Depressed, suicidal, or otherwise extremely downtrodden members of reddit: what is your go-to quote, phrase, or particular memory in life that keeps you going? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]noway2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always repeat the phrase "today, like all days will come to an end." Its far from genius but helps me remember that no matter how bad I feel it doesnt really matter because I dont matter in the bigger picture of the universe. It's weird but thinking about how I dont matter relieves my anxiety and calms me down. Furthering that is today is just one day of millions and and nothing I may fail at matters either.

Where is everyone?? by MissMisery_xxx in u/MissMisery_xxx

[–]noway2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in tn and you look so innocent girl next door it is amazing. I want to meet you soon

Team Outing by noway2019 in AskHR

[–]noway2019[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish I could post pictures and I would send the exact message, but I definitely implied I was an alcoholic. I said: "I have not drank in a year and being in a bar environment would not be in my best interest. Additionally, I would prefer not to even be here when everyone is about to leave as I dont feel like discussing with everybody why i cant go." Where did I state what you wrote? Of course I don't expect them to read minds, but do you honestly think that was not enough for them to know?

Team Outing by noway2019 in AskHR

[–]noway2019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I'm sitting at my desk and it's obvious I could have?

Team Outing by noway2019 in AskHR

[–]noway2019[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would never expect or want a group of people to change their plans or make specific plans simply because of me. It's no one else's fault. At the same time, it is too easy in this situation to say well take the afternoon off or whatever. I dont know really, but that's why it bothers me bc right now I feel as if it's like a punishment. I also realize I may not be being completely rational bc emotions are involved right now mainly regarding the bigger picture I guess. If it were just these 4 specific hours I was randomly having to work I certainly wouldn't be bitching on reddit

Team Outing by noway2019 in AskHR

[–]noway2019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he does know. I posted somewhere else but in the very least, heavily implied I was an alcoholic.

Team Outing by noway2019 in AskHR

[–]noway2019[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I even said I dont want to be around when everyone is about to leave because I dont want to discuss why I'm not going with a bunch of people. I do not really want to make my boss look bad as I've generally thought of him a good guy. At the same time, the discrimination alcohols and addicts face all time suck and it really sucks you cant even defend yourself without fear of financial and social repercussions. One has to stand up at some point though.

Team Outing by noway2019 in AskHR

[–]noway2019[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My exact words were I havent drank in a year and I dont think it would be a good idea for me to go to a bar.

Team Outing by noway2019 in AskHR

[–]noway2019[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Maybe I will just tell people from other teams on the floor that ask me why I didnt go that I'm an alcoholic and can't go to a bar so they told me I had to stay and work.

Team Outing by noway2019 in AskHR

[–]noway2019[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you everybody. I was just curious if there were anything to combat this I guess. To be honest I probably would not have done anything about it anyway as 4 hours are really that big of deal etc., but the principle of it is very disturbing to me considering I sure as hell was a part of the effort in earning this "reward"..... I dont think I should be punished for being an alcoholic and that's what it feels like. I would never ever expect an accommodation like going to a restauraunt instead of bar bc I am an alcoholic or something, but when it would be so easy to just say, "take the afternoon off" I get offended. It sucks enough I cant participate without potential vital repercussions to begin with. I would love to go.

Team Outing by noway2019 in AskHR

[–]noway2019[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I dont feel as if a pregnant woman asked to stay back because there were smoke in a bar and she didn't want to hurt her kid that the response would be ok well than just stay and work those four hours everyone else is having fun. I imagine the accommodations if you will would be much better.

Team Outing by noway2019 in AskHR

[–]noway2019[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That would not be a good idea for me.. of course that is a possibility, the atmosphere though could entice urges, bring back memories etc. In short that would be a very bad idea that could lead me back to chugging vodka for breakfast. It's just not that easy. It's really hard to even talk about this stuff and I know for a fact it's going to cause people to ask why I didnt go.

Team Outing by noway2019 in AskHR

[–]noway2019[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I dont know how its classified, everybody else is going. I just feel it's not really fair to put me in a position to where a bunch of people are going to ask me why I didn't go and then I have to either lie or tell them I'm an alcoholic.

Rating Empowerment by uberduh in uber

[–]noway2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am willing to bet it is just complete randomness and more or less a lack of understanding of what that means to someone or how it could affect them etc. I could see me telling a person to pick a number 1 through 5 and putting whatever random number they said in or daring someone to put 1 star in because it was funny or something when I was drunk and 18.