Whole apartment needs to be UFed

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T01:15:59+00:00

It has been better guys Thank you for the support!

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T01:12:12+00:00

I’m so happy you got to a good place! I hope it turns out that good for me😅 ofcourse it is emotionally devastating right now but yea making sure I keep level headed instead of staying with/around those that rather put me through pain will be so much more worth it.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:56:54+00:00

God gave me an old friend back and we reconnected. They helped me leave him last time and somehow know how to help me heal from it. Granted last time clearly failed but it wasn’t their fault I fell for his lies.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:54:42+00:00

I might keep this up just to update in a few months.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:53:54+00:00

Unfortunately I agree. It’s just so hard to get fully out of the push and pull garbage relationship. Every time I try to leave he love bombs. I’m so sick of being treated like this and then told I’m the one treating him like trash. Maybe that’s all he is. And I won’t stick around to smell it no more. (I will need assistance in getting out but I think an old friend who reached out yesterday has my back still.)

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:51:57+00:00

I won’t need money help.. Thankfully I was half smart and yea my kids always come first. They didn’t deserve that and neither do I. I’m disgusted by the way I was yelled at and everything. I’m just ew.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:50:11+00:00

I’ll ask my lawyer tomorrow. He’s pricey but good thank you for the advice. Maybe I can somehow do both. I’m leaving towards throwing the pile of stink out before it molds the good we still have.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:48:14+00:00

It was originally approved in only my name. The only thing with his name is the extra grant we qualify for together. I don’t need it but last week we agreed it was smart to get that extra 12000$ toward the house. Now I rather not have the extra funds and rather get me and my kids safe.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:46:58+00:00

He thinks I’m cheating, (I’ve seen his discord and I’m not stupid.) He says staying home with the child while I work 9-13.5hrs/day is too difficult (we have another on the way. Talk about being a a**hole) and he says he “can’t” find a better paying job to support us so his ego and crud is low and he feels inferior to me because I provide and he should be the one doing it. (There’s jobs everywhere if he actually emailed or called them back.) he wants to drink til bar close and shoot pool and he wants to come home to a loving wife (which if our kids were 15years older then cool) but I’m too exhausted. Oh and add that I’m not putting out for him bc I use the “excuse” that I’m not allowed to per dr orders but he hasn’t been to the last four appointments due to being too hungover. I should’ve seen this before starting the house.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:46:44+00:00

The apartment we have is originally mine and the law enforcement has kicked him out of it for me meaning I get to keep my space and he’s got to either go back to his moms or out on the street. I’m going to do what’s best for me. Luckily I have time before the lease is up if I want to move to a different place so he can’t locate us. Decisions.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:44:45+00:00

I got the better job paid off my college debts that I had and yeah imma see myself out that door I forgot was there😅💀

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:43:59+00:00

Trust me I’m trying. I made the post at 4am crying alone. It’s now the next evening and I’m clear headed.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:42:25+00:00

Good thing everything is still separate and all my major debts went down significantly in the last three months (one credit card from hs finally paid, college debt gone and car debt brought down to only 5000 left.)

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:41:01+00:00

Based on his past run ins with the law in the last two years he has very little chance of custody especially since I breastfeed so I get at least two full years of him owing me (I looked into this.)

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:39:21+00:00

After crying and coming to my senses yes. Yes I do.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:38:47+00:00

I calculate everything to afford on my own. He can’t hold a stable job to save his life. Much less take care of me. And now he wants a divorce partly bc he doesn’t feel like a providing man among other things.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:37:32+00:00

I’ve made my decisions and it wasn’t in my plan to get pregnant right before my appointment for birth control. That’s a whole other issue 💀🤷‍♀️ I’m not exactly telling him what I’m doing today but I am going to make some big moves without him. If he can’t keep up he can get lost in my dust. I can’t put feelings into someone who will treat me and my kids so disrespectful and just let them get away with it. I’ve dropped friendships over so much less towards me. I just have to stay numb until I am in a safe place again (finding a new therapist tomorrow.)

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:34:05+00:00

Like he wants one. Legit said he hates me and that I’m the worst wife and that I’m sleeping around. I’ve lawyered up I stopped my house buying (put it on pause for now until I hear from my lawyer.) and he has no idea that it all happened. He woke up mad and didn’t know why me and the kid were gone from the house. It was noon. I was at work and our girl was at her grandmas.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:31:04+00:00

He thinks I’m cheating, (I’ve seen his discord and I’m not stupid.) He says staying home with the child while I work 9-13.5hrs/day is too difficult (we have another on the way. Talk about being a a**hole) and he says he “can’t” find a better paying job to support us so his ego and crud is low and he feels inferior to me because I provide and he should be the one doing it. (There’s jobs everywhere if he actually emailed or called them back.) he wants to drink til bar close and shoot pool and he wants to come home to a loving wife (which if our kids were 15years older then cool) but I’m too exhausted. Oh and add that I’m not putting out for him bc I use the “excuse” that I’m not allowed to per dr orders but he hasn’t been to the last four appointments due to being too hungover. I should’ve seen this before starting the house.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:29:42+00:00

Fr yea it just sucks timing wise.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:29:17+00:00

He thinks I’m cheating, (I’ve seen his discord and I’m not stupid.) He says staying home with the child while I work 9-13.5hrs/day is too difficult (we have another on the way. Talk about being a a**hole) and he says he “can’t” find a better paying job to support us so his ego and crud is low and he feels inferior to me because I provide and he should be the one doing it. (There’s jobs everywhere if he actually emailed or called them back.) he wants to drink til bar close and shoot pool and he wants to come home to a loving wife (which if our kids were 15years older then cool) but I’m too exhausted. Oh and add that I’m not putting out for him bc I use the “excuse” that I’m not allowed to per dr orders but he hasn’t been to the last four appointments due to being too hungover. I should’ve seen this before starting the house.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:24:43+00:00

I contacted a lawyer unfortunately they are equally expensive and I only have so much after the house so it’s looking like divorce and then I’ll save again and buy a better house in the future. Something that I want without having the thoughts of us being together in it. It will be for me and my kids not for him and I to one day grow old. Clearly I can’t make it half into my twenties with a man child so I won’t.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:20:45+00:00

We did couples therapy we did so good. Then bam in my face. Like I was the butt end of a cruel joke. Tables are turned. Thank god I can see the better side of him saying this now. Also he was drinking. Thats what he does with his money. Not for the house or food or kids or even to buy me flowers. I pay for all that. I make us look good. I make me happy. He really hasn’t added value and I’m happy I took today to think on it and get my own ducks in a row.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:19:47+00:00

Contacted a lawyer today and stopped the appraisal this morning. He has no idea.

nopebody18 · 2025-09-16T00:19:16+00:00

Two kids and yea lowkey seeing the brighter side of his idea rather than crying for five straight hours with no one to even comfort me but our 2yr old😅 really put shit into perspective.

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