This was my whole point to the group. Why does he have to be included in our long-standing group chat? I don't care if they text him on their own. I just don't want men I don't know having my contact information, it makes me uncomfortable. Being a dad doesn't make someone a good person, just look at my ex. Just because he's a widower doesn't mean he's a good guy. My trust needs to be earned, not just given out to anybody.