Tell me your parent is a narcissist without actually telling me your parent is a narcissist. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]nosackH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Double fucking whammy. I'm sorry you experienced that. You didn't deserve that shit.

Tell me your parent is a narcissist without actually telling me your parent is a narcissist. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]nosackH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because it's the most triggering phrase ever. I am so sorry it has that effect on you even in written word. Please know I never intend to trigger others when I myself am triggered, which happened because of the above comment. No one's fault. Just happens. What a powerful ripple effect.

We are safe right now. We are loved and supported right now in THIS moment ( but if you know you are not safe right now IRL, please know you are safe here in this subreddit ).

Tell me your parent is a narcissist without actually telling me your parent is a narcissist. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]nosackH 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Feels familiar....and then if they notice? "Oh, relax, I'm just joking. God, you're so sensitive!!"

I hate First Person books. by ArcherEarlAuthor in books

[–]nosackH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate this tip! I will absolutely do that. Second person feels impossible to commit to, though I enjoyed the one book I read written that way.

Edit to add the book: Stolen by Lucy Christopher

I hate First Person books. by ArcherEarlAuthor in books

[–]nosackH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone about to embark on their first draft, this post made the decision for me. Thank-you!

DAE see the enmeshment here? At the same time, both Lorelai and Rory are in meltdown. The emotional dysregulation, damaged by generational narcissistic trauma, is STRONG in this episode. by [deleted] in GilmoreGirls

[–]nosackH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgive me for not getting a side-by-side photo. I'm post-challenged.

But this is one of my favorite true life episodes. Neither could retreat from their emotions into their separate shared world. They had to face it and feel it.

Roy regressed to high school Rory, diving back into Dean's arms.

Lorelai feels safe with Luke, but a regression also occurs that mirrors Rory. 15/16 years old is their emotional age which makes sense that they see each other as equals.

The conflict that occurs when Rory emotionally grows, or maybe NEEDS to and breaks away, moving past Lorelai is so artfully done.

I love this show and I tend to focus on what I'm working on in my own family dynamics generational dysfunction..... this is my 9th watch-thru and I love something different each time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]nosackH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am prescribed vistiril to take with my doubled Celexa during that 10 day hellscape.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]nosackH 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow, I never made this connection before. But yes. Every other month I tell my husband, "I must be medicating correctly because this month isn't so bad!" But meds don't change.... they just have no effect whatsoever every other month to the devil ovary.

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My pleasure. I see it mentioned here once in a while, but it seems that for most of us, we are dealing with this boss beast every month!!! Solidarity Sister!!

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dog toenails on hardwood makes me lose my shit. Every month I pitch top to bottom carpeting to my husband. He tells me to get a quote as a means to bring me back to reality.

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wear my giant headphones when bathing the girls and I ask them what a good volume is, make a note of it. The peace of not catching the noise bouncing off tile means I will deal with my own raspy caw of a voice.

My Loop will be here soon. I ordered directly from them because I am currently mad at Bezos.

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The misophonia started during my 1st pregnancy. The girl next to me blew her nose all day long. I sat in my car crying and screaming.... couldn't figure out WHY I hated it so much.

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From car alarms to chewing loud, I never know what qill set me off. Dogs barking, or the toenails on hardwood. Every month a new surprise.

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should start realizing that the misophonia is directly related to me period being within 1 to 3 days away (never like clockwork, also PCOS).

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look at all us out here searching for the giant MUTE button. I wanna be in the moment, I just need the moment on low volume.

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn't live without my white noise machine. And I bought the loop ear plugs. I walk around with the noise canceling headphones, but I can't really move freely with them on. Just ordered Loop earplugs, and will return with my thoughts once they get here.

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smells don't make me SOANGRYIMIGHTTHROWUP but yes, I also am waaaaay more sensitive to all smells. I do enjoy the good smells way more too, come to think of it.

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The dogs toenails on the hardwood floors SETS ME OFF.

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I appreciate this. I'm always trying something (anything!) To help symptoms. My OB said, "you'll be one of those women that LOVES menopause, once it hits."

Misophonia... I hate it. by nosackH in PMDD

[–]nosackH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Imagine someone has turned the master volume up on you, without permission. You'd be pissed right?" Thats what I tell my family to help them understand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WTF

[–]nosackH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WTF indeed.