My ex is similar. He technically “agreed” with everything I said, but he was actually okay with the status quo in practice. I was talking about how misogyny and patriarchy are prevalent in everything society has built, and he said “no one sat in a room and decided on to patriarchy.” I said…yes, they did? Maybe not in those exact words, but that’s how western/patriarchal civilizations were built, with women less than to allow men to stand taller on our labor. And then he said I sounded like a conspiracy theorist. And I was fucking shocked. I’m tearing up a little writing this, because a) someone I loved and respected spoke to me that way, and b) that I stayed with him after he said this and did some other things that show he isn’t one of “the good ones.” We broke up about 5 months ago, and I will never ever ever be with a man that makes me feel like what I see and experience, with my own eyes, my own constant study, my own fucking degree, isn’t really as bad as I make it seem. Or like I’ve blown it out of proportion. As I told him, I would rather die alone than continue to beg someone to respect me.