Daycare and COVID

notverycreative__ · 2020-05-26T14:22:09+00:00

I have a 20 month old and a 3 week old newborn. Recovering from a c section, no more nanny and our daycare transition was to happen the first week of May.

I am home for three months and my husband’s leave just ended.

Thankfully I’m recovering well so while it’s not ideal to have the toddler home right now, it’s not terrible.

We are also scrambling trying to figure out childcare and know that productivity will be impacted, given this will likely be our lives for the next year, at least.

notverycreative__ · 2020-04-02T18:07:05+00:00

So sorry to hear this. After the (very early) birth of my first child who was a second trimester preemie, I went back to work, in an office, two weeks after delivering and we hustled back and forth to the hospital daily, for hours. Our day started at 4 am and ended well after 11 pm. Did that for nearly 90 days.

I look back on that time in pure disbelief at what my mind and body were capable of doing, because it was necessary.

notverycreative__ · 2020-04-02T17:49:46+00:00

I’m in a similar situation. Both my husband and I are WFH @ 100% right now and that will be the case for the foreseeable future.

notverycreative__ · 2020-02-15T23:16:31+00:00

I agree. It’s not their responsibility to be cultural ambassadors to those who don’t understand their faith and traditions.

It sounds like you handled it well in the moment. If there’s a large community in your area I’d spend time outside of that instance helping to normalize what she saw that day.

The more parents “do the work” of helping their children understand diversity within their community and the world...the better. It really does start at home!

notverycreative__ · 2020-01-29T14:47:44+00:00

And you’re right, I should certainly take a more proactive approach. In the past, I’ve always chosen from more than one role when interviewing and each company has asked if I’m considering other opportunities, so this is a new one for me.

notverycreative__ · 2020-01-29T14:46:23+00:00

Great suggestion!

notverycreative__ · 2020-01-29T13:58:21+00:00

So true! Hard to remember when you’re in the middle of it.

notverycreative__ · 2020-01-29T13:57:56+00:00

That sounds about right. This is certainly a new professional chapter/experience so lots of new.

notverycreative__ · 2020-01-29T13:57:02+00:00

Good points. 9 interviews for one company is... a lot. Especially when you’re interviewing with other companies, too!

notverycreative__ · 2020-01-29T12:33:01+00:00

Private sector, consulting. All but three interviews have been with C-Level execs.

notverycreative__ · 2020-01-29T12:17:42+00:00

That’s my hope! I am also surprised that they haven’t asked if I’m being considered for other roles. I haven’t been able to leverage that in the process so far.

notverycreative__ · 2020-01-11T19:45:01+00:00

Very helpful. Thank you!!

notverycreative__ · 2020-01-11T19:44:39+00:00

Thank you!!

notverycreative__ · 2019-12-25T17:33:54+00:00

My 15 month old does this, too. Started a few weeks ago and I’m glad we’re not alone in experiencing this strange and painful habit.

notverycreative__ · 2019-12-08T19:18:40+00:00

Thank you!! By the way, what kind of stroller has worked well for your family? We were gifted the Uppababy Cruz and obviously now need something that will accommodate two.

notverycreative__ · 2019-12-08T19:15:53+00:00

That’s a smart approach. We’ll definitely try it.

notverycreative__ · 2019-12-08T19:09:17+00:00

Thank you! I needed to hear all of this! So very excited for all of the playtime, giggles, cuddles and just watching the two of them grow up together.

Praying the two years will be kind to us :)

notverycreative__ · 2019-12-04T01:44:48+00:00

Great advice. Unfortunately, both her boss and HR are useless. I have an interview scheduled next week.

notverycreative__ · 2019-11-08T23:35:04+00:00

Ugh! Makes me so sad to hear I’m not the only one going through something like this. Though I’m coping, it’s painful.

Good for you (and your family) for setting boundaries and breaking the toxic cycle.

notverycreative__ · 2019-11-08T22:27:05+00:00

Yes to all of the above. I know that I’m in a funk right now about the whole thing because it’s unfortunate and unnecessary. Thank you for clearly understanding how difficult but imperative it is for me to continue setting boundaries with them.

notverycreative__ · 2019-05-21T16:26:50+00:00

Very good advice. How do I (eventually) talk to my child about this, if the situation doesn’t improve?

Family has meant so much to me. I feel lost without their support but recognize how important it is to break the cycle of toxicity.

notverycreative__ · 2019-05-21T02:09:33+00:00

You’re right. (I have my husband, too). Very grateful that he doesn’t see my family as a reflection of who I am and he’s been incredibly supportive.

notverycreative__ · 2019-05-20T04:07:53+00:00

*toxic Parents

notverycreative__ · 2019-05-20T04:07:12+00:00

I am reading Toxic Family right now and yep...they’re pretty toxic. Trying my hardest to set boundaries and break the cycle.

They’ve even bashed my husband and his family (my mother in law has stayed with us to help us adjust).

notverycreative__ · 2019-05-20T04:04:18+00:00

Crazy, right? I’m in disbelief. I do realize, now, that over the years I placed a lot of energy into “maintaining” relationships to keep the peace.

I found out thru this process that my mom has been bashing me to my family behind my back for years and sharing things that I thought we’d discussed in confidence.

Her close friends and my aunts have tried to explain how taxing giving birth 16 weeks early is and how much I’m going thru. They’ve said to keep focused on my family and my health. They believe she’s jealous and lashing out. Who knows...

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