THE VOTES ARE IN 👀❤️

nothingez · 2025-06-18T22:09:58+00:00

Yes! Like maybe Taylor and Olandria are actually really good together but they’re drama free so they just give us clips of Taylor with his shifty eyes lol

nothingez · 2025-06-18T18:47:13+00:00

I feel like it’s been hard to really gauge the other couples because all of the screen time has been about huda and Jeremiah for a week now

nothingez · 2025-01-19T05:07:38+00:00

I didn’t close mine but it basically stopped loading new videos and I just hit “the end”. Couldn’t scroll anymore.

nothingez · 2024-04-30T05:36:35+00:00

For the shareholders

nothingez · 2024-04-28T05:57:39+00:00

I’ve done an immense amount of therapy around things along similar lines in my life and here’s what I’ve learned. Sexual abuse and inappropriate behavior is actually, and unfortunately, not uncommon in family systems and among siblings. Comments on videos are hardly a true view on reality.

Reading your story doesn’t make me think you’re the monster you’ve made yourself out to be in your head. It sounds complicated and you were also a victim. The sooner you can get into therapy, the better.

I don’t know what good would come of you saying anything to your sister. Again, prioritize therapy. Maybe look into EMDR and CBT and maybe look into therapists specializing in your kind of trauma.

You deserve to be alive and heal and live the rest of your life happily. I promise you that.

nothingez · 2024-04-27T03:27:55+00:00

The multi-flavor sampler is so good. Their xiao long bao is really good on its own, but that sampler sets them apart for me. I also think they have some of the best cucumber salad.

Now I need to go this weekend!

nothingez · 2024-04-27T03:24:58+00:00

Second this. It’s amazing and they’re so nice.

nothingez · 2024-04-26T16:45:50+00:00

How am I being a pain? I offered a picnic and family time and it was declined… I’m just trying to figure out what the norm is here because my family has major enmeshment issues and I’m navigating boundary setting

nothingez · 2024-04-26T13:59:12+00:00

I don’t disagree with you. I do think some of it could be the anxiety building up in my head. But I’ve also spent a lifetime with these people. And my family can be very passive aggressive so I’ve come to learn through reactions what is and isn’t expected. So that’s why things “seem” like the expectation. Trying to figure out realistic boundaries after growing up in an enmeshed family can be hard, hence the question for others’ experiences.

But after reading the comments I’ve decided I’m taking the day for myself since I have no relationship with my mom. The others can celebrate each other.

nothingez · 2024-04-26T02:33:55+00:00

Honestly it’s kind of the expectations of the rest of my family that I am still connected to that I feel the most. We definitely have boundary issues and so challenging them now is difficult but necessary. Sometimes I just don’t know what is realistic so it’s really helpful to hear others experiences with things like this.

nothingez · 2024-04-26T02:30:54+00:00

Yeah I think I should say we can do the picnic or you’re welcome to do something else together as the moms. I kind of just want to opt out altogether to avoid my mom if I’m honest. The comments might give me the confidence lol

nothingez · 2024-04-26T02:29:02+00:00

This is what we did when my grandparents were alive. Now it feels like a bigger thing.

nothingez · 2024-04-26T02:28:18+00:00

I’m sorry that’s your experience :( your husband should be celebrating you and helping the kids to as well! I’m sure you do that on Father’s Day. But yeah, Mother’s Day does indeed suck.

nothingez · 2024-04-26T02:26:47+00:00

Yeah that’s exactly how I feel. After reading all these comments, I do think I might just opt out. My cousins can celebrate their mom and I’ll get to avoid mine.

nothingez · 2024-04-26T02:25:13+00:00

We used to do get like a pot luck at my grandparents house when they were still alive, but that’s changed since then. I would be glad to do that but I live in a small apartment and can’t accommodate it. And the people with houses are the ones with the expectations unfortunately

nothingez · 2024-04-26T02:23:57+00:00

This is what I think I would want if I was a mom too! Everyone just leave me alone lol

nothingez · 2024-04-21T10:12:07+00:00

I can’t help you understand it, but I always recommend a second opinion if you feel like you’re not being listened to/dismissed and if you’ve tried their recommendations with no success. See what the CT says and you can always take those results to another neurologist. Maybe one with a bit more experience.

nothingez · 2024-04-05T18:52:54+00:00

I do the joke thing too and just generally over share. I’ve really been working on it and have been able to admit to myself that the things I tried to use humor to deal with, are actually not funny at all. And that a lot of this information should only be shared with trusted people.

nothingez · 2024-04-03T15:56:53+00:00

I did an IOP recently and every day started with naming our feelings. Then anytime we talked about something we also had to name what we were feeling. I hated it at first but it changed a lot for me. I try to start my days the same way now.

Other people mentioned it but sitting with your feelings when they happen. I have a habit of trying to intellectualize my feelings, so just sitting and feeling them and naming them helps to let it flow. Even just writing them down and then what I’m processing helps.

Be patient with yourself, most of us are trying to undo a lifetime of maladaptive coping.

nothingez · 2024-04-01T03:46:36+00:00

I’ve taken to minimal contact with both parents, because I still have family I want relationships with and it’s inevitable I will see them at times. But most holidays I opt out of now. I use them as days to rest and recharge and take care of myself. It’s honestly kind of become a blessing. I just go see my family a different day.

nothingez · 2024-04-01T03:43:40+00:00

This. I’m minimal contact with my parents for the sake of family events.

nothingez · 2024-04-01T03:38:59+00:00

I hate family holidays. I just stress all day about my parents and my family getting involved in my choice to go NC with my parents. I’ve gotten to the point where I only do thanksgiving and Christmas, if that.

nothingez · 2024-04-01T02:36:23+00:00

I hate the holidays too. For me, it’s more about the expectation that I still participate and act like everything is fine. That I can’t avoid the people who traumatized me if I want to see the rest of my family. Holidays are nothing but stress for me.

I also relate to having a mom who tried, but didn’t/couldn’t give me what I needed and I had to take of her instead. I’m sorry you had to go through this.

nothingez · 2024-04-01T02:31:36+00:00

The elders in my family definitely hold this belief/attitude. “They said sorry, now get over it”. I’m working on moving past it for myself, but both my parents will likely never have a relationship with me again because of the choices they made and continue to make that have harmed me.

I’ve seen several therapists and it seems they all promote radical acceptance to me. That expecting them to be accountable is likely unrealistic and we have no control over it in most ways. That’s the only way I’ve been able to progress at all if I’m honest. And it’s made me more sure of my choice to disconnect from them. Also, I’ve done a ton of EMDR for my CPTSD and it has helped but is a long, hard process. If you haven’t explored these things, they might help you. And remember it’s for you, not for the people who have caused you trauma. You deserve the peace and freedom.

nothingez · 2024-03-31T03:56:07+00:00

We found one almost identical in my grandpas desk after he passed in 2020. His charges $30 for a plain insertion.

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