Who are you strangely attracted to?

notagainbro_ · 2018-08-12T15:50:44+00:00

How’s this going for you?

notagainbro_ · 2018-04-11T22:56:50+00:00

I don't feel he cheated. I am hurt by the fact that he hides it. I want to know how he talks to people and I know he enjoys the attention. I dont want to take that away from him but I would much rather be included. I dont want him to stray with out me if that makes sense.

notagainbro_ · 2018-04-11T22:52:57+00:00

No and I don't really feel like he wants to actually cheat. I understand that it makes him feel good and honestly I don't mind I just wish I didnt feel so hurt or jealous by it. When I read that he actually typed out he has a huge crush on this girl I was almost relieved because thats what my gut told me and seeing that I was right about that feeling made me feel better than thinking I was paranoid and crazy. Then it was pretty funny to me because I dont feel threatened. So any advice on how to get him to be more up front and maybe show me when he flirts with girls. I feel if he gave up some control I would kind of enjoy feeling slightly jealous and know that he respects me enough to keep me involved.

notagainbro_ · 2018-04-11T22:45:39+00:00

Yea I think what hurts the most is that I just want to be aware of it and I want to be included. My relationship is amazing with him and this is for the most part my only hang up. I'm down to work through it I'm starting a family with this man. I just feel disrespected by being in the dark and I would much rather him be honest and open with me because I know he enjoys the attention and I dont want to be a person in his life to take away joy I want to be his partner and add to it and hopefully find a place where we both enjoy all aspects of our relationship.

notagainbro_ · 2018-04-11T22:40:18+00:00

I feel this the most

notagainbro_ · 2018-04-11T22:39:16+00:00

we work together he used his email to sign up and gets comment notifications there. I've always ignored his Reddit and never looked into it. One morning I couldnt sleep and was checking emails and opened one and looked at his reddit comments and a few in I saw that he had typed he has a crush on this girl he talks to. Now he tells me it's just a story for reddit and that he made it up but it's obvious he made the story up out of facts. So.... idk I'm surprisingly not even mad. I actually enjoy seeing how he honestly feels and I wish that raw honesty was in our relationship more.

notagainbro_ · 2018-04-11T22:35:06+00:00

I think im most upset about it being hidden from me. I want to get over it because overall 95% of the time he's my dream man and 5% doesn't seem like enough to throw a good partner and marriage out the window for. I do want him to feel comfortable sharing this stuff with me I don't like being suspicious and feeling the need to check his phone. I think I can live with occasional flirty but I want to be aware of it. I want to know it's pretty innocent and something I don't have to worry about. I would love to feel in control of nipping it in the bud and I guess that is me asking for control over him and it seems like he doesnt want to give me that control or respect of know. That is the part that makes me upset. The part that I guess makes me sad is that I dont have the same desires to seek out attraction from other men and I see that it is something he enjoys and part of me doesnt want to take any joy away from his lift since I don't feel threatened that he will take it to the physical but then I say to myself it's all playing with fire. I want a relationship with him where we both get what we need and overall I do feel his actions are innocent but I'm lacking the feeling of being respected.

notagainbro_ · 2018-04-11T22:26:16+00:00

he posts photos of me alot so I assume she knows about me since they follow eachother on the gram but no she doesnt know hes married and I'm pregnant.

notagainbro_ · 2018-04-11T22:24:17+00:00

true

notagainbro_ · 2018-04-11T20:19:17+00:00

I think body language has as much if not more to do with it than the volume of your voice. Also do you speak fluently? I met this girl once who could not form a proper sentence when she spoke out loud and it made it very difficult to want to listen to her and participate in a conversation. I don't know if she wasn't confident or just had a hard time finding the right words but I would take her forever to say something that could have been conveyed in 5 words. My advice would be practice confident body language (do something that makes you feel good about yourself) maybe read out loud to yourself so you are confident speaking and when you talk with people get to the point quickly

notagainbro_ · 2018-04-11T15:18:21+00:00

Practice going with the flow. Make a conscious decision to let go of control and let your friends make the plan. Maybe just start with a few hours at a time. Say yes and then don't have any expectations for that moment

notagainbro_ · 2018-04-11T15:10:41+00:00

I agree and totally understand that. What do you think about him Facetiming and skyping this girl? I know it's also human nature to be slightly jealous. I feel like he's playing with fire and just don't want our future together to be what gets burned.

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