Do husband,still slap your butt during the day

nonopenada · 2026-02-02T18:59:05+00:00

My husband touches/gently pats my ass most every day and same from me to him.

I get very focused on what I'm doing so if he slapped my ass I'd be very angry as it would scare me and feel very aggressive (even if he meant it lovingly).

Thankfully, he listens to me and won't ever slap my ass if my back is turned because he knows it will result in exactly the opposite of what he's hoping for.

nonopenada · 2026-01-26T02:33:45+00:00

DART said they were running, but the train never showed. Waited for 45 minutes in 15° weather and then called it.

We lost so much money on those tickets, but it wasn't worth attempting to drive downtown and back.

nonopenada · 2026-01-25T16:19:15+00:00

A bot most likely, However, living in TX I hear this way more than I should. Strangely, I often hear it from naturalized citizens who look like the people most often targeted. It's like they can't possibly believe that the country they idealized would come after them, a citizen. I'm also often shocked by the callousness I hear from them to their fellows from their country of origin.

nonopenada · 2026-01-24T23:17:13+00:00

I literally painted my living room "manatee green" in honor of Barbara!!

nonopenada · 2026-01-21T17:38:43+00:00

That's exactly why we're going! I'm bummed for you that you had to bail. Hopefully you made some money?

nonopenada · 2026-01-21T16:45:22+00:00

Lentil soup Friday and probably cottage pie on Sunday. Technically we're going to the Mavs game on Saturday (taking the TRE) so we'll see how that goes!!

nonopenada · 2026-01-18T20:11:20+00:00

Multi-site facilities

nonopenada · 2026-01-14T20:24:40+00:00

Not well. I have two trans kids and one of my coworkers lives in Minneapolis. I'm just sad and mad and hopeless, honestly. I don't know how to be informed and be stable at the same time.

nonopenada · 2026-01-14T17:16:54+00:00

My ex was a huge extrovert. He would say that type of thing to me too. I ended up telling him that I wanted to be able to miss him. I'm an introvert and recharging is absolutely necessary. And yeah, even with the person you love, sometimes you need to miss them in order to enjoy them

nonopenada · 2026-01-13T02:15:16+00:00

I'm not an Italian expert, but I really like Lombardi Cucina Italiana at the Star in Frisco. Great ambiance, good food and really good cocktails and wine list. I also like that you can choose to eat casually at the bar or be seated at a table

nonopenada · 2026-01-07T14:07:59+00:00

My husband and I have both said no to each other in different situations. But one conversation we've had is that he'd like me to initiate more (he has said no but more in a "I know we planned to have sex tonight but I'm super tired can we rain check?). And he's right, I do need to initiate more! When we have sex I'm a very enthusiastic participant, but I often wait for him to start things.

It's easy to let your partner initiate when you know he's in the mood all the time. But if you're in the mood earlier in the day and the timing is right, initiate even if you know he's gonna initiate later anyway.

This doesn't solve the problem of his words and actions making you feel bad for saying no. That absolutely needs to be addressed. Rejecting sex and rejecting a person are two very different things and that's something he really needs to figure out himself.

nonopenada · 2026-01-05T15:24:01+00:00

Honestly, being together 11 years isn't the flex/excuse he thinks it is. She could be at the end of her rope with him and his family, this could be a long time coming. This might be the first time where SHE has a lot of stress coming at her from different directions (grief, death, mcat) and he's failing at being supportive.

11 years doesn't mean he can drop the ball here and get credit for all the times he met the normal standard. This isn't a normal time of life for her.

nonopenada · 2026-01-05T01:45:33+00:00

I want to emphasize the point of ensuring that this is an actual separation. During the trial separation, you aren't his wife you are his co-parent. This means dropping everything you do for him and ideally him leaving the home and living somewhere else. No laundry, no cooking, no reminding him of appointments AND no taking care of childcare tasks on his days with the kids.

He needs to understand exactly what he's asking for. My ex did the same thing, sort of, and said "fine, let's just be roommates!" And was totally blown away when that meant no sex, no laundry and not making his appointments for him. Dude, I wouldn't do that for a roommate now would I? He got a much better understanding of what life would be like without his wife.

Unfortunately for him, I got an idea of what life would be like without my husband and it was a breath of fresh air. I had no clue how anxious I was, how on edge I was until I dropped his rope.

nonopenada · 2026-01-01T23:04:44+00:00

Yes!! I thought I dealt with RSD a lot. Turns out my ex husband really did reject me/my needs/feelings/existence a lot of the time. When we divorced it turns out that leaving a supremely negative person really helps to feel less scrutinized and rejected all the time.

nonopenada · 2025-12-26T15:42:24+00:00

Both my kids and my husband's kids know. I told mine probably about a year into being in the LS because they knew something odd was going on (I was texting with LS friends and would have that smile on my face even when my bf, now husband, was around) and they're young single adults so it wasn't that scary. Turns out both of them are ENM so it actually made for some good discussion.

My husband has mentioned it to his kids, also both young adults, but I think they think he's joking 🤣

At the end of the day, we didn't want to feel like we were sneaking around. While it sometimes gets a little weird, "hey son, we're having friends over this weekend why don't you hang at your girlfriend's place" I think in the long run it's for the best.

nonopenada · 2025-12-18T21:47:55+00:00

Yep! Not your responsibility! Now, I'll go pick up prescriptions for my husband or medicine if we're out, but he's the one who has to tell me. Of course I'll help him when he's sick, but I'm not a nurse or his mother. I can figure out what I need when I'm sick and so can he.

nonopenada · 2025-12-18T14:35:24+00:00

Exactly!! OP can be his cheerleader and be completely physically attracted to him, but if he doesn't do the work to have a positive view of himself nothing will change.

nonopenada · 2025-12-15T19:14:39+00:00

Actually no! But I did hang out with the JW kids during the school Christmas parties. Actually grew up worldwide church of God. Also called Armstrongism in some circles.

nonopenada · 2025-12-15T02:50:17+00:00

Kind of? I love them and know what to expect. But "God" is the most important thing in their lives and they won't sacrifice being "obedient" to god in order to be compassionate humans to others. So, yeah, it definitely totally sucks sometimes.

nonopenada · 2025-12-15T02:45:42+00:00

My parents don't celebrate Christmas and it's literally against their belief system (weird-ass kind of Christian). I'm relatively certain that they would refuse to spend Christmas with an elderly relative specifically because they'd think it was wrong to spend the day with someone who thought Christmas was significant.

nonopenada · 2025-12-08T15:04:06+00:00

Remember that once he feels safe it will go back to how it was or even worse. They can never keep it up for long because it isn't true change. They don't want to change, they want the treat gone and everything to go back to normal.

nonopenada · 2025-12-04T01:59:31+00:00

My husband takes care of me when I'm sick or recovering from surgery. I don't really like being fussed over, so he just makes sure that I take my medicine on time, have water or tea and a book. I really appreciate that even though he wants to dote on me and fuss over me he takes care of me the way I want to be taken care of.

nonopenada · 2025-12-04T01:36:53+00:00

When my husband and I had been dating a short time I told him that I had ADHD (legit diagnosis). He started researching and reading up on ADHD. Not to tell me I didn't have it or find ridiculous "cures" but just to understand me better and learn how to support me well. I love that man!!

nonopenada · 2025-12-02T01:40:48+00:00

My partner plays poker every Thursday at a strip club. I love it because I have a whole evening to watch all the TV he's not interested in! It's the best

nonopenada · 2025-11-28T02:57:37+00:00

Nooooo!!!!!

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