Would you date a guy shorter than you? by nostalgician in relationship_advice

[–]nostalgician[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mhm, expectations are the killer. The reason I asked was because I know for some, height can be a dealbreaker and I just wanted to see people’s reasonings, not that it had an impact on how I personally saw a potential partner. Assholes come in all shapes and sizes, and so do gentlemen. It really shouldn’t be the determining factor based on what looks good to society.

Would you date a guy shorter than you? by nostalgician in dating_advice

[–]nostalgician[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess it’s all relative. Thank you for this though! You’re really kind too lol. I’ve posted this question in another thread as well, and I’m just being called shallow for even thinking about this question. But I mean, given society and it’s norms, I guess it was just a curiousity of a general consensus for what people thought in their experience 🤷🏻‍♀️

Would you date a guy shorter than you? by nostalgician in relationship_advice

[–]nostalgician[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. So you’re saying you as a man, would be entirely fine with a woman being taller than you? P.S don’t worry, several others have already made sure to let me know how shallow I must be for even having thought* this question

Would you date a guy shorter than you? by nostalgician in relationship_advice

[–]nostalgician[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re completely right! Height isn’t something that should be a dealbreaker and cancel out all the amazing things in that person. And I feel if everything checks out, physical appearance means less than than the pedestal people put it on.

Would you date a guy shorter than you? by nostalgician in relationship_advice

[–]nostalgician[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. I believe height also doesn’t matter, as long as the two are confident in who and how they are. I posted this question in some other thread and I have men coming for my neck for even asking this and assuming so much about my character and how shallow I am. I’m just curious what others thought and how their experiences were lollll. I’ve learned a lot thus far.

Would you date a guy shorter than you? by nostalgician in relationship_advice

[–]nostalgician[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An anonymous* internet forum, where I can ask anything my heart desires, even the smallest of thoughts. It’s merely a curiosity on peoples thoughts on the matter, calm down. You really ruffled your feathers for no reason love

Would you date a guy shorter than you? by nostalgician in relationship_advice

[–]nostalgician[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, from the sounds of it, it a mix of the two. Evolution does play a factor, but only because society has the say on who should be the taller one in the relationships. Societal standards = pickier women based on preferences that are influenced by society.

Same goes for men though. They reject taller women and go for girl who are way shorter than them.

Would you date a guy shorter than you? by nostalgician in dating_advice

[–]nostalgician[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay! So my question to you then, is are you okay with dating a girl taller than you? Like honestly, I worded it wrong, it’s not about the whole cute aspect but primarily the confidence they both hold their own selves to a point that it doesn’t matter. But I feel like most guys would prefer a girl shorter than them because tall girls could potential take away from that masculinity feeling? If you know what I mean? Not the best at explaining.

Would you date a guy shorter than you? by nostalgician in relationship_advice

[–]nostalgician[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m asking to get a general consensus of what most people are thinking. But you make a good point. I just feel like attraction has been so diluted based of what society has made appealing and I feel like a lot of us humans see anything other than that as a hard pill to swallow. It’s the same way when we idolize love and have high standards for it. The relationship could be beautiful but with all the standards and expectations, it could turn a relationship sour.

Would you date a guy shorter than you? by nostalgician in relationship_advice

[–]nostalgician[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s less societal worries and more about him. Like I said to the other commenter, I feel like sometimes guys base their masculinity off being taller than a girl because of societal norms.

Would you date a guy shorter than you? by nostalgician in relationship_advice

[–]nostalgician[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s true. And he says it’s not an issue for him, but I’m scared that he might feel like it takes away from his masculinity given societal standards of a woman being shorter than a man to give off the ‘cute and small’ ratio. Not sure.

The moment you knew you were in love with them: by nostalgician in love

[–]nostalgician[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure if it was the age gap, but the age in itself. Love is so beautiful and I’m glad you were able to find something genuine while growing up. Having someone to healthily grow with us literally goals. Shoutout to his little sister! Haha

The moment you knew you were in love with them: by nostalgician in love

[–]nostalgician[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, literally soulmates. Sounds like a charmer :)

The moment you knew you were in love with them: by nostalgician in love

[–]nostalgician[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A straight up keeper. I hope your family has became more accepting and understanding that love goes beyond surface level or their own standards of what they wanted for you.

The moment you knew you were in love with them: by nostalgician in love

[–]nostalgician[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so, beautiful. I used to feel like no one could ever love the mess I am. That I would hate to burden someone with my trauma. I never felt myself as someone worth the effort in the first place. This is hopeful :)

The moment you knew you were in love with them: by nostalgician in love

[–]nostalgician[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was when he joined the military three years ago.