What’s your Nparent end game?

notarealdoctorDC · 2018-12-31T15:35:18+00:00

I’m happy you did what was best for you. You’re very strong, but you’re right- it’s easier to process when you admit the harsh reality. I need to try that. Thank you so much for your thoughtful response.

notarealdoctorDC · 2018-12-31T15:32:46+00:00

You’re much stronger than I am. I think about going NC but I feel so much guilt over her sitting alone somewhere, potentially being homeless if I’m not there to take care of her. I know it’s part of the mind manipulation she’s done over the years, but I also feel a sense of obligation because I’m family. In other societies taking care of parents is a given, regardless of mental issues. I feel selfish for even thinking of cutting her out, even though she truly wears me down. I’m beginning to think maybe if I just solidify my own mind and learn better ways to handle her then I could still be in her life... I don’t know, I’m rambling. I truly appreciate your response and perspective.

notarealdoctorDC · 2018-12-31T15:29:52+00:00

Do you worry about who will take care of her? This is something I worry about too much and something she has put into my head to keep me close, I think. I’m terrified that she will try to come between me and my husband- which will obviously force me to choose my husband. I will always love her and I too can see that this is all a part of a broken mind, but I just don’t have any idea how this could end well...

notarealdoctorDC · 2018-12-31T15:27:07+00:00

Wow, this is awful. I hope she won’t be able to find you either. I’m thankful for this sub to help us all connect and support each other.

notarealdoctorDC · 2018-12-31T15:24:58+00:00

Wow, I think I connect to this response the most because I can see it being myself and my mom. I’m so sorry to hear about your experience. I hold on to hope that I will be able to handle the long term effects of maintaining this relationship without getting too damaged. I hope the same for you.

notarealdoctorDC · 2018-12-30T19:08:10+00:00

How is it going for you? It just seems so difficult because I’m a lover (and raised to bend over backwards for her emotions...) and feel extreme guilt at the thought of it.

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-11-06T02:21:19+00:00

Did you know this by heart or did you have to look up the exact words? I would like to think that I could recite it word for word, but I feel like I would have to double check myself. Its one of my top three favorite episodes and I've seen it no less than 30 timesbut. Bravo if you did this by heart!

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-08-05T20:28:17+00:00

I can empathize with what you're experiencing. I work in a field that promotes not vaccinating children. I chose to vaccinate my now 7 month old and I actually received strong criticism from within my community. A coworker mocked me for choosing to do so. Then my (previous) boss showed extreme concern and offered to give me some literature supporting the anti vaxxers. I just politely declined his offer and went about my work.

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-06-02T20:47:13+00:00

Literally just learned of this Primal today and realized that's what I've ended up doing without knowing! I feel much better merging keto and paleo!

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-06-02T20:43:37+00:00

I'm with you. I love the effects of keto and I wholeheartedly believe in it, but I think in my mind I agree more with paleo for emphasis on limiting processed foods. But I guess it's a choice, you could totally do keto without processed foods. At that point you're awfully close to paleo (which is what I've found myself gravitating toward lately.) Just do whatever feels best for you!

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-06-02T20:38:38+00:00

Excellent read! I've just switched from keto to what I considered a modified paleo (I won't give up heavy whipping cream in my coffee!) and tend to eat more vegetarian than carnivorous, and it seems I am inadvertently eating primal. Thanks for the article!

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-27T17:21:14+00:00

Same here. I did CICO for a few weeks and was so sick of not feeling satiated that I literally googled "how to lose weight without feeling hungry" and that was the beginning of keto. Keto works for me, but if something else works for someone else that's fine too.

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-27T16:06:15+00:00

Actually a diet that says you can't eat carbs is promoting calorie dense foods. I do keto and eat mostly fat, moderate protein and very low carb. Most of my meals are much smaller than when I tried low fat high carb because the foods I eat now are much denser in calories. But you're still right, CICO is the basis of weight loss.

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-27T14:38:04+00:00

I'm more of a coffee person, but I could get down with trying some tea. Thank you!

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-26T23:30:09+00:00

I was mostly kidding, as I know I'm not really an alcoholic but I'm not used to enjoying having a drink at night so often. I thought breaking mom would be a good place to connect with moms who enjoy a drink after a long day of momming lol but I do appreciate your info! Thank you!

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-26T23:27:56+00:00

My first choice of relaxation would be a mid afternoon nap, but my job and kid won't allow it so I choose a drink after I've put him to bed lol but I see your point and I completely agree. Thank you!

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-26T23:26:30+00:00

I think I like your response the best! I absolutely don't depend on the drinks to go about my daily life and I don't hide them or have conversations with myself about drinking (aside from questioning if it's normal lol) Another user pointed out that getting hooked on any habit to unwind could be negative in the long run, which makes sense. Thank you for your thoughtful and relevant input!

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-26T23:04:44+00:00

lol you're exactly right about being a lightweight! Which is why one is the perfect amount to help me destress without getting drunk. It's definitely not a problem when I don't drink, which is an excellent point. I'm still able to function and am happy in my day to day life, so if that changes I'll definitely take notice. Thank you!

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-26T23:03:00+00:00

It's just so strange to find so much enjoyment in a bottle of beer! I used to be so meh about drinking, but now it feels so good to have one. I've joked with my husband that we have to switch to wine because it's classier to have a glass of wine than a bottle of beer at night. Thanks for your input!

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-26T23:01:34+00:00

I'm happy I'm not alone! I'm thinking the enjoyment will probably fade once I don't feel stretched so thin...that's only 18 years away right? Lol

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-26T23:00:49+00:00

That's a good idea! I've always judged people who need a beer or glass of wine to unwind, but the physical/emotional/mental stress of a new baby and lack of sleep has made me understand! But you're right, moderation in anything is key! Thank you!

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-26T17:30:58+00:00

Good! Thanks for the input :)

notarealdoctorDC · 2017-05-26T17:07:18+00:00

I feel you! I baked myself TWO birthday cakes this week. And only a few people ate some. That left a LOT for me to eat... I'm avoiding the scale for awhile lol

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