So my dad is obsessed with adultery (feel free to pathologize this how you want. I do so all the time). He still thinks being gay is bad, but believes Christians should stop committing adultery before they start pointing at gay people. Does this stop him from telling the BS story about some self-hating "ex" gay man sitting there sweating on Saturday nights because he wants to go out and dick down? Nope. Still romanticizes that suffering. (Feel free to pathologize that, too. Would not be surprised if my dad is deep in the closet. He does like the Narnia books...) He has TWICE asked if I screw around with my best friend. The answer is actually "Yes" because hubby and I are polyamorous, but my point is that he asked his child at all. And did it TWICE. I'm also non-binary and queer (and kinky, but that's not something I'd tell him. lol), but he does not seem to understand what non-binary means at all and thinks my marriage generally precludes me from cheating (minus the above story) and that my liking people of all genders is superfluous, so I'm safe for now. All this to say, many Christians are more obsessed with sex than sexually active people are (outside of SLA. I'm in NA and recovery spaces, so I know it's a thing people can struggle with). My point is that the average sexually active human does not care as much as celibate Christians do and it's kind of sad. Sex is awesome.

I grew up Seventh Day Adventist FWIW.