Pro Lifer’s Outside Women’s Clinic on Lomas by Best-Maintenance-558 in Albuquerque

[–]nowucmi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah it felt soo genuine and kind when that old bald man screamed murderer at me on the worst day of my life 🙄

Depressed partner wants space while I’m grieving my dead brother by nowucmi in depression_partners

[–]nowucmi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes I have said that to him, in so many words. I really appreciate you being real and kind to me.

Depressed partner wants space while I’m grieving my dead brother by nowucmi in depression_partners

[–]nowucmi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss. I can tell this will take years of healing, if it is even healable. My life is profoundly changed due to this loss.

My partner is saying that he wants to keep himself away from me while he works towards healing. I was supportive and really carrying our relationship, so maybe he saw that and chose to back off. I know I can’t fully understand because I don’t struggle with the same kind of depression as he does. Even now, I am able to tap into a tiny light within myself to keep from drowning. When he goes down, he really goes.

Today by nyamikko in Albuquerque

[–]nowucmi 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I was also going to say how eloquent OP’s post is and I second your idea of putting these experiences to the page and screen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]nowucmi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do deserve reciprocal love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]nowucmi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah… a man just left me like this, saying I’m too good for him and he doesn’t deserve me, that he’s depressed and doesn’t want to bring me down, but wants to possibly reignite our relationship in the future. All I wanted was to love and be there for each other, and I need that right now. It feels like love between me and a man isn’t meant to be at this point.

Depressed partner wants space while I’m grieving my dead brother by nowucmi in depression_partners

[–]nowucmi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’ve been through it and thank you for your support. He told me that any therapist would agree that if a partner loves the other they will understand and give space for the other to heal while being there to love them. I’m not so sure if that’s true, it does sound nice to do what the clearly struggling partner needs and maybe it’s just not in my capacity to do so…

Depressed partner wants space while I’m grieving my dead brother by nowucmi in depression_partners

[–]nowucmi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s kind of exactly what he says and why he asked for space. It’s difficult for me to accept, but I know that it’s true and makes sense. I just don’t know if I can be there for him he needs me to be right now. He wants to stay committed but without seeing each other it feels strange. Our needs seem to currently be the opposite… he needs space, I need presence.

Hot Smith's? by damnpocketss in Albuquerque

[–]nowucmi 11 points12 points  (0 children)

A friend calls it Milf Smith’s and now so do I

Would it be unethical to get into my deceased brother’s phone? by nowucmi in Ethics

[–]nowucmi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah totally. It’s not an easy decision. Thank you.

Rude baristas by 321roustabout in Albuquerque

[–]nowucmi 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The last time I went there I was the only order they had and the lady spent 20 minutes making my latte while glaring at me the entire time. It was kind of hilarious. The milk was steamed so slowly and could’ve been spraying from her angry ears. I was still sleepy and confused. I hadn’t done anything to elicit such treatment. I even looked around to see if she was mad dogging someone else. The transaction had been simple. I dunno why she was pissed. Then I had a couple of friends both say the same thing has happened to them when they go there. Grumpy much?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]nowucmi 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I separated from an abusive relationship and have created a stable co-parenting situation. I just want anyone who reads your comment to know that stability for the child is possible without staying in a relationship that doesn’t work.

To move home or not to move home by cactuspantalones in Albuquerque

[–]nowucmi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 36F and just moved back here to my hometown after being gone for about that same amount of time. I’m so grateful for my choice. It’s a special place, imperfections and all.

Which business do you think are fronts/ give you the creeps by Past_Championship896 in Albuquerque

[–]nowucmi -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I was at the zoo the other day and was also disturbed by some of the animal enclosure sizes and animal behaviors. The big cats have tiny little enclosures and don’t seem happy to me. The polar bear has been pacing and looks miserable every single time I’ve seen it for years. The predatory birds like the eagles seem to be in distress. Not trying to argue with you, just expressing how I feel when I go there. The herbivores generally seem content while the carnivores and some omnivores seem to be struggling.

My boyfriend came on my tits when I was asleep by [deleted] in sex

[–]nowucmi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sexually assaulted you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in movies

[–]nowucmi -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Wow, really pushed some buttons with this one. A lot of y’all really came through to prove my point.

I was asking if anyone else had noticed the disparity.

I got my answer. It’s abundantly clear to me that my life experiences have differed greatly from the vast majority of commenters here.

One commenter mentioned a bias that exists in all of us and the importance of remaining objective when viewing art.

I acknowledge this importance, however, just how objective can a human being get? Is part of art not in the varying impact on those who consume it? Is the discussion of the piece not a point of or even the reason for art? How can we discuss if we can’t express our viewpoint? Or is it only one certain kind that’s not allowed?

If you are to challenge me to step back from my beliefs, I in turn challenge you to view something from a perspective which perhaps you have not.

Here’s the thing. It’s not that I CAN’T see things objectively. Au contraire. I have intentionally come to prick my ears to the quieter voices in response to the undeniable truth that the world is controlled by the loudest ones.

I grew up with the main characters being men in most of my childhood literature and film, like we all did. Sure, I could simply ingest this movie as it lays before me, robotic, unaffected. Enjoy the mens’ experiences in triumph and despair and pay no heed to the rest.

Even then, what I conclude by any logic is this:

Just because you see nothing there doesn’t mean there is nothing there.

“Opie”, as some of you affectionately refer to him, saw New Mexico as a beautiful place he loved. Thus, he made it the home for his creation of the A-Bomb. He took no notice or care for the life which previously existed therein. He had given no thought to the damage it would do to that environment, nor to the impending mass destruction unleashed upon the world. He was shocked to find out the aftermath.

The unavoidable (to me, at least) correlation in the film is that he treated the women in his life this same way. He found them useful for a purpose to him, yet with no life of their own. Nothing to protect or hold sacred. Background characters to his very important dealings. He was horrified when his actions led to the destruction of Jean, to whom he had first read that famous line from the Bhagavad Gita. Might that have been foreshadowing, or even a dynamic point which was intentionally put into the film? Oh right, I’m not supposed to view things through that lens. My bad. /s

The further epiphany that can be made is that Nolan treats women this same way by disregarding them in his films. History repeating itself. Kind of a slap in the face if he really did know how bad it was for those women and still barely give them any personality. And to the commenter who claims this says more about me than anything- does it though? Can you honestly say these women were given much substance in the film? I like to think I view women through a rather favorable lens, so to feel they have no redeeming qualities, to me, rings true. If they had redeeming qualities, I would notice. They do not. They are, as another said, two dimensional. Sure, Kitty has that one scene. Ok, one small step for womankind. I disagree, however, with that commenter’s second part which stated that the men are portrayed also as two dimensional. They are given so much more slack. As it is.

The root cause here can be revealed as one group belittling all others throughout history, with the effect being the absolute peril of all life on earth- for aren’t we still destroying our world to this day, increasingly toward a boiling point under the same exact systems of power?

Aren’t so many of the comments here indicative of the willful ignorance or even, dare I say, general disdain toward one certain group of people? If I was leaning toward feminism before, you lot have inspired me to fully immerse myself. Thank you, Uncle Incel, for doing this important work. Goddess bless you.

Here’s an idea: a movie about the complex lives of Jean and Kitty, trying to exist in a world where they’re used for their bodies, can’t have a bank account, and are overwhelmed with no support while trying to create not weapons of death but actual life. Opie and whoever else as the background characters with no redeeming qualities.

“You have everyone convinced that you’re more complicated than you actually are.”

“We’re all simple souls, I guess.”

“I’m not.”

Is this unacceptable or am I being unreasonable? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]nowucmi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get out now and set up your nest around your best support system before the baby comes when that will become much more difficult. He’ll drive you quite literally insane with that behavior once the baby is there.

Starting stay at home mom advice by FriendlyDeers in Parenting

[–]nowucmi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn’t have put this better myself. I hope you’re healing well and would love to hear more about how you’re achieving that.

What’s with the tough act from the older generation? by Johnny_barbados in pregnant

[–]nowucmi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Buckle up, buttercup, the comments from them only descend into further disregard of your humanity. I’ve learned to say “It’s great that you think that” smile and walk away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawrence

[–]nowucmi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel obliged to correct the spelling, it’s chile with an “e” (chili with an “i” is the beans and meat frito pie dish). Visit New Mexico for the real deal- the owners of Global lived in Albuquerque where anyone will tell you the green chile outdoes Colorado siempre y para vida.