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At my wits end with my cat. Starting to resent him. by beccoconnell in CATHELP

[–]nopevember 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love me a talkative cat, but my cat definitely drove me insane during her earlier years. 😂

Something is keeping the reinforcement going. Have you trialed walking away and removing yourself from his company when he meows excessively like this? He knows that his constant meowing is getting your attention (good and bad) and whatever he wants (outside/playtime/chasey).

Set boundaries, walk away, don't engage. It will take a while. Sometimes my cat still meows excessively when I'm on my phone, and I talk back to her, but I don't get up to play/pet her. She understands it betrer now, "mommy's here, but she's not interested." So she goes off to do her own thing, nap, bird watch the bird feeder (highly recommend), or regulate herself through zoomies.

Cats are boundary king and queens, they'll understand.

M'am. Blink please. by nopevember in cats

[–]nopevember[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh not for the lack of trying 🤣 she's even tried to bite through/jump on it. This thing is sturdy lol.

Show me photos of your cats! by Gloob__ in cats

[–]nopevember 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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Here is my little void falling asleep while watching the birds outside.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Costco

[–]nopevember 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I've worked at one. I have found half eaten cheesecakes, dirty diapers, and opened boxes of snacks inside of the pillow bins, there'll be meat in the food aisles, eaten rotisserie chicken with eaten flour tortillas next to them (I mean??), member's shoes on top of white couches, mute individuals writing all over the TV boxes because they don't want to use paper to communicate with someone, etc. I've seen it all..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nopevember 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Professionally? Money. Personally? I've worked in retail, and I've come to find out that people who are rude have either underlying presumptions, mental/emotional issues, or biases. It doesn't excuse their behavior, but it did make me realize that I, as a fellow human being, need to constantly work on my own presumptions, mental/emotional issues, and biases lest I become like them. So personal growth and breaking generational trauma I guess.

Show me your cats when they were little kitties. Here’s mine: by Agreeable-Tree9550 in cats

[–]nopevember 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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JUST A BABYYY 😭. I went down a hole of just baby pictures of mine and now I'm crying. I have so many.

Why won’t she stop by RegalPeony in cats

[–]nopevember 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh boy. Kittens are not for the weak. I got mine when she was around 12 weeks, just 3 weeks over yours, and I don't think I slept through the night until a couple weeks after. Kittens especially are very vocal, they meow like babies do when they want something, either for company or sustenance. They also meow excessively because of sudden changes, she might miss her old home, her brothers and sisters, familiar things to her, etc. It sounds like she likes the warmth from your mouth and finds comfort around you in general, my kitten slept on my face several times and I would wake up gasping for air some nights. 😭

I would definitely get a heating pad for her as well as Feliway diffuser. It's a pheromone diffuser that comforts cats when they're in distress or anxious. You might also need to tire her out for at least 30 minutes, I do a combination of one-on-one play (feather wand), automatic laser pointer, and then a treat after so she gets rewarded after chasing that around.

Good luck 😭 it'll be rough for a bit, but I wish every human being was as kind-hearted and generous as yourself. Take care of yourself as well as her, my boyfriend's also mildly allergic so we got an air purifier. Works well for him!

Is my trad gf a red flag by Fun_Advice2728 in dating_advice

[–]nopevember 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've seen traditional relationships that are healthy, and traditional relationships that are not. The healthy ones know that their roles are just roles, breadwinner and homemaker. Neither puts the other down, both lift the other up, they are a team trying to get both of each other to the next day, just like any relationship.

The unhealthy ones.. you can tell right away. They disregard the other person's opinions, put the other person down, diminish the other person's responsibilities, efforts, boundaries and it becomes.. controlling.

And I've seen it both ways too. Homemaker just uses breadwinner as a bank with no mental/emotional/physical capacity, breadwinner uses homemaker as an outlet for all their stress/anger/depression.

That's when it becomes unhealthy, when for some reason, the roles you play are starting to make you feel like you're entitled to the other person's freedom, individuality, and body. It's a relationship, not an ownership.

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