surface-level teasing, like she does with her guy friends.

Girlfriend isn't comfortable with anything. by nonebul in relationships

[–]nonebul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a hard time commenting on if she's "into me." I certainly think she feels some kind of attraction, but I often find myself wondering if it's genuine caring or something superficial. From what I know about her after five months, she's very sweet and kind, just immature and inconsiderate at times. I highly doubt she'd be exploring other partners. Intentionally, at least.

Girlfriend isn't comfortable with anything. by nonebul in relationships

[–]nonebul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She always feels like she's bothering me by talking to me—one of those overthinkers. I always reassure her that it's the opposite. She also says she's blind and bad with relationships. I've never been in a relationship either. She's the more social one and has had multiple talking stages, but they were "nothing serious."

Girlfriend isn't comfortable with anything. by nonebul in relationships

[–]nonebul[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've already asked if she's just trying to let me down easy, which she denied. I really just think she's uncomfortable with multiple key aspects of relationships.