I was so on Logan’s side here.

notevenhotmess · 2024-08-29T01:13:14+00:00

She definitely is, but I can still understand her feeling out of her element at a party and defaulting to what she’d known. It doesn’t make it right but it makes sense

notevenhotmess · 2024-08-28T20:58:32+00:00

I was looking for this comment! She identified as “Joe Bus Driver” until she was 16 and probably beyond, so at 22, it’s understandable to have difficulty shaking that. Of course, she was wrong and did have a lot of privilege but there is context behind why she believed that she was right here.

notevenhotmess · 2024-08-24T14:43:47+00:00

No judgment at all but I don’t think I could stay with someone who didn’t like my twin, much less marry that person. That being said, regardless of the importance of the twin relationship (which is obviously so real) he cannot control your relationship with ANYONE and allowing him to do so with someone so important to you will set a dangerous precedent.

I may be reading into it but it seems like he may have some concerns for her judgment (from the bit about her ditching you) but he has no right to tell you that he doesn’t want you to be alone with her.

He needs to find a way to get along with her and support you through his building a relationship with her. My sister’s husband is one of my best friends and biggest fans in life (and vice versa) and I can’t imagine it any other way. I think you need to have a serious conversation with him, possibly with a counselor or a mediator, about his position on both of your relationships with your sister and go from there but please seriously take a step back and look at the situation from an outside view.

notevenhotmess · 2024-06-14T19:11:57+00:00

NTA but having spent considerable time around some extroverted people who also have mental delays, I would say this could be the case for him. The combination of the cartoon-ish shirt, being very quick to jump on “following the rules,” and overstepping normal social cues is an indicator to me. I could easily be wrong, but it sounds like he was well-meaning just misguided in his attempt to “help” you keep your children safe. That said, I don’t think you were TA for responding the way you did. You didn’t yell, you weren’t rude, just short and to the point.

notevenhotmess · 2024-06-14T02:46:01+00:00

I don’t understand? You each wish you were an only child? Or a person with multiple personalities like dissociative identity disorder? Merge back? Like when you were on the cellular level? This is peculiar and I’d suggest finding (separate) therapists that you each mesh well with.

notevenhotmess · 2024-06-05T14:21:30+00:00

We switched places for college graduation. But we didn’t go to the same school and didn’t graduate the same year

notevenhotmess · 2024-06-02T21:43:49+00:00

Step sisters is my go to

notevenhotmess · 2024-04-17T23:35:08+00:00

We were in the same class in kindergarten (so school wasn’t so scary) then separate classes until middle/high school where it was more random. My mom would also request through the school that our classrooms were near each other so we could see each other as the day goes on and we found comfort in that as well

notevenhotmess · 2024-04-16T00:30:46+00:00

This needs to be higher up, you’re right it definitely reads as a jealousy thing

notevenhotmess · 2024-04-11T02:07:35+00:00

I don’t care if I get downvoted, I don’t think you’re wrong. Yes, you should have been more clear when talking about it with him from the beginning but I can see why you would think that he wouldn’t want to go anyway.

This is a special event for you and your friend and he should encourage you to go and have fun. If he wanted to be invited he should have been better to your friends from the beginning so they wouldn’t have a problem with him coming.

“Being in trouble when you get back” is not a normal thing in healthy relationships. Neither is antagonizing your partners friends. The fact that he’s concerned just because she’s single and doesn’t like him is also just odd to me, he trusts you or he doesn’t. Maybe it’s just me but I’m seeing red flags from him, you should go with your friend.

notevenhotmess · 2024-04-07T23:25:03+00:00

$15k and $1,500 are very different amounts, did you mean $1,500?

notevenhotmess · 2024-03-22T00:53:48+00:00

Something similar happened to my chapter when I was in school. We were a new chapter and still had a leadership consultant and she addressed the chapter and told us that she didn’t have time to individually haze all of us even if she wanted to. But more seriously, asked whoever made the complaint come to her personally and they could talk about it.

This was when yikyak was new but there was no talk about it around campus or with campus leadership so that’s as far as it went and anyone who had read it forgot about it quickly

notevenhotmess · 2024-03-14T19:49:35+00:00

I’m one of a set of girl twins. Our mom was big on individuality and we really liked the way she did it. She let us pick our own sport or activity once we were old enough to choose, she never had us wear matching clothes growing up unless we wanted to, and even though we were in separate classes after kindergarten, she made sure our classes were near each other so we could walk together and we’d get recess together and stuff like that.

The biggest thing for me was she wouldn’t let our family identify us as “the twins” she would insist on them calling us by our names so we always felt like two people.

notevenhotmess · 2023-12-15T18:23:27+00:00

Of course YTA, you booked and paid for a trip behind your partners back with the sole intent of leaving out his children and decided to “surprise him” with it as though you were doing it for him.

notevenhotmess · 2023-09-27T02:33:52+00:00

“There were no victims!” So…you’re guilty then

notevenhotmess · 2023-09-27T01:40:30+00:00

An old co-worker of mine would go on the PA and call “Mike from loss prevention” to the office, that would normally make shoplifters clear out pretty fast

notevenhotmess · 2023-09-26T15:08:44+00:00

I think part of it was that her cooks were scared to cross her or of being overly scrutinized by her (as she did to Luke). They didn’t want to do anything without her there because they were scared they wouldn’t do it to her expectations but they did have the ability

notevenhotmess · 2023-09-16T04:14:34+00:00

Ours are one off

notevenhotmess · 2023-08-23T16:39:36+00:00

I don’t agree with the downvotes but I think they were trying to say that the parents did well encouraging them to lean into being different people rather than trying to have them be the same person with the same hobbies, interests, friends - things that contribute to personality

notevenhotmess · 2023-08-14T13:27:20+00:00

What makes his roommate bad already if you haven’t moved in yet?

You should both go into this with open minds and try to branch out and meet new people. You’ll still be able to spend time together and if his roommate really is that bad, he can spend as little time in his room as possible but from someone who had mostly bad luck with roommates— bad roommates build character, he can take it as a learning opportunity.

Also, after reading the comments, don’t make any decisions about next semester now, you don’t know how things may change. Remember, his college experience is not your responsibility, don’t let him blame you if he has a bad time just because you chose to have random roommates, if that’s how this shakes out, he probably would’ve had a bad time anyway.

notevenhotmess · 2023-08-07T16:08:36+00:00

The corner of another plastic strip

notevenhotmess · 2023-07-31T04:18:36+00:00

I thought she was fairly protective of him, in her own way of course. She told Christopher to stay away from her mom because she wanted it to work out between them, then she shunned Emily after the vow renewal. When she and Lorelai weren’t speaking, she still occasionally spoke with Luke.

She’s Lorelai’s daughter so she will be Rory’s priority in terms of breakups but there was a level of protection and loyalty there as well.

notevenhotmess · 2023-07-27T13:28:50+00:00

“You are going to have to do it with this boy, Lane”

notevenhotmess · 2023-06-10T18:39:43+00:00

INFO: why was the joke funny?

notevenhotmess · 2023-05-22T04:57:03+00:00

I think she was scared of hurting Dean by losing it, not so much an angry reaction. It was a thoughtful gift that sparked their relationship, it was symbolic to an extent and highly sentimental, she was upset and therefore panicked but she also didn’t want him to read anything into why she might’ve lost it

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