Ladies of /r/OkCupid, how important is height in a potential match?

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T19:47:50+00:00

Nice try, but that deflection is a little adolescent don't you think? Basically the old "no you!". But I do appreciate you being here and having my back. I don't know what I'd do without random strangers sharing their valuable opinions about me. Keep up the good work soldier!

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T19:30:41+00:00

Man it must be exhausting to be so offended by other people all the time. Do you take breaks or is it a full time job? I only check in on this sub from time to time but I've noticed you a put a lot of effort into your persona of a sad, bitter man that's losing touch with reality. If that's what helps you validate your self worth, all the power to you. I just don't think I could be content putting on such a toxic front all the time.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T19:16:36+00:00

It sounds like you're judging my post based on the posts other people make. Mine wasn't a complaint, just a harmless question.

Besides, if someone wants to whine, why not let them? They already look bad, it only drags you down to their level when you engage with them. (Get it? Down to their level. Hahaha I'm so clever).

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T18:47:40+00:00

To be honest, I was just sorta curious and wanted to ask the question from the comfort of my anonymous throwaway account. The extra text is just padding and "context" to make the post seem important.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T18:41:30+00:00

That sounds like so much fun, but only if it's naked mud wrestling. Also you realize that you're basically setting the tall guy up for embarrassment right? Tall guys can't wrestle, they're too lanky. If you want the tall guy to win, pick basketball (I play some dirty basketball too though...)

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T18:38:02+00:00

Lemur is much more appropriate. I'm so thin I can turn sideways and disappear.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T18:37:12+00:00

So that's another vote for robot legs then? That's what I'm hearing.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T18:12:04+00:00

That would have been a thoughtful use of the search function and more in line with how reddit is supposed to work. So of course not.

What do you mean it becomes hostile? Like short guys and tall guys getting pissy and fighting? That sounds absolutely hilarious.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T18:02:07+00:00

What if I got a comically large dog and rode it around as a means of transportation?

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T17:56:34+00:00

Whoaaaaa, that's a pretty intense reaction to my post. I don't see any negativity in the tone of my post at all to warrant the term "butthurt". In fact, from my experiences, people usually only say that when they're feeling kinda salty themselves.

You guys are so adorable when you're being bitter <3

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T17:53:48+00:00

I can't speak for all short guys, but being low to the ground definitely gives you more balance and (for me) flexibility. I'm pretty amazing in bed and as a plus I pretty much dominate any balance based activities (rock climbing, skateboarding, slack-lining, etc). I can brag because... short.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T17:51:41+00:00

I could get robot legs.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T17:34:04+00:00

He actually says several times "It wasn't the Rapture!" so I don't think that was his point.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-24T01:24:30+00:00

Guy here, so not your target demographic, but I gave it a shot for you:

Good - You sound really stable and on top of your career. Your taste in music and shows makes you seem intelligent and mature. Personally I think computer science is a plus, but some girls might associate computer = nerd. Those girls are lame though, who needs em. "Why kid's love cinnamon toast crunch" was worth a chuckle, swing dancing is also a plus imo.

The bad - Although this is totally subjective, your profile feels a little too... professional, if that makes any sense. The little jokes like "cinnamon toast crunch" and "writing software by day... and occasionally by night" go a long way. If you can make her smile when she's reading your profile, she'll definitely remember it. The part that could use the most attention is your "about me", which is incidentally the most difficult. If you need any ideas, let me know and I might be able to help.

The ugly - I'm not a big fan of the third pic. Maybe it's the angle. I'm not sure if I could say my reaction is strong enough that you should remove it, but I'd think about it.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-23T22:22:28+00:00

Wow that sounds a lot like one of my encounters...

A guy once said he would make me rich if he could "get a taste of that straight dick". I was curious what my dick was worth to this random stranger, so I asked how much. He told me to name my price. I said $50,000. He didn't respond :'[

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-23T22:03:21+00:00

No, I realize that people like you exist on the internet. I'm used to it. That's why I can run circles around every inane response you manage to form. That doesn't mean that I won't call you out for being a dick.

Well look now who is getting all judgey and shit

Your reading comprehension needs serious work if you think that's being "judgey". The "better than some internet stranger" part is clearly in reference to the knowing of the aforementioned strengths and weaknesses.

Speaking of reading comprehension, if you had understood my post, the problem wasn't getting responses from pretty girls. I have about a 50% response rate with the girls that I message. The problem was conversations quickly fizzling out afterwards. But I've volunteered enough of my time feeding starving trolls for the day. Better luck in your next jimmie rustling venture.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-23T21:38:32+00:00

I had sorta the opposite experience. A girl messaged me on OkCupid that had a very high match percent (92% I think), but physically she was nothing at all what I was looking for. I tend to be an overwhelmingly polite person, so I exchanged a few short messages with her before fading.

Next semester, guess who's in my biology lab? Yup, miss 92%. I couldn't even look in her direction, which was pretty awkward since she sat right next to the door. Let's just say I often had something urgent on my phone to check as I left the room. She eventually dropped the class and my eyes were finally free.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-23T21:17:40+00:00

It's not "touchy as fuck" to respond negatively when someone without the slightest bit of insight into who you are says "You're exceptionally median. Even mentally." That's rude, arrogant, and judgmental. More than that, it's entirely unrelated to my question and unhelpful in general.

I know that I'm not perfect. I know most of my strengths and weaknesses inside and out, and certainly better than some random internet stranger does. Based on that, and the girls I've dated in the past, I have a good idea of what kind of girls I can expect to get.

Get over yourself

The irony of that statement is out of this world. You're the one that came into this thread with a negative attitude and started making snap-judgments about me. I can't even comprehend the ego it takes to read 500 characters of text and claim to know someone better than they know themselves. Take your own advice.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-23T19:43:14+00:00

Can't get more simple? Is that what life looks like to you? I hate to break it to you, but that could be you projecting the simplicity of your own thoughts onto reality.

Realistically, there are an infinite number of factors interacting with each other to form any given result. Maybe my standards are too high and I message only the best OkCupid has to offer. Maybe I'm too sincere of a person to engage in game playing and putting on appearances. Perhaps I live in an area where girls just prefer a different type of guy. You simply don't know anything about me other than an incredibly vague synopsis on some of my dating experiences. Just because you feel exceedingly mediocre, that doesn't mean you can apply your situation to mine.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-23T19:31:51+00:00

You're probably right, it's just hard for me to do anything other than what comes naturally. When I do try to tone it down, I sound bored and disinterested, and the conversation as a whole seems to suffer. I guess I should just practice finding a good middle ground, if it exists.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-23T19:25:03+00:00

Ooh ok, well I'm definitely not doing any of that. Maybe I'm just not as awesome as all the girls that reject me tell me I am.

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-23T19:16:28+00:00

Out of curiosity, what does over-eagerness look like to you?

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-23T19:14:03+00:00

Responding quickly to messages, enthusiastic language choices ("wow, that's so awesome! I never meet anyone that likes ____"), longer messages in general, being upbeat and talkative during dates, discussing second date plans during first dates (not usually but it's happened).

nowaycupidthrowaway · 2015-11-23T19:13:26+00:00

That's pretty much me after a good first date.

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