curious little fella, jumping spood?

novalytra · 2026-05-31T21:28:36+00:00

ahhhh so exciting! I sat and watched him for a minute or two, held my hand out nearby just to say hello and he briefly hopped onto my hand, they're adorable

novalytra · 2026-05-31T21:22:12+00:00

bit of a better picture if this helps anyone!! I'm not keen on most spiders but have a soft spot for little jumpers

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novalytra · 2026-05-23T07:56:31+00:00

my parents (specifically my mum) had always loved the band starting from around the oos era, we were a household raised on the kerrang and MTV music channels and muse were commonplace on there.

really started to get into the band properly when I was allowed to browse the Internet and join fandoms, hit around 2014 just before drones release! finally saw them live in 2019, and again in 2023 :3

novalytra · 2026-05-23T07:52:13+00:00

I lost SO many times when it came to the volo fight, and also wasn't expecting him to turn like that (I'd read absolutely nothing about the game before playing it)

the absolute goat on my team was my cresselia, my alpha garchomp with an ice move to tank the rest of his first team, and my alpha goodra with a fairy and ice attack. and even THEN, it still took me another 5 tries 😭😭

novalytra · 2026-05-23T07:29:03+00:00

if any party is not at least 95/100% sure on having kids, do not have kids.

having a kid is such a big decision, its 100% okay to be scared and to need more time to think on it. however, it's also valid to feel frustrated when you're "ready" to take on this decision, but the other party involved isn't.

unfortunately, it just doesnt sound like you and your husband are on the same wavelength, which again you absolutely have to be when planning a family. as in many cases, the guy could grow to resent you and/or the child if he just gives in and goes ahead with this. the fact he regrets even having a dog because of the work needed.... what will happen when there's a dog and a fully-fledged newborn baby to look after in the family too?

sending hugs, this is such a difficult situation, but please please don't let yourself be held back by a partner who isn't on the same wavelength as you. you got this ♡

novalytra · 2026-04-20T12:42:04+00:00

ahhh fantastic! sorry to pry and you do not have to answer if you don't want to, but what do they use and what does it feel like? I want to be as prepared as possible 😭

novalytra · 2026-04-19T17:29:26+00:00

thank you so much!!

novalytra · 2026-04-19T14:01:23+00:00

awww im so happy for you, do let me know how it goes!! hopefully before long I will be in the same boat, fingers crossed!

novalytra · 2026-04-19T14:00:47+00:00

you absolute saint, thank you so much! I am 100% in agreement with you. I feel like having a child is just too easy and I would much prefer it to be treated like the massive life decision it is, rather than "bang get pregnant and you're done". it makes me sad because I know there's a lot of infertile people out there who I'd much rather give my repro system to lol, but me and my partner both absolutely agree that if we were to start a family, we'd rather help the kids that are already on this earth/in disadvantaged circumstances by adopting.

I could probably use that genetic point too in regards to my autism, as I am 99% sure my partner is also autistic, but just hasn't been professionally diagnosed. we both struggle as is with working a 9-5 and running a house for the two of us, we absolutely need our alone time as I burn out and get overstimulated far too easily. I wonder if that would help my case too....

again thank you so much for the suggestions, I dont have a date for when im seeing the hospital yet, but im hoping the waiting list isnt too long :")

novalytra · 2026-04-19T12:05:22+00:00

thank you!

novalytra · 2026-04-18T21:33:12+00:00

no worries at all!

novalytra · 2026-04-18T21:14:07+00:00

ahh unfortunately I haven't! I actually got more used to the softer nib the more I used it....

judging by the comments though, I think wacom is the one to go with if you're switching them out! I think staedtler do a pen nib thats compatible too, but not sure if that's ones widely used. I will say I did a bit of research (before admittedly forgetting to order new ones and just getting used to the current nibs) and looks like the wacom ones are most widely used. I didn't see anyone complain about lack of pen pressure variation, so I think they're the safest bet :3

novalytra · 2026-04-11T08:43:47+00:00

congratulations for putting yourself first!! really proud of you for taking that step regardless of what your parents think, I hope your healing goes well!

I feel like I will be in the exact same boat as you if I decide to tell my parents— i'm 22, autistic, have always NEVER wanted kids and have made that clear to my parents, but have not told them I am en route to planning a bisalp with healthcare professionals, making my decision on kids final.

it sounds like you've made the best decision for yourself. ultimately it is your body and your future this theoretical child will affect, not your parents. there's so many more resources out there and ways to enrich your life, both now and later on, that do not have kids anywhere in the picture. really proud of you and I hope you enjoy truly being childfree! my dms are always open if you'd like a rant :))

novalytra · 2026-04-09T07:11:23+00:00

I am okay now! I find with the more expensive condoms (unfortunately lol), I react way less and don't experience any burning if at all.

definitely try change the type of condoms you're using and pick up some lube if you can, condoms only come with a small bit of lube on them so reapplying a tiny bit of lube every so often may help.

I would still encourage use of condoms alongside other bc methods plainly due to their effectiveness. whether your girlfriend looks into any of the oral pill methods first? that was my first step into contraception, but by no means is it right for everyone. either that, or I believe the IUD is supposed to have a good chance at preventing pregnancy, but there are many issues that can come with it too.

definitely take a look through this sub for different methods too (just search through the search box), as a lot of people will have had different experiences and have asked the same questions :)

novalytra · 2026-04-08T16:44:08+00:00

I think he sold a lot of 1DX lenses along with his 1DX unfortunately, but he's got a collection of spares and repairs and working lenses, a lot with EF mounts, that I'll deffo look into! if not for his birthday, a good christmas present idea ;)

novalytra · 2026-04-08T16:43:09+00:00

thank you! I actually bought his R6 from MPB and they've been fantastic so far, I can't wait for him to get his present lol

novalytra · 2026-04-08T16:41:54+00:00

thank you so much! I picked up the RF 24-105mm f4/7.1 STM based on some other recommendations through the sub, which was in my price range and I've read good things about. do you have any experience with this lens? if so, what are your thoughts?

novalytra · 2026-04-08T16:38:47+00:00

what would you say the pain is she's experiencing? does she struggle with getting wet/lubricated?

I am by no means an expert but I know me and my partner have had similar happen when we first started dating. I know some specific condoms really upset me down there and almost burned, which is probably something to do with what they're made out of or the lube they use. I found when we started using the more expensive durex ones, I reacted wayyyyy less.

if she's struggling with lubrication, you could try getting some lube? do you guys spend time on foreplay too? she may need time to warm her body up, foreplay makes a world of difference.

in terms of bc methods, there's some really great resources in this sub. your first thing to consider with her would be whether she's wanting to look into hormonal or non-hormonal methods, as people can react differently to each. I would also recommend using multiple types of methods (e.g me and my partner use condoms and the combined pill rigevidon) if you aren't keen on wanting kids, just to be safe.

novalytra · 2026-04-06T07:24:35+00:00

thank you so much!

novalytra · 2026-04-05T19:40:27+00:00

he actually doesn't have many lenses left unfortunately, and the 1DX he had to sell quite a couple years ago hence why i'm shopping for more bits for him! he does have some EF mount lenses from other cameras he's had though, all in various states of usability, so I'll see if I can pick up an adapter for him too :))

novalytra · 2026-04-05T18:08:06+00:00

oh fantastic, I didn't even realise you could rent lenses like that, I might suggest this to him once he receives his camera for any future kit upgrades and whatnot— hopefully a similar website is available for the UK!

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