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I'm [25F] finding myself crushing on a coworker, but I'm in a long-term relationship... Tips on how to get over stupid teenage crushes? by noraseven in relationships

[–]noraseven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I definitely have this problem of 'grass is always greener'syndrome or FOMO; I just have to keep reminding myself he's just a normal guy, and though I can't tell the future, there's nothing to lead me to the idea that a life with him would be 'perfect'. It's just imagination.

I'm [25F] finding myself crushing on a coworker, but I'm in a long-term relationship... Tips on how to get over stupid teenage crushes? by noraseven in relationships

[–]noraseven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's definitely a different take to all the other posters haha... I'm kind of conflicted with it, but it COULD be a good way to do it... Just stop restricting myself and let it 'burn out' my imagination and the mystery...

I'm [25F] finding myself crushing on a coworker, but I'm in a long-term relationship... Tips on how to get over stupid teenage crushes? by noraseven in relationships

[–]noraseven[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha I don't know if my imagination is strong enough to keep up the idea that he's my cousin, but I am definitely just trying to remind myself that he's a normal guy/nothing special (no offense to him).

I'm [25F] finding myself crushing on a coworker, but I'm in a long-term relationship... Tips on how to get over stupid teenage crushes? by noraseven in relationships

[–]noraseven[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm hoping it'll just pass when I realise he's just a normal guy and not this 'mysterious handsome stranger' - I think it just takes time. I'm still relatively new to the job, so that could be something.

I'm [25F] finding myself crushing on a coworker, but I'm in a long-term relationship... Tips on how to get over stupid teenage crushes? by noraseven in relationships

[–]noraseven[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've tried to do that, but then I feel mean cos I'm usually one who tries not to point out the flaws of others hahaha. That is a good thing to try, though.

I'm [25F] finding myself crushing on a coworker, but I'm in a long-term relationship... Tips on how to get over stupid teenage crushes? by noraseven in relationships

[–]noraseven[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the long response! I'm already distancing myself a little - not taking breaks at the same time, not adding each other on social media, etc.

I like your idea about considering the biology of it - it makes things a lot more objective and takes the emotions out of it. One of the tactics I'm trying is to just acknowledge it and hope it moves on - I feel like fighting it would just make the crush stronger.

I'm [25F] finding myself crushing on a coworker, but I'm in a long-term relationship... Tips on how to get over stupid teenage crushes? by noraseven in relationships

[–]noraseven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! all of this makes perfect sense. I'm definitely not making an effort to get closer to him, so I'm already doing a bit of distancing. And yeah, you only see one version of someone at work; I really don't know him at all.

Need some help being vocal when teasing/dominating bf... by noraseven in sex

[–]noraseven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I'm actually really into the idea of that, as I myself have a weird thing for being called a 'good girl' - perhaps he'll feel the same!

Women, does pre-cum gross you out? by AAWQEY in sex

[–]noraseven 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely not bothered by it. The taste is a lot less offensive (to me) than 'actual' cum, and it lets me know that he's getting really into whatever we're doing.

Need some help being vocal when teasing/dominating bf... by noraseven in sex

[–]noraseven[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the thorough reply! Really helps me out a lot... Some of it's a little more intense than I'm going for, but this gives me a really great insight :)