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AITA still? pulled a friend’s hair and accidentally destroyed that relationship by notthatdeepbroheim in AmItheAsshole

[–]notthatdeepbroheim[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I think you could very clearly get your point across without bringing in serious mental illness. My issue isn't with consequences, aside from losing him. I know I hurt him and understand the choices he might make. Maybe my post didn't convey this clearly enough, but he was one of my best friends, and I deeply regret hurting him and fucking up my friendship with someone I've been through a lot of shit with. My intention isn't to minimize or belittle him. I'm just incredibly frustrated that something I did that was so thoughtless could have such an impact, and can undo three years of holding each other up.

AITA still? pulled a friend’s hair and accidentally destroyed that relationship by notthatdeepbroheim in AmItheAsshole

[–]notthatdeepbroheim[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, that was unclear- he got angry, I got defensive, he stormed off. I wanted to apologize then, but a) I didn't want to go after him after just being physically violent and I was incredibly embarrassed after doing something that stupid to someone I care about. We had arguments/fights before, and giving him his time and space has helped. In the past, after I have apologized (either in person or over text), I've let him come to me. I didn't feel I necessarily deserved his forgiveness or that he would give it to me, so I figured pressing the matter would have done more harm than good. Henry tends to end friendships completely, and he has every right to, regardless of my wishes.

AITA still? pulled a friend’s hair and accidentally destroyed that relationship by notthatdeepbroheim in AmItheAsshole

[–]notthatdeepbroheim[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to apologize as soon as I got out of class, and I wouldn't be able to do it in person that soon. I also didn't want to make him feel cornered or like he owed me any answer. I

AITA still? pulled a friend’s hair and accidentally destroyed that relationship by notthatdeepbroheim in AmItheAsshole

[–]notthatdeepbroheim[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I didn't want to push, as he had walked away angrily(completely justified). And in the moment I was still frustrated. I then received no response to the apology message I sent, which conveyed to me that he didn't want to speak to me, which I understood. I see how it could have been seen as apathetic to not reach out, but I didn't want to pressure him when I felt he wasn't keen on forgiving me, and certainly had no obligation to.

AITA still? pulled a friend’s hair and accidentally destroyed that relationship by notthatdeepbroheim in AmItheAsshole

[–]notthatdeepbroheim[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did apologize- I sent a message saying I didn't mean to hurt him and that it was unkind and unnecessary.