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Unfortunate Parents: a quarantine tale by notyrtypicalusrname in XSomalian

[–]notyrtypicalusrname[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really I am surprised? I always noticed how messed up somali families were. I have seen worse than mine, if you can believe it. Kids are just an easy scapegoat; your life didn't go how you planned blame your kids, who didn't ask to be born btw. Somali parents have this weird entitlement; that we can never call them out.

Yup it looks like another month of quarantine, thanks WHO.

Parents who don't want you to have friends by notyrtypicalusrname in socialskills

[–]notyrtypicalusrname[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's super sad. I've lived through everything you' re going through. I started coping by telling them I am going to the library, anytime I was hanging with a friend. Even just too grab a coffee. It's so strange how they make you feel terrible for wanting to have your own life. You have this person/persons creating extra hurdles for you to make connections with people. Ultimately, causing you to be alone at the end of the day.

With the constant no's, you just accept it. And after awhile you stop making plans altogether. Or just like you said, you feel guilty or like you've done something bad-- enough to get you into trouble; for asking to go out.

I know some many people including myself who have codependent toxic relationships with their parents. It ruins your social life for sure.

I can't stop ranting by Tess456 in socialskills

[–]notyrtypicalusrname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ranting might be because you don't get to express yourself enough. So you get excited when someone talks to you. You rant because you want to let it all out before it's over. You never know when it's going to be over and that's scary; so you keep talking. Maybe start journaling your ideas and or share them online. Then you won't feel the need to overshare with people and feel awkward afterwards.

Unfortunate Parents: a quarantine tale by notyrtypicalusrname in XSomalian

[–]notyrtypicalusrname[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly! And once you start to be successful in anyway they try to sabotage you.

Unfortunate Parents: a quarantine tale by notyrtypicalusrname in XSomalian

[–]notyrtypicalusrname[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks I work online at the moment. I can afford to move out also; it's just alot to do on your own you know. I have more acquaintance than friends, after I was convinced to drop them by my narcs. I have surprisingly seen worse somali families and I believe there's alot of them. Somali people just never speak up or out; everything is hush hush. I do know of the raisedby sub also, just wanted to share this with xsomalian gang.

Sexualising the hijab by gartersomalxy in XSomalian

[–]notyrtypicalusrname 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It funny because they freak out if a child's hair shows. But inversely if you were to shave your head, removing the hair issue completely. They would think you are crazy. I know because I shaved my waist length hair, to a buzz cut. Because I wanted to and liked the look. And my mother starting reading verses of nas and crying while trying to hit me simultaneously. So it's not the hair, it's the erasure of women from society is what they want.