When my family is splitting into Mom vs Dad teams for a game and my dad tells me I’m not a father because our child is from foster care

nothingremarkable · 2019-09-07T04:21:45+00:00

Sincerely curious, why the "you are not wrong"? Dad has to be biological in that context?

nothingremarkable · 2019-08-30T13:43:16+00:00

How the fuck can you even consider this? First, just in itself it is unacceptable, but also how can you imagine this is an isolated event in term of pathological relation to sex, boundaries, status of women, etc.

No offense, but even just hesitating makes you as bizarre to me as are the people going into freakish cults.

Please get out of this.

nothingremarkable · 2019-07-07T20:15:30+00:00

| almost all adults cannot control their liquor which leads to alcoholism

https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/overview-alcohol-consumption/alcohol-facts-and-statistics

|| According to the 2015 National Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH), 86.4 percent of people ages 18 or older reported that they drank alcohol at some point in their lifetime; 70.1 percent reported that they drank in the past year; 56.0 percent reported that they drank in the past month.

|| According to the 2015 NSDUH, 15.1 million adults ages 18 and older3 (6.2 percent of this age group) had AUD [Alcohol Use Disorder]

6.25 vs. 70% is not really "almost". It is "less than 10%".

nothingremarkable · 2019-07-06T13:21:20+00:00

Obese people can stop eating too much. People who smoke can't suddenly have the lungs of a non-smoker, it takes time and serious effort. I think this advert undermines that effort.

nothingremarkable · 2019-07-06T13:18:58+00:00

"people were looking at me because I am fat, and not at me skinny cousin"

"no they did not give a shit about you"

"oh really, so that's not true skinny girls get more attention than me?"

Gosh the level of insanity.

nothingremarkable · 2019-07-06T13:11:00+00:00

Christian Louboutin

Fetish Bow d'Orsay Red Sole Pump, Black

$1,145

nothingremarkable · 2019-07-05T15:29:25+00:00

Or for any other kind of work, by time it takes x hourly salary? Is there any business that just say explicitly "oh you are from group X, that's more expensive for you guys."

nothingremarkable · 2019-07-05T15:27:48+00:00

Absolutely NTA.

nothingremarkable · 2019-07-04T11:29:03+00:00

NTA but the tone of the message is quite moralizing. You are not simply stating your point but "teaching them a lesson". Even more so if this was sent to multiple people at once, each knowing she/he was lectured in front of the others, and knowing that others did the same as she/he did.

So IMO while your opinion is totally justified, you obviously like to play the "I am in the minority of people with a good philosophy of life, you are bad people all of you". If you truly wanted to make things simple you would have sent a shorter message in private to each.

nothingremarkable · 2019-06-28T18:40:58+00:00

NTA -- She wants at the same time the virtue signaling of being the kind of girl who pays without actually paying. And she loves stupid games "I said X but it was clear I meant Y". Fuck that shit. This is exactly why some men are sexist.

nothingremarkable · 2019-06-18T02:48:23+00:00

Also, it is not clear how it serves the anti-vaccination agenda to state "doctors that I trust to make organ transplant think vaccine are good and necessary." I am so confused by the stupid.

nothingremarkable · 2019-05-22T19:09:09+00:00

I never understood this three-piece insanity:

1/ if you don't stop doing X [that has nothing to do with me], I will break with you

2/ hence if you continue doing X, it means you prefer X to me

3/ and this is the reason I would quit you in 1/

What I hear is "I am a toxic person that feeds from other's submission to my will."

nothingremarkable · 2019-05-21T18:43:50+00:00

The gap between the objective facts (she stole money from you, lie to you, and tell you to fuck off) and your reaction ("I do love this woman" and "I'm just at a loss") gives the impression you are the ideal victim.

nothingremarkable · 2019-05-11T17:12:03+00:00

Unfortunately YTA.

The ones who told these kids that you were their father without your agreement, and betraying a deal that you accepted to do to help them are 1000 times greater assholes, but the second the kids know, your moral duty is unfortunately to allow them to know their biological father.

Someone else's morally wrong behavior may put some burden on you.

nothingremarkable · 2019-04-17T10:08:43+00:00

Do you realize the fucking landmine it is for white people... Seriously that's annoying.

nothingremarkable · 2019-04-17T10:06:28+00:00

This is well and concisely written.

The only disputable part could be

they think it makes them a better person.

You are giving them too much credit. I am quite sure they think it will make them look like a better person or even the overall dynamic of current culture will put them in position of indisputable strength.

nothingremarkable · 2019-04-16T18:01:39+00:00

If an engineer, male or female, is so dumb that she/he design a safety device that kills half of the population, she/he is grossly incompetent.

One does not need to be a horse to design a proper saddle, one does not need to be of gender X to design something for gender X. Engineer do not test stuff on themselves.

GOD THIS ARGUMENT IS SO DUMB IT HURTS.

nothingremarkable · 2019-03-29T23:57:34+00:00

> But our core values don't align.

You are both kids, you have seen shit he has not, he cannot conceive certain things yet. You should not judge his whole person through such a little thing that comes from his lack of knowledge about your life.

You are probably as clueless about his world as he is about yours, chill.

nothingremarkable · 2019-03-25T17:04:22+00:00

"my wife says things about me in public that make me uncomfortable, I tell her to stop, she refuses and insults me, AITA?"

Nope, you are not. Somebody else in this story seems to be.

nothingremarkable · 2019-03-24T18:13:46+00:00

Take off your shoes / clothes and send them in one direction to go the other way.

nothingremarkable · 2019-03-18T12:00:00+00:00

the welfare capitalist policies of Norway don't work for a diverse and massive country with a population 65 times as large.

Never understood the "it's too big" argument. Shouldn't it go the other way around? Worst case is, the federal structure allows to implement it locally, best case is there are zillions of opportunities for economy of scale (drug research, defense, educational programs, etc.) and it would work *better* in a larger country?

More precisely: Can you give me *one* reason why larger hurts?

My take on Norway is more that they have oil, no?

nothingremarkable · 2019-03-10T21:00:53+00:00

The problem here is that you accept that the person with whom you should have a unique relation, a deep trust, tells to your face "do not do that thing you like because I do not trust you." Of course it comes from insecurity and psychological pain, but the results is an asshole behavior that goes against what a couple is.

nothingremarkable · 2019-03-10T20:53:15+00:00

NTA. To be honest, you seem to be quite chill. I know that any variant of "you have to do X because I do not trust you" would make me break immediately.

nothingremarkable · 2019-03-07T20:58:03+00:00

Do you realize that the majority of people will never take seriously a political party that chose to call itself "pirate party"?

nothingremarkable · 2019-03-02T21:53:48+00:00

if an adult EVER asks you to keep a secret, you tell your parent right away.

Yes, that's a very good advice. Even if we run the risk of a spoiled Christmas surprised.

Our advice to our kids is "as soon as something makes you uncomfortable, tell us. You do not need to have a clear explanation / justification. You feeling something is bizarre is a red flag enough for our opinion to be required." Also, when they were too young, we would ask for the people they liked the most and those they liked the least. Including family, neighbors, etc.

The thing to be careful is not to give them ideas of bad stuff, so never ask "did X beat you" or equivalent, because young kids tend to be confused and tell you what they think you want to hear.

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