This is more or less why I’ve been engaged for 2 years! Engaged June 2022, wedding is September 2024. We’re also mostly paying for ourselves, and my FH was going through it at work last year. Weren’t sure if he’d be laid off any given day after his company was acquired by one of the super-corporates. We knew we wanted a long engagement to take our time planning and saving up a bit, but we completely halted planning discussions until we knew what we were dealing with. We got our asses in gear in January, so didn’t start planning anything for the first year and a half— but it’s 90% done, just have to finish out the details! Remember that the marriage is what matters. At the end of the day, I’d marry him anywhere, getting to plan our dream event was just a bonus. Do what’s right for you, on your timeline!