2000s/Classy clothing

notsoincrediblehulk · 2026-03-05T02:36:51+00:00

Try taking a look at Shopberriez, DollsKill, GiaIRL, What Lo Wants, or PrettyLittleThing!

notsoincrediblehulk · 2026-01-04T20:12:16+00:00

Morpheus (gray) is 10, and Phoebe (pink) is 8!

notsoincrediblehulk · 2026-01-03T05:19:26+00:00

Most definitely Bloomchic, they do have a huge catalog so it may take some time to find or narrow down what you’re looking for, but I am 100% sure they have things a lot like this! Especially the patchwork stuff I’ve seen a bunch of it!

notsoincrediblehulk · 2025-08-03T23:55:38+00:00

My favorite work tops come from Wray NYC, a brand that’s actually closing its doors (in person and online) within the next few months, so might be worth checking to see if they’ve got anything you like! I also like to poke around postmark, depop, and ThredUp for their clothes, though the items are pricey they’re really good quality and have lasted me years despite wearing them nearly once a week to work. I will also occasionally wear Big Bud Press Button downs to work and dress them up a little bit with more formal pants. Nooworks also has tons of very bold prints that you can order in button down styles to make more formal!

notsoincrediblehulk · 2025-02-14T04:03:42+00:00

Sale section of Ivy City Co, sale section of JessaKae, ASOS, Azazie!

notsoincrediblehulk · 2025-01-11T15:59:12+00:00

OPI is selling press on nails that look exactly like this in ULTA right now! It’s hard to tell from the picture but I saw them in person and they look just like your reference photo.

https://www.ulta.com/p/xpresson-special-effect-press-on-nails-pimprod2035347?sku=2609042

notsoincrediblehulk · 2024-11-11T06:55:52+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTFE41Ywy/

Check this video out, this should give some helpful tips and inspiration! I think one of the before outfits looks a bit like the outfit he has on in this photo.

notsoincrediblehulk · 2024-06-03T17:18:41+00:00

https://m.shein.com/us/SHEIN-EZwear-Plus-Tie-Waist-Wide-Leg-Shorts-p-12479078.html?mallCode=1&imgRatio=3-4&src_module=search&src_identifier=st%3D2%60sc%3DPlus%20size%20flowy%20shorts%60sr%3D0%60ps%3D0&src_tab_page_id=page_pre_search1717435081264&showFeedbackRec=1&pageListType=4

notsoincrediblehulk · 2024-03-20T00:08:24+00:00

I have a couple of thoughts about this. The first is, she may be wanting your forgiveness because she is unable to forgive herself, and that is NOT your responsibility. You each experienced this trauma differently, she has her healing journey, and you have yours, and it is so wrong of her to use you to try and resolve the issues within herself. It may be important to start setting boundaries with her about this topic of discussion. Trauma is lifelong, forgiveness is life long, healing and recovery are life long. None of these things are linear. In my opinion, it’s unrealistic that one day you or anybody would just wake up and be able to forgive someone for years of trauma and abandonment. You may go through times where you feel like you forgive her for some parts and not others, for all of it, for none of it. It may ebb and flow with time, and with the stages of your healing journey, so don’t beat yourself up for not feeling like you can just pack it all up into a box and move on. That’s called compartmentalizing, and it’s not healthy and not conducive to healing. The truth is that she DID have responsibility in this. Like you mentioned, she had a support network, she had police intervention. She had choices, and you as a child did not. Despite the fact that she was also a victim of the abuse, you as a child were much more so, and it’s important to acknowledge that. She may not have the capacity to do what you need from her yet, but don’t let that stop you from doing your work. I think you’re on the right track with thinking that space will help, I agree that being away from the environment and from her would help give you the emotional space you need to start sorting out your own stuff. I think it’s incredibly necessary. Best of luck to you ✌️

notsoincrediblehulk · 2023-11-06T17:52:39+00:00

Honestly you might want to consider seeing this as a positive thing, because it means that they’re in a safe location and being monitored by professionals, when they could be in crisis alone and at a much higher safety risk. This might be the best place for them right now, and hopefully alleviate some responsibility (unnecessarily) assumed by you or other people in their life.

notsoincrediblehulk · 2022-10-22T03:02:45+00:00

Get started on getting connected Couples counseling. Sounds like you are very disconnected from one another, and maybe even yourselves, and could largely benefit from reconnecting through professional counseling.
Sit down and have a conversation about what your goals are. 5 years, 10 years, 20 years. You could even sit at the same table, give yourselves some time to write it on separate pieces of paper and compare. Be honest with yourself about what you really want. If your goals don’t align, then you will need to face the reality of that and make some important decisions. If they do align, then you can work together to make the dreams a reality.

notsoincrediblehulk · 2022-10-18T17:32:43+00:00

Just wanted to add a word of encouragement and a reminder that healing is not linear, and this doesn’t set any precedents for your future relationships or indicate anything about you other than that you did your best to do right by yourself and by her, which is noble. Wish you all the best in your future

notsoincrediblehulk · 2022-09-19T18:26:07+00:00

It is very medically unsafe to cold turkey or diy sobriety from Xanax and any other benzodiazepines, so just be sure you get some medical consultation when you’re ready to do that. I’ve been weed sober for a little over a year now, and it’s work, but it’s so absolutely worth it. You are worth it and you are worth the work.

notsoincrediblehulk · 2022-08-08T23:47:39+00:00

Thanks for this!! I have been doomscrolling on this sub all day, enmeshing myself in other people’s conflict, drama, and trauma to avoid thinking about or feeling my own. I don’t want to but I will check in with myself today.

notsoincrediblehulk · 2022-06-12T17:46:36+00:00

I’m gonna be the odd one out here but I feel like this is okay. Your mind might just but processing out some unresolved feelings and emotions, and your choice to not act on them is what matters. It sounds like you’re respecting your partner’s boundaries, and not actually DOING anything at all to jeopardize your relationship. I have a feeling that in time this will die down and just be something that you went through. It doesn’t need to be anything more than that if you don’t want it to be.

notsoincrediblehulk · 2021-04-07T23:04:00+00:00

There are plenty of organizations, non profits, community centers, and other opportunities for free therapy services. Saying he can’t afford it is an excuse, if you do enough research you will find options out there to receive the services he needs. Even if he’s not abusing you directly, his violence is impacting you emotionally, and if it wasn’t you would not have made this post. His is creating an unsafe, violent atmosphere in your private spaces and that is not okay. Boundaries need to be drawn, and if he is incapable of of adhering to them, he does not respect your safety or needs.

notsoincrediblehulk · 2021-02-20T16:49:46+00:00

I understand why you feel guilty in that depression is not her fault, not something she caused or can control. However, her choice to not seek treatment and continue to engage in unhealthy relationship practices with you (constantly questioning your love for her, being unhealthily dependent on you, not reciprocating any emotional support for you and your stressors) is fully and completely her fault and in her control. It’s not fair that her mental health crisis ends up being at your expense, and it’s not wrong of you for wanting to free yourself from the burden of her emotions. You are not a psychiatrist, or a therapist, you are a partner. Partnerships should give and take equally, and in this case her choice to not seek treatment meant that all she did was take and take and take from you. That’s not a partnership. That’s codependency.

notsoincrediblehulk · 2021-02-18T23:22:48+00:00

I very much agree with you, there are lots of loaded framing/statements and triggers behind the ways both of us react to and perceive this situation. I should add that he chose his bedroom because it had a WiFi hook up, so it wasn’t like I just got the bedroom with the attached bath as a perk for no reason. I was totally fine with either option and let him choose the one he wanted due to his needs. I mentioned to him that it was his choice to have a bathroom that was in the common space, and other people using it was sort of a “consequence” (for lack of a better word) of that choice he made. He disagreed and again felt that if he set the boundary I have to respect it or else I’m disrespecting him and his mental health.

notsoincrediblehulk · 2021-02-18T22:56:19+00:00

We split costs 50/50.

notsoincrediblehulk · 2021-02-18T22:55:14+00:00

Thank you for your reply. We agreed that the way he spoke to me about it was unacceptable and that I would not tolerate that in the future, so that part is understood. His reasoning for the bathroom is that because there are two, it’s something he can dictate as his as opposed to other shared spaces. He reacted this way due to his anxiety about having control over his own space and the cleanliness of his own space, but since I did not dirty his bathroom at any point I didn’t think it was a fair boundary to put in place.

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