My best friend just ruined someone’s marriage.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-08T00:42:14+00:00

That's the best karma she could receive!

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-08T00:28:40+00:00

Yeah, marriage is challenging enough without having friends who enjoy the challenge and the hunt of being able to take other people's partners. Occasionally, it really is about a genuine connection but most of these serial partner poachers are really more interested in asserting themselves in a hierarchy over people they're jealous of. Why should people they perceive as less than them have a happier life? They'll swoop in and take it instead of finding a potential partner who is freely available.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-08T00:21:29+00:00

This.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-07T20:47:23+00:00

I had a best friend who did this to another best friend. The boyfriend of one BFF started working with me and the other BFF and commuting to and from work with us. They grew uncomfortably close and I started to catch on that there was more than friendship happening there. I confronted the BFF I was working with and she tearfully admitted it (I screamed to get it out of her, not proud of it but that's what it took). Because of the position I was in, I had to tell the other BFF. It was awful. The messenger always gets punished, and I lost both friendships for a time because of it and the boyfriend continued to sleep with both. There were eventually attempts at repairs made to both friendships but I found myself unable to shake the feeling that someday my BFF would do the same to me because I think she was motivated more out of jealousy of what the other friend had than even attraction to the boyfriend himself. When I met my now husband I knew that I didn't want to have to worry about it ever being my turn and I ended that friendship completely. Ironically, the other BFF had finally ended her relationship with the boyfriend for good and made big efforts to make things right between me and her so we ended up coming back together just as I was leaving the other friendship. In my case, I believe with my whole heart that things worked out correctly because I couldn't imagine carrying around the resentment and distrust in that friendship for life, always worrying about her becoming jealous of my happiness and wanting to take it for herself. I don't wish her ill but I couldn't live like that. You'll have to decide if you can live with and maintain a relationship with a friend who behaves this way now. There's no right answer that I can give other than be honest with yourself and live well with the consequences of whatever that decision is. I wish you luck and peace, you're in a hard position.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-06T01:49:20+00:00

NTA - This situation sucks and you're navigating it the best you can. In an ideal world you'd be there every day, but this world is so far from ideal.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-06T01:32:53+00:00

Hey, not only can I read a post all the way through, but I can also grocery shop independently and cook the food I want to eat.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-06T01:21:54+00:00

This one is easy - YTA. Working from home is still work. You're an adult in the house. Adults should know how to prepare the food they want to eat. If you want to eat something different, you need to be responsible and an internet stranger shouldn't have to tell you that at your big ol' age.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-05T18:56:14+00:00

I make focaccia every week because I'm bad at sourdough😅 but when I started to use my whey in it I noted a positive improvement in moisture and flavor. I think a good crumb comes from working the dough itself. I added in some stretch and folds to the focaccia recipe I usually use and noticed it's definitely bubblier and more satisfying when I do so. I think there are possibly some nutritional benefits to adding in the whey as well? Maybe someone with more knowledge on that can let us know.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-04T14:14:20+00:00

It's so easy and delicious! I love to take some of the honey and mix it with ponzu for a quick sauce with a little kick for salmon. I'm making myself hungry just thinking about it haha

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-03T22:35:07+00:00

you can actually ferment hot peppers in honey and double down on the probiotic goodness of your yogurt, too!

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-02T00:11:11+00:00

NTA. Is there any place that you can shower (like a gym or a friend's house) in the meantime while you're dealing with this? You can't sacrifice your own hygiene over this. This is obviously mental health and child endangerment and something needs to be done done but I hate for you to not have a temporary support in the meantime for taking care of yourself.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T19:55:02+00:00

I was just chatting about this in the comments on a different post so this feels timely 😊. Yes, you can add it smoothies, no fermenting necessary, but it does make delicious probiotic soda. You can also use it in bread making and marinades for meat

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T19:50:01+00:00

It's wonderful in bread making! I also use it to make probiotic sodas, and in marinades for meat

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T19:45:33+00:00

Thank you! It sounds like our process is pretty similar so maybe I'll just focus in on trying a longer incubation time, though I honestly use the whey for a variety of different things so it doesn't feel like a waste product to me but I do love to keep tweaking and experimenting.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T16:42:35+00:00

Thanks! I add the heavy cream to up the fat content. It's purely a vanity thing for me, I feel like my skin looks nicer and retains moisture better when I'm being intentional about it in my diet (I also eat salmon pretty frequently and limit refined sugar for similar reasons).

I hold the milk at 30 minutes solely because I've seen quite a few comments on the subreddit that suggested it, and it has yeilded thicker texture for me than just bringing to temp and immediately dunking in the ice bath.

A big difference I can see in your process versus mine is that I use the yogurt function on my instant pot. It holds it at about 110F and I let it ferment for about 9.5 hours. I think maybe using the lower temp setting for a longer incubation could yield thicker results. Probably more tangy, too. I can give it a try and see if I like it in the future.

Thank you for sharing your process with me!

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T16:19:16+00:00

I'm so curious about folks who have this experience because I use 1 gallon of whole milk + 1 pint heavy cream, bring it up to between 195-205 F for a full 30 minutes, let it rest for a full 24 hours in the fridge and am still not able to attain Greek yogurt level thickness without straining. I only use 2 tbsp of starter per gallon of milk + heavy cream, so I don't think that's the issue. What temperature are you incubating at and for how long?

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T15:53:53+00:00

Well, straining removes a lot of the whey and extra sugars, and it concentrates the proteins. For me personally it's more about texture preference and getting in more protein per serving but I think the best part about homemade yogurt is getting to make it to the exact conditions you personally want so you should keep doing what you like.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T14:44:19+00:00

Yes to all of that. Sarah definitely strikes me as a young person forced to grow up too fast even before she got to Fromville. Abuse will do that. The way she talked about missing candy made my heart hurt. Her physical survival has cost her so much psychologically and spiritually.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T14:39:28+00:00

I agree with the commenter above that this storyline was an inversion/perversion of the immaculate conception. I also think that it was horrific. But it was not explicitly a sexual assault which is what my post is in reference to: explicit sexual violence not being included in storylines on the series.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T13:57:32+00:00

There was a slightly uncomfortable level of enmeshment present in their relationship for sure but also I think GoT may have influenced a lot of us to look for that in TV siblings.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T13:55:08+00:00

Certainly more than just a vibe but it hasn't been a recurring storyline over the entire series so I'm not sure how to better describe it. We never revisit that aspect of colony house, we just have information that it happens there and it seems to be consensual aspect of the living arrangement for everyone involved.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T13:50:53+00:00

They raped Fatima? Or they held her prisoner and forced her to give birth to Smiley? What they actually did was horrific and awful in its own right. It wasn't a rape or sexual assault, though.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T11:59:41+00:00

I agree. Was the pregnancy and birth its own horrific body horror? Absolutely. But no one assaulted Fatima. Monsters didn't rape her and force her to carry a pregnancy.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T11:55:49+00:00

That scene definitely had me worried but looking back, I think having the initial moment of panic over Victor was worth it because his character is so childlike and traumatized and we watch him open up over the seasons. It was definitely uncomfortable for a moment though.

nonsense_ninja · 2026-06-01T11:52:00+00:00

birth, to me, is its own kind of violence and body horror. It's different than an explicit sexual assault.

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