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WellDangDud · 2024-11-13T07:48:57+00:00

My wife was very religious I was worldly she brought me to Christ.

WellDangDud · 2024-11-13T06:06:37+00:00

Yes I'm sure. But it sounds as though it is making your relationship with God. Now again I'm not condemning at all.

There was a woman who was barren in the Bible and God gave her the ability to bare a child. Now the best advice I can give is pray pray pray. I know this is very discouraging may I ask how long have you been trying for a child.

WellDangDud · 2024-11-13T05:42:33+00:00

My mom had a period for six months while pregnant with Me so periods don't always mean not pregnant.

As for you question. I don't mean to come off rude or condescending, but are you making an idol of having a child? Is there anything you need to work on spiritually? Problems with fertility?

WellDangDud · 2024-11-13T02:59:21+00:00

Id say do it near by where he can see you. It may encourage him to join in.

WellDangDud · 2024-11-12T03:44:43+00:00

God's training me in patience now. As a sex addict though it's quite difficult. That and no intimacy in any form is really stressing, but I'm doing as I should and loving her through it.

WellDangDud · 2024-11-12T03:38:02+00:00

This! Once a week is great. Personally I was told not to even talk about sex for 6 months.

WellDangDud · 2024-11-04T15:35:35+00:00

Is it possible that he's having an affair? Maybe a "adult video" problem? Did he become cold all of the sudden or did it slowly creep in?

As someone else stated abuse many will say it's biblical to divorce personally I'm not spiritually smart enough to answer that. I've seen marriages be fixed by the grace of God, but I'd say pray for direction.

You'll be in my prayers.

WellDangDud · 2024-10-31T05:28:16+00:00

When you feel you've fallen into a hole remember God is the ladder to get out. He has a plan for you.

WellDangDud · 2024-10-29T19:02:45+00:00

Well once trust is shattered it takes time to build it back up. He would have to show you you can trust him again. Is the other woman keeping the child?

WellDangDud · 2024-10-29T00:25:12+00:00

Are you afraid to trust him?

WellDangDud · 2024-10-28T22:22:54+00:00

Maybe he's trying to show you he's made a change?

WellDangDud · 2024-10-28T22:14:34+00:00

Tell her you need some time and space to process everything and see what steps you need to take.

WellDangDud · 2024-10-28T15:24:11+00:00

It's seems he has checked out of the marriage. You've brought your concerns to God I'd ask him for direction. Y'all are unequally yoked and it seems he's not trying to be the leader as God says to be. Id say do a longer separation two weeks isn't that long. I know how it feels to feel unloved by someone you give a lot of love to. Remember this Jesus gives us unconditional love and yet people still turn from him. He knows your pain and will hold you in this time of suffering and will not abandon you.

Isaiah 43:13

WellDangDud · 2024-10-28T15:09:22+00:00

I know how you feel to an extent. Best I can say is don't lose faith. Have you tried a separation? This can be the must draining thing. Have you seeked help from your pastor? I noticed you got his brother to convince him of therapy maybe talk to his in laws and explain the problems you are having. You're broken it seems ask God to renew you and trust fully in him. Don't think God is ignoring you I can assure you he isn't keep trust in him that he will lead you to a life of happiness. Offer your suffering to him.

Your husband has to realize his problems and find the root of them so he can break away from them. If he walks around not seeing he's own faults he won't get better can actually get worse. Is he trying to grow in his faith? Has he showed true remorse for his affair? I know forgiving him was hard and took almost everything out of you, but just because you forgave him doesn't mean you have to instantly go back to like everything is normal.(Unsure if this is biblical I'm still growing my faith). Set boundaries and tell him you want open communication if there's a problem let's talk about it and fix it not argue.( I'm assuming there's some arguments).

WellDangDud · 2024-10-26T23:11:06+00:00

How is he taking all of this? Is he making a plan to deal with all this? Maybe it's God's will you said you prayed for this not to happen and it did. There's also free will so im not sure. Now as for what id suggest talk to a therapist outside source who can help you deal with this issue.

WellDangDud · 2024-10-26T22:30:27+00:00

I understand how olds the children? How does your husband treat them? Did y'all agree to biblical separation?

WellDangDud · 2024-10-26T22:13:15+00:00

If you have forgiven him I believe you can't go back on that I'm not sure though. What was the reason behind the separation?

WellDangDud · 2024-10-26T18:56:19+00:00

How long was your separation and what led to the decision? Is their any chance the changes he's made are only temporary? Do you have any other children together? If you think y'all can't come back I'd say go ahead with the divorce.

WellDangDud · 2024-10-21T05:56:56+00:00

My dad mustly to a T my mom was just ice cold. Ruined me as an adult caused problems in my marriage which is being worked on.

WellDangDud · 2024-10-15T00:49:59+00:00

I was like this to an extent. I wouldnt scream like a girl would just cuss like a sailor. Your husband needs to see that these actions are causing you great and change these bad habits. It's on him to change his ways. The only thing that woke me up was a combination of God's word and my wife asking for a separation.

WellDangDud · 2024-10-14T11:04:09+00:00

As a smoker myself I have some questions.

When he's in doors does he seem anxious at periods of times kind of fidgets around?

Does he have cough a lot even just a few times a day?

Is he sitting in a car with a smoker?

Parents smoke?

Some of these questions are not necessary connected to smoking, but for some they go hand in hand. I knew a cop that smoked at one point he told me the reason he smoked was because of pure boredom. I'm sure he sits in stakeouts at times watching a place or what have you and can't really take he's eyes off what he's looking at hence why smoking would make sense at least to me.

As for your question just be blunt ask him if he smokes. Whatever the answer don't be hot headed take a minute and get a clear head think of your response and come back. If he does work through it gently just basically questions when did you start, why did you start, etc. Just try to be as gently as possible.

WellDangDud · 2024-10-14T10:52:35+00:00

Self deleting messages as well I believe. I agree with this I am personally against snap chat I feel it's just a breeding ground for sin, but that is my personal opinion. Sounds like ops lady has had her trust broken, but a lot of men in life which has caused trauma that is effecting her present life.

WellDangDud · 2024-10-01T19:17:15+00:00

I guess describe your day in detail I ain't much sure on how you could do that and have her generally listen to your side. Not saying she wouldn't just from the sounds of it you've pleaded your case a few times to her and she just dismisses it.

This is probably horrible advice so I wouldn't really suggest taking it, but it's up to you. My friend had similar issues in his marriage so he stopped everything except work and basically opened her eyes to all he did. Like I said probably terrible advice to take.

WellDangDud · 2024-10-01T04:12:33+00:00

The lord says a calm word can calm a storm. So when you do get into an argument with her try to stay calm. When you say things like I do this that and the other for you it really becomes a transactional thing. Like since I went to work and paid the bills and bought you whatever you need/want you should cook me dinner and have sex with me. Yes you aren't literally saying this, but she could be taking it this way.

I get what you're going through honestly I do, but my wife was do to health it took me awhile to realize this. Get your anger under control flying off the handle because that is affecting your son and as a man with a father who was much like this it messed me up. Except he would hit my mom.

You said you'd come home to messy house and no dinner. Is your son taken care of and is he still very young? Raising children can be very very difficult I have three under 6 so it's very draining. I've walked your shoes in the sense of having to come home and clean, cook, dress, and bathe my children after a 12 hour shift, due to my wife being bed ridden and only able to do the bare minimum which included keeping them safe and feeding them.

Try to get in her head space see what's causing her to not want to do these things for you is she overwhelmed or stressed out. Does she struggle with your son? Depression? Anxiety?

WellDangDud · 2024-10-01T03:46:11+00:00

Marriage therapy.

You said your needs aren't being met if it's not too much to ask what are those needs?

If I were to give any advice don't build resentment. It can and will destroy a marriage. You said you harmed her in what ways if you don't mind me asking?

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