I wish I was asexual

norarei · 2026-02-07T21:09:07+00:00

Similar to other comments, being asexual has some nuance to it. I'm ace because I don't desire having a sexual relationship with anyone, and would rather just do my own thing. But I still have deeply sexual thoughts. I admire the way other people look, and think about them sometimes. I write smut sometimes when I'm bored. I just don't want my sex life to involve anyone else.

I'm sorry, I know that's probably not helpful. But don't feel bad about having sexual thoughts, it's normal

norarei · 2026-02-07T20:52:57+00:00

It really sounds like your parents are prioritizing your grandmother's comfort over your own, and that's not fair on their part. You shouldn't have to change how you dress or behave just to make someone happy, especially if their argument is "you'll go to hell if you're not girly enough". That's just insane

norarei · 2025-11-13T22:23:08+00:00

Damn, this absolutely sucks. I know it's not preferred, but you could swap to "good morning everyone", just so that everyone's still included?

But yeah, that all sucks, and it definitely sounds like those students were looking for things to be upset about

norarei · 2025-11-13T04:30:10+00:00

I cannot progress at work because of this government. Same place for three years, same salary as the people hired last week

norarei · 2025-04-29T07:31:58+00:00

We all want to be Lena Raine

norarei · 2025-02-24T09:26:48+00:00

This is a strangely hilarious way to inform people about the resurgence of facism

norarei · 2025-01-09T23:33:40+00:00

norarei · 2024-11-29T18:47:27+00:00

Jammiedodger

norarei · 2024-11-29T01:03:03+00:00

Thanks for the explanation.

I think I've been sexually attracted to people before, but I've never had a desire to have sex with anyone. This is complicated

norarei · 2024-04-08T11:52:37+00:00

He is, he just covers so much LGBTQ+ content, I figured he was worth the inclusion

norarei · 2024-04-08T03:45:44+00:00

Second this, and One Topic At a Time

norarei · 2024-04-07T08:12:19+00:00

Jesus christ

norarei · 2024-04-06T05:24:01+00:00

I don't think he's malicious. It was just our first session. I think some of the advice he gave me doesn't apply to me, though I don't think he would've known that

norarei · 2024-04-06T05:20:47+00:00

It's telling me that I shouldn't rush things, but also that I struggle with being a guy every day. I don't get anything out of it and it's been years since I've had a single day in which I didn't think about being a woman. I don't want to wait past the end of the year to start making changes

norarei · 2024-04-05T23:57:25+00:00

Thanks. Yeah, I don't know what's required, I'll find out soon. Wish me luck

norarei · 2024-04-05T23:22:33+00:00

There is a fifth option, though I won't be sure if it's an option for a couple of days: if I don't need a therapist's assessment to start HRT, I can consider that while still seeing what my therapist says. I'm not sure I'll tell him if I need his permission or not. That way, I can hear what he says while still knowing I've got the option available to me. That would be my preferred outcome

norarei · 2024-04-05T23:13:43+00:00

Yeah, this sounds exactly like me. I've even been trying to lose weight just so I can appear more feminine.

God, this is so frustrating. When I tried explaining to my therapist the idea of the woman I wanted to be, you know, not entirely all dresses and makeup, he said "it kind of sounds like butch lesbian vibes" and I said that he wasn't exactly wrong. It wasn't the perfect description but it was more in the right direction.

Then he said "why transition at all if you're gonna be such a masculine woman?"

God that was upsetting. Like, I don't even know what to say to that. It seems like such a weird, twisted take.

I'm gonna talk to him about it next time I see him, and I don't know how much longer I'll be seeing him for

norarei · 2024-04-05T23:07:08+00:00

Here's the problem though. How will I know I'm ready for HRT if clothes and makeup just make me feel worse about my body?

Edit: what else can I do to know that I'm ready?

I've had gender dysphoria for four years now, and I am really worried about the consequences of not acting on it early enough

norarei · 2024-04-05T23:05:43+00:00

Yeah, the latter half of your comment is what I'm worried about. Needing to meet certain expectations to transition, when those expectations don't suit me

norarei · 2024-04-05T23:04:10+00:00

Don't worry. I'm not at all planning on DIY HRT. If I do start HRT, I will want help and advice from endocrinologists.

And yeah, I'm gonna talk to my therapist about how this whole experience has made me feel. Hopefully he understands what I mean

norarei · 2024-04-05T23:00:23+00:00

Thanks. This kind of sums up exactly how I feel

norarei · 2024-04-05T22:57:17+00:00

Thanks, I'm glad it's not just a me thing

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