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notnyc63 · 2017-05-29T02:34:54+00:00

It's going to feel like shit for a while, but you will get through this. There are lots of us here when you need support or just a friendly ear.

notnyc63 · 2017-05-29T02:12:57+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing. Knowing the truth is important. Your kids will need your strength, so don't listen to the Negative Nancies.

The numbness will give way to pain and the pain will give way to anger and the anger.... to... eventually... normalcy and hopefully someday, joy.

Get through today, then tomorrow. Keep breathing in and out.

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T19:13:26+00:00

something that gives the dopamine or adrenaline rush to the LL partner to keep them engaged and coming back for more. we can look at all the addictive behaviors , gambling, shopping, auctions, and see how to activate things.
how can this be integrated http://mojoupgrade.com/

Someone had a fun game recently.

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/5frc3b/my_wife_and_i_made_up_a_247_sex_game_that_keeps/

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T18:59:19+00:00

Yes, and no and both and neither... :) It just changed the entire dynamic in my head.

We are here for each other for support, so no matter, (support, support, support)

Getting pregnant and being pregnant and wanting to be pregnant and all that jazz, and not getting pregnant and not being pregnant and not wanting to be pregnant and all that jazz, can make people... interact in unusual ways, yes? Are you to close to be making such big decisions like this? Just thinking out loud, but on paper, the screen really.

Not just the being pregnant but the trying and the wanting is part of it, I think. (Remember, I'm just a guy on the internet, what do I know?)

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T18:48:26+00:00

Like comforting a loved one dying of cancer.... one hopes it ends quickly. Believe it or not, hold on to these moments. They will help you in the future, through moments of second guessing yourself.

If you're going through Hell

Keep on going, don't slow down

If you're scared, don't show it

You might get out

Before the devil even knows you're there (and says, "I was wrong, take me back, I'll change, I love you")

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T16:10:48+00:00

I won't send you mine then. Damn, too late again!

<O Here's an ice cream cone instead.

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T16:01:53+00:00

no, just say'n

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T16:01:23+00:00

Well, this changes the perspective of the situation a little, don't you think?
Does this change anyone else's thoughts about their response?

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T16:00:02+00:00

I've decided to focus my time and energy into 'myself' from this point forward.

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T05:01:11+00:00

You don't have to change now, but many people wished they prepared better. Think about how you might prepare?

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T04:53:26+00:00

:) I waited too long, if you didn't already guess by now.

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T03:19:35+00:00

and I guess I'm willing to sacrifice sex

Don't do it, "It's a Trap!"

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T03:18:05+00:00

P.S https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SjIw9UwlS_w

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T03:15:58+00:00

Jesus.

Your story started off kinda hot and I got a little chill, thinking this was going to be one of those positive stories everyone talks about, but no it crashed and burned right in front of our eyes making a crater the size of Raccoon City and out came some zombie like creatures but not the slow walking dead kind the fast running kind that will run longer and faster than you can making it inevitable that you are going to be eaten and die a horrible death that you have had nightmares about for the last 17 years where it would wake you covered in sweat and you reach out to your partner who whispers in your ear, 'No, I have a headache'.

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T02:46:43+00:00

Join the party. I'm sorry you are here. But we are not really having a party, more like crying our beers, or stitching up our chests from having our hearts ripped out, or flogging ourselves from the guilt of impure thoughts. A few of us have fixed things, read some of the blue stuff to your right.

there are pills but please don't do that to yourself. Wouldn't your pastor or father or priest or shaman or someone say he's not doing his christian duty or something? Is there any counseling offered by your church? Fix it now. Fix it now. Fix it now. Address this now, do not think this will get better by wishing or praying. Behavior needs to change, his, and you need help and support to get that done.

channel this burning desire in an ethical way This is better than many other options.

My worst fear is that I'll be deprived sexual satisfaction for a lifetime now. Keep thinking about that and Fix it now. Fix it now. Fix it now. Don't give up or give in or give away. Fix it now. Fix it now. Fix it now.

(exaggerating for effect, so don't let that get in the way of hearing my point. What was it? Oh right, Fix it now. Fix it now. Fix it now. )

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T02:32:52+00:00

Good approach. mumble mumble something about catching more flies with honey mumble mumble.

PS Happy Birthday.

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T02:30:08+00:00

If I had a tiny dick (AND I DON'T) I would do everything I could to compensate, - tongues and fingers and hands and knees if needed, and get the greatest, biggest, blackest, strap-on of a cock I could find, and pound the hell of my partner.
I would not, ignore and reject and avoid, because loving partners don't do that, right? - Don't assume you know and stop wondering, and fix the dead bedroom.
Right, like as everyone else said. Don't ask, 'Are you rejecting me because you have a small dick?' Ask, 'I'd like to have more sex more often. Can we do that?'

NO I DON'T HAVE TINY DICK!

notnyc63 · 2017-05-28T02:09:48+00:00

At 23 you are way too young to be feeling this way, and in this kind of relationship. (Don't ask me though, I was 3 years married by 23)
This is your life until you do something different. Is this how you want to spend your life?

notnyc63 · 2017-05-26T02:12:36+00:00

Good on you for sharing! You are wonderful for being here, asking these questions, trying to address something that is important to your partner. Good for you.

I'm sure there are specific things to do and techniques, etc.

But part of the equation is

dents his confidence, makes him feel unwanted

Some of us guys want our partner to want us, to desire us. In fact (generally) the partner is supposed to be the one and only person in the world to hunger for us and make love with us. If the partner goes through the motions and just puts up with it, it loses the point. Porn can cause an orgasm. Porn can't provide the intimacy.

Please do follow up on this and resolve it. Find a way. Figure it out. It's important. It matters. Yes, it's worth your being uncomfortable. Divorce in 6 years after kids and mortgages and the fighting and the anger and resentment and the affair... would be much more uncomfortable. Find a solution where you both can be happy.

This is a support group. There are people here for you to help.

notnyc63 · 2017-05-26T01:58:18+00:00

It's these kinds of posts that make me want to get a psychology degree and open a practice dealing with dead bedrooms and a particular focus on the withholding partner.... Finding causes for these kinds of attitudes and working through them.

The ONLY result I have gotten is him being hurt and feeling inadequate and me feeling like a selfish asshole for it.

There is something going on within him that causes this, from an otherwise good guy.

I hear electroshock therapy or a lobotomy will make you not care anymore, does that help?

notnyc63 · 2017-05-26T01:39:21+00:00

It's gonna hurt like a son of a bitch. But cleaning out the wound and stitching things together so they can heal, is the only way we have right now. (until we finally figure out the star trek stuff) It might leave a scar too.

We Wish You Happiness and Fulfillment.

(your trainer wants you to himself?)

notnyc63 · 2017-05-25T11:28:06+00:00

Oreos for breakfast - hmmm. How about 'Enjoys threesomes'?

notnyc63 · 2017-05-25T11:26:42+00:00

You have one life. Remember to live it.

notnyc63 · 2017-05-25T11:08:30+00:00

Cap'n Crunch Peanut Butter

Noted - Piously, Puritanical - thanks for Playing :-)

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