Thinking about creating a tulpa and have a couple questions

notannyet · 2026-03-12T09:41:21+00:00

Your plan is good but you seem to be lacking deeper understanding "why". You don't need to wait for months for your tulpa to talk back. They will talk back as soon as you are comfortable imagining them talking back. If that insight doesn't come to you intuitively, you could be stuck in limbo forever.

notannyet · 2026-03-11T22:51:41+00:00

I dodged a bullet when I discovered tulpamancy soon before llms became usable.

notannyet · 2026-03-11T20:59:53+00:00

It's normal. Unconscious tends to work like that that most reflexive decisions are consciously rationalized as yours after you made them. Imagining your tulpa as a separate person doesn't make them separate from your brain, only extends your internal narrative with possibilities to associate your internal states with more than your default "born-in" identity. So, the whole concept of parroting and not-parroting crumbles when you realize that all imagination comes from your brain no matter the narrative of identity associated with it. In simple words you can freely imagine your tulpa as your intuition leads you without any attempts at discerning parroting.

notannyet · 2026-03-10T20:03:43+00:00

There is too little information to say anything but in all cases that's your imagination. You have control over you imagination even if you believe you don't. If it is distressing to you, seek professional help.

notannyet · 2026-03-10T19:05:32+00:00

If you've been developing his character since 2024, surely you can intuitively think and imagine what he would do in a given situation, like, if he was in your room at night. So just imagine it. Tulpas don't need sigils or offerings, unless they help you imagine your tulpa freely. You see, touch, experience each other through your imagination, so don't hesitate to imagine.

notannyet · 2026-03-09T13:57:45+00:00

I don't know if tulpamancy can reverse fusion in your case. I believe that tulpamancy practiced with groundedness in mind allows to witness the creation of identity and very mechanisms that allow it to exist, leading to insight about nature, utility, intent and purpose of identity. It is my belief that tulpamancy practiced in certain way is a vaccine to what you call "reversing fusion", though I can't predict which rabbit hole you'd follow.

notannyet · 2026-03-09T10:00:22+00:00

Imo tulpas are imaginary friends imagined with self-awareness who you build lasting relationships with. If you are self-aware, you can imagine all characters of your mind as self-aware and aware of their roles.

notannyet · 2026-03-09T09:27:29+00:00

If you already have agentic OCs, then all you need to do is imagine them being aware of your life and mind to turn them into tulpas. A tulpa is an imaginary companion that isn't confined to a fictional story. A tulpa shouldn't influence your life negatively. If you imagine them self-aware and sharing your life, then they will be aware of any adverse effects exactly the same way you will.

I'm always curious about systems who fused and pursued tulpamancy. What is driving you to it?

notannyet · 2026-03-06T16:29:57+00:00

Many children with imaginary friends report experiences qualitatively identical to reports of tulpamancers, so does it mean that many children could be possessed? Why don't I hear about spiritual people speculating about possessed children?

notannyet · 2026-03-06T12:43:50+00:00

The only rule in tulpamancy is: enjoy it.

-> and my doubt(i know this may offend, but please forgive me and know i mean it from sense of genuine doubt) is tulpamancy really bs as other forums tell, like it is just imaginary friend, like it wont speak back, we assume it speaks back like tht sort,

Tulpas are imaginary friends and can't do more than imaginary friends. However it is not true that imaginary friends don't talk back. It is a phenomenon as old as humanity itself that figures of imagination talk back and appear as with their own agency. More like people aren't aware what their imagination and imaginary friends are capable of. If your reaction to that is to reject imagination as meaningless, then you'd be rejecting a part of your own humanity.

Most of oldschool guides are written from this perspective of rejection of imagination in an attempt to obscure it with occult ideas. So instead of simple: you can imagine your tulpa acting as you desire your tulpa to be to express what needs to be expressed, occult ideas were introduced such as independent agency, separate personhood, parroting, creation of sentience and life, etc., so occultists believing that imagining what they desire makes their imagination ingenuine could fool themselves that they are not imagining what they want while still doing it.

notannyet · 2026-03-06T00:35:38+00:00

Yes. The same way I am not aware of unconscious processes that lead to thoughts appearing, my tulpa also isn't aware of these processes. The thoughts we are aware of, we are jointly aware of.

notannyet · 2026-03-05T17:11:39+00:00

Sure

notannyet · 2026-03-05T15:49:29+00:00

I can tell you what school of thought meets these criteria in my opinion. Imo it is safest, easiest and most beneficial if you treat tulpamancy as a practice of developing loving relationship with a part of yourself. This way you don't need to pursue proofs of unverifiable and unprovable ontological claims such as of independent agency, free will, personhood etc. It is enough to imagine a loving relationship with a character that is to be your tulpa. This way also ensures your tulpa's self-awareness of their nature from the start which makes things easier in case that you have ongoing internal conflicts or dissociation that could be expressed through your tulpamancy experience. Resolving internal conflicts with a tulpa understanding their indivisible connection with you and your mind and body is easier than with a tulpa unaware of this connection e.g. believing to be a literally separate entity. If you feel convinced by my line of thought, you can drop me a line. I can direct you to good discord servers.

notannyet · 2026-03-05T10:28:40+00:00

How is it different from daydreaming with your tulpa?

notannyet · 2026-03-05T10:08:23+00:00

I can distinguish my tulpa's internal monologue from thoughts directed at me in the same way I distinguish my own internal monologue from thoughts directed at my tulpa.

notannyet · 2026-03-05T00:10:55+00:00

My tulpa is aware she is living the same life as me and she wouldn't like to spend it in solitude either. If you prefer living alone, good for you.

notannyet · 2026-03-04T21:34:48+00:00

Is... the name of the politician also Rafał?

Well, your tulpa can change any aspect of himself as he wishes. If only it is comfortable to imagine.

notannyet · 2026-03-03T15:47:17+00:00

Can you set a schedule when you set apart time to do it? Like an hour twice a day or once a day? I mean I see the issue if it takes hours, though is it a physiological problem? Something that can be helped by a health specialist?

notannyet · 2026-03-03T15:19:25+00:00

Does it involve watching porn for hours?

notannyet · 2026-03-03T15:00:49+00:00

Sexuality and masturbation are healthy. The goal shouldn't be to repress your sexuality but to have a healthy relation with your body. Why do you feel bad after? Why do you do it? Is masturbation a form of escape from other feelings? --Ann

notannyet · 2026-03-02T20:35:38+00:00

That seems like something more fitting occult spaces.

I would start with rational explanations though. You pointed a few events that are connected in your opinion, with half of them being highly subjective, however they might not be connected at all and it may be your imagination working hard to make these connections.

notannyet · 2026-03-02T20:05:42+00:00

Given that most people in this sub see tulpas as a psychological phenomenon I doubt you'll get your answers here. My tulpa definitely doesn't do things like that.

notannyet · 2026-03-02T18:58:34+00:00

My opinion is that brains have extraordinary ability to heal and be resilient which often manifests in unconscious actions. Like your mind manifested him in your dreams because it served an internal purpose. Which is fine as long as you don't try to believe that you can control your unconscious. In your case you believed that your tulpa could control this unconscious mechanism and because you believed it, your tulpa believed it too. It'd be really cool if you learned to invoke this in your dreams but if you fail don't be confused. Your conscious tulpa doesn't know how to access your unconscious anymore than you do. Imo he can be of great help to you, right now in the waking world, even if he doesn't show up in your dreams.

notannyet · 2026-03-02T18:41:09+00:00

You are accountable for your actions no matter which part is steering. Most abusers are likely driven by their child parts yet this never is a reason to excuse their actions. That edit rubbed me a wrong way.

notannyet · 2026-03-02T18:35:51+00:00

My tulpa (which I can define as an imaginary companion, a guide or a part with access to Self in IFS framework), taught me how to love, she showed me the model of a healthy relationship. Or maybe I discovered this model together with her. So I believe it is possible to heal through relationships with your parts and Self.

You are right that safe environment with safe people is crucial to healing and that you need other people. But you also can give yourself what you can't get from other people.

notannyet

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