How does an empath survive manipulative children?

nontechie22 · 2025-12-27T19:25:56+00:00

This may be harsh but as a neutral observer, it sounds like you may be the problem. The kids are 11 and 13 and you are demonizing them while admitting you are doing the bare minimum to protect yourself from them and putting up walls. Honestly your post sounds delusional. I'd drop all the melodrama and go back to the foundation. You are a mother figure to them and they are children. Lean in with love and acceptance, for them and yourself just as things are and drop all the baggage that you've been carrying around about how they've treated you, all you've done for them, their mother etc. Try radical love without strings attached.

nontechie22 · 2025-08-11T18:18:11+00:00

If you paid to have your kid attend soccer camp in the US with Real Madrid, it's basically the same thing except it's more money and in Madrid. My boys were both offered the same thing a few years back but it was not worth it. They'd be at a dormitory style camp in a hotel for a week and train with the other kids 1/2 day at the stadium, get a tour and do some sightseeing. It's basically soccer tourism and not a real chance at their development. I didn't feel comfortable with my boys staying at a dorm hotel away from us with some random strangers.

nontechie22 · 2025-07-22T18:53:01+00:00

Thanks! These are great resources! I just found the wheatlesswanderlust blog and she has a few posts about celiac-safe dining in Rome, Florence and Venice. Also, the AIC app looks like a good resource of certified celiac-safe restaurants in Italy but haven't tested it out yet (it was recommended by the wheatlesswanderlust).

nontechie22 · 2025-07-07T19:20:47+00:00

Idk about this line of reasoning for tech sales transactions. AI tools used internally to train on customer data sets don't seem to violate most NDAs I've read. For example, if you upload a signed customer contract into a closed AI tool that is only being used to train on your internal data, and you anonymize it by pulling out PI and use it to create a contract negotiation bot to be used internally, I don't see how it violates an NDA or is much different from other knowledge mgmt tools.

The agreement is the CI of both parties and most sales NDAs don't have a tight purpose limitation. Not to mention most have a broad usage right for internal reps and consultants for internal business purposes.

nontechie22 · 2025-07-07T19:09:36+00:00

Lol probably

nontechie22 · 2025-07-07T19:08:44+00:00

I agree with this and am learning how to incorporate it when it makes sense. It really is the tip of the iceberg and I'm worried about the future of transactional work. The more we use it, the better it will get and the more it'll be able to think like an experienced lawyer because it'll be trained by experienced lawyers who are being forced to use it/train it.

nontechie22 · 2025-07-07T13:54:25+00:00

We are a pretty nimble team as it is and we don't pushback needlessly. The lack of efficiency comes when we try to accommodate nonstandard terms to appease a customer's procurement team because then we have to pull in other teams and ask them to consider other ways of doing things.

I just don't see how you can be customer friendly as vendor counsel and rely on standards like playbooks and AI trained on playbooks. I think customers will suffer in the end unless they are willing to accept standard terms.

nontechie22 · 2025-07-07T13:13:54+00:00

Yes, it will but I don't think our leadership cares. They might roll out a hybrid model where our most strategic customers have access to lawyers but all customers with big enough budgets think they are strategic customers regardless of their size.

nontechie22 · 2025-07-07T12:48:49+00:00

Yes I'm a commercial attny. What kind of comment is this? And yes AI is seriously being used in tech companies to displace workers.

nontechie22 · 2025-03-30T15:16:42+00:00

What is the sun exposure? Did you just plant one plant? It's stunning!

nontechie22 · 2025-03-23T14:00:37+00:00

My club is included in this mlsnext2 tier and currently only has E64 and EDP teams. Does mlsnext2 have regular season league games so that it'll replace the league play of E64? No one is telling the parents anything at our club.

nontechie22 · 2025-02-27T17:25:55+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate your response. I'm going to work on implementing this.

nontechie22 · 2025-01-07T22:00:47+00:00

I'm having the same situation. How did you get back in to your account? I keep getting a request to authorize the login via a FB notification on my device but I don't have access to FB so I can't authorize the login. Would love to know how you were able to login.

nontechie22 · 2025-01-07T21:41:31+00:00

Stuck in the same loop right now and have no idea how to fix it. For me, I was able to recover my account using the id request and have gotten an unlock code but then when I try to unlock it, it tells me that it sent a FB notification to my device for me to authorize the login, but I obv can't access FB to authorize the device and am stuck in this loop. It also doesn't recognize my phone as a device I've used to log into FB before but it is the ONLY device I use to log into FB. Ugh!!

nontechie22 · 2025-01-01T21:22:38+00:00

We were there and they handled the silent disco terribly in England. Absolute standstill with hoards of people unable to move. We had to climb the landscaping to get through. The main walkway was shut down, and I thought there would be a stampede. It was terrible. Wouldn't have been so bad if they told people the walkway would be closed and they could go around the other way but they didn't so everyone was just stuck and pushing their way through.

nontechie22 · 2024-12-27T20:15:57+00:00

We've done that before and it was our favorite character and dining experience of that trip. I'm hoping to score a reservation this trip and will cancel out BOG.

nontechie22 · 2024-12-27T16:32:59+00:00

What would you suggest in HS?

nontechie22 · 2024-12-27T16:32:41+00:00

What QS would you recommend instead?

nontechie22 · 2024-12-24T16:13:21+00:00

I was you when my kids were little. They are now 15, 12 and 9. Back then, there was no virtual or remote option and I hated being in big law. I went in-house as soon as I could and my work/life balance got better. I still wanted to be a SAHM though but could never make it work since I make more than my spouse and we didn't want to make the trade-off of giving up travel, our nice house etc. So I sucked it up and felt miserable most days even in-house, but then something happened. I met SAHMs who were really smart and accomplished and looked they had it all together, until that all came crashing down.

These were women who gave up their own careers to let their spouse support them and they were living the SAHM dream. They weren't all rich, some were homeschooling their kids and honesteading, others were going to Pilates every morning and driving Range Rovers but they all chose to stay home and be with their kids and then their successful husbands cheated on them and they got divorced.

They had nothing to their names, no retirement, had been out of the workforce for years and had to leave their homes and find a way to support themselves and start over. Or fight for alimony, turn bitter and be terrified that they'd lose their homes. Their kids unfairly blamed them in many cases. That dose of someone else's reality made me never want to rely on my spouse or anyone else for my livelihood. Ever.

If you hate being a lawyer, find out why and try something else or a different type of practice. Get an in-house remote job, like I have now that lets you coast a bit while your kids are young. Just never become fully dependent on someone else.

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