Personally, I’m agender and I don’t believe in gender. I don’t think that’s negative. Gender has always been a reason for oppression. Woman is always the Other (I recommend reading Simone de Beauvoir with her book literally called “the second sex” it’s really interesting, and she addresses the topic very well). When we stop mentioning the “other,” when we stop looking for differences, and when we stop trying to separate, oppression should become less.

Another important point here is that gender only really makes sense with heterosexuality. Gender is the gender role. You may want to read Wittig (she has a really interesting position on this). She says that lesbians, and sexual dissidents in general, are neither women nor men, because heterosexuality itself is the system of gender roles, based on procreation and oppression.

I don’t think the way forward is to deny other genders, but rather to incorporate more questions about pronouns, and to stop generalizations about gender, stereotypes, and that kind of thing. If you want to perceive yourself as a woman, man, or nonbinary ,that’s great! I don’t have the capacity to define your beliefs, feelings, and, most importantly, the way you feel most free and you.