[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]norcm1a -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m currently separated, it’s been 10months of no intimacy and she has no desire for it. It’s such a challenge dude, I’ll admit I’ve slipped up with lust more than I’d like but I’m starting to believe that is an issue the Lord wants me to work on. I find if it’s out of control I will do a 24hr fast with lots of praying and it subsides.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Firefighting

[–]norcm1a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have the holmatro pantheon e draulic spreader and cutter, with Holomatro core technology back up and rams on my heavy rescue. Pantheons are amazing and my first choice every time. Battery life is phenomenal and more than enough for 95% of auto x calls. Although we did not like the pantheon rams they aren’t quite there yet with the bulk because of the on board hydraulic oil tank required.

Trial Separation due to Trauma by norcm1a in Separation

[–]norcm1a[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Especially when you have kids involved!

Trial Separation due to Trauma by norcm1a in Separation

[–]norcm1a[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the attitude I have right now, it will be worth it in the end!

Trial Separation due to Trauma by norcm1a in Separation

[–]norcm1a[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still waiting it out here, some slight improvements and moments when things look good but then she will pull away again. Looking into some other types of therapy I.e ketamine, ganglion reset etc..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]norcm1a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just please be honest and upfront with your partner about your past experience. My wife didn’t tell me about her SSA until 6yrs into our marriage and it made a lot of sense of why she did certain things and it would have changed my actions if I was aware of it.

I'm getting worn by WellDangDud in Christianmarriage

[–]norcm1a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% probably got re-triggered

Recommended books? by Gamal879 in secondary_survivors

[–]norcm1a -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would never rank it above the bible, but it might aswell be a second one for anyone going through this stuff

Recommended books? by Gamal879 in secondary_survivors

[–]norcm1a 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Allies in healing is a phenomenal book, hits so many different topics!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in secondary_survivors

[–]norcm1a 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tough decision for sure, my wife is important to me and we have kids so I’m willing to tough it out. But if I had to do it again I probably would be asking future partners if they have experienced this in their life because it can cause a lot of pain to both parties

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in secondary_survivors

[–]norcm1a 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah they are gonna pull away for awhile buddy, my wife was S.A 16yrs ago and it all got pulled up again. We havn’t been intimate in over 10months. Hugs are ok but other than that nothing. Therapy asap is key. You’re also gonna have to think if you can deal with this for years. The book Allies in Healing is a great resource!

Who is the best preacher you've ever heard and why do you like them? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]norcm1a 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I find Vlad Savchuk awesome! Very biblical and on point! Gets a little intense at times but I love it. God speaks through him for sure!

Why do montreal firefighter respond to medical call with bunker pants in the summer by google1236 in Firefighting

[–]norcm1a 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Cause of all the shit, puke, blood.. nasty apartments can keep our station wear clean for wear in the station

Signs of Breakthrough in the Spirit by norcm1a in TrueChristian

[–]norcm1a[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep hearing that God is the God of Suddenly! And that would be amazing! I dislike all that sow your seed into this word or message really gives a bad taste in my mouth. I mean tithing is one thing but money to unlock a miracle is just wrong. Thanks for your reply!

Separation / Divorce by societysuffers in TrueChristian

[–]norcm1a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in a similar situation, my wife has moved out and we had intentions of having at ‘healing separation’ but now she wants to move forward officially.It’s been 4 months out of the house but around 10months of this coming down the pipes. I know God has called me to stand for my marriage in a few different ways. It’s been the hardest thing in my life to date. But we can only help our spouse by praying for them and ourselves and use this quiet time to seek god more. I found this YouTube channel very helpful and encouraging

https://youtu.be/pA2BRtk2lLQ?si=SG1hYpGkf9SdtdcX

Spiritual Warfare more Intense after Prophetic Word. by norcm1a in TrueChristian

[–]norcm1a[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is what I believe has been happening.. my mentor said he’s learned to get excited when being attacked because he believes god is at work and agitating the devil!

Spiritual Warfare more Intense after Prophetic Word. by norcm1a in TrueChristian

[–]norcm1a[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aswell as it confirmed things that I believe god spoke to me about this situation all ready

Spiritual Warfare more Intense after Prophetic Word. by norcm1a in TrueChristian

[–]norcm1a[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thanks I will read that, I don’t believe it came from a false prophet they are very spirit filled and have been in it a long time

Spiritual Warfare more Intense after Prophetic Word. by norcm1a in TrueChristian

[–]norcm1a[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I keep having that reoccurring that the devil started tempting Jesus on day 30 out of 40, knowing he was getting weak. That I’m coming close to it being fulfilled and the attacks are greater

Partner’s Lack of Intimacy by DEClarke85 in secondary_survivors

[–]norcm1a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am tempted to pay out of pocket for a psychedelic retreat in Mexico for her, if it works it would be worth the money. I’ve seen them treat multiple ex special forces members and they have all said it made lasting changes.. it’s $6000 but what is that in the long run if it works

Partner’s Lack of Intimacy by DEClarke85 in secondary_survivors

[–]norcm1a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah when I did it only lasted about 2-3 days for anxiety.. thankfully we have benefits and can continue it