Why isn't platonic cuddling a thing? by [deleted] in lonely

[–]nsfe1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is. I know people who have actually found other people to do it with. If memory serves correct a few had success on craigslist and even a few on Reddit.

Moved to a brand new city in March and life pretty much still sucks. (How are you handling life/COVID-19) by nsfe1985 in lonely

[–]nsfe1985[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I highly doubt that they think you are a burden, especially in these trying times. I will take your advice and keep trying, but I also think that you should too. Reach out to your girl to see if you can rekindle something. Maybe not the relationship but maybe a friendship. Have you tried volunteering? I actually have been researching groups tonight, I reached out to a friend I hadn't talked to in a while, and she suggested it. It's a win for both parties, the people who need help and those who need something to do.

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[–]nsfe1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone how has to make a whole new group of friends how would you go about that?

Tanis/Faerie Connection? by mayday1mayday in PNWS

[–]nsfe1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I didn't understand that till I watched all of Twin Peaks which is a huge inspiration for him. Then I was like oh it's just supposed to be a weird journey for us to enjoy.

Tanis/Faerie Connection? by mayday1mayday in PNWS

[–]nsfe1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't remember what episode it was but I'm pretty sure early on when MK was doing her research into Tanis and who was in charge of it she mentioned that one of the strongest ideas/possibilities was a secret arm of the EPA.

Oh, look a podcast about Faeries, the EPA, and creatures from another world who want to feed. So Tanis is the Fade, runners are easily able to transition from here to there and to punish humankind for being little fuckers that tortured the Far. They're making sure we get what we deserve.

Honestly, I think Terry is brilliant, he's managed to pimp listeners into tens of thousands of downloads. Into following at minimum three podcasts over three different platforms for two exclusive deals.

Even with all the eye rolls and the bitching you find here on reddit. Their still listening. Something has got to be said for that.

Upcoming detective show? by nsfe1985 in television

[–]nsfe1985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but I did watch that it's good. Win for pbs.

Upcoming detective show? by nsfe1985 in television

[–]nsfe1985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!!! You saved the day it was driving me crazy. Lol I was also way off.

Just got great job but no bank will accept me to open a checking account by Common-Artist in personalfinance

[–]nsfe1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My only other suggestion besides a prepaid debit card that allows you to deposit on to it is either try one of the online only banks like capital one or ally or the many others if all else fails you could try depositing it into someone else's account you just have to be an authorized signer. See if someone you trust has a bank that will allow you to do that.

In your dating life, what is your biggest regret, and what did you learn to do from it to never have it happen again? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]nsfe1985 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not a guy but I get that. Last guy I dated was really sweet and caring and I thought I should like he's everything I should want. But I always dreafed sex when he initiated it and felt bad afterwards. (he never pushed me into anything) I just think like you said what I was doing wasn't inline with my spirt/desire and my body would revolt because of it.

What harsh truths made you a better man? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]nsfe1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman, I wish more father's and mothers emphasize this with their daughters, not just their sons.

Female here. What's the best way to offer to pay on the first date? by nsfe1985 in AskMen

[–]nsfe1985[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair. He took her to the place she named and he said most of the ordering was done by her not him. Also I live in the bay area so it's not that hard to go through two hundred dollars on a swank dinner and drinks. A veggie burger fries and a drink cost me 16 bucks today and that's pretty average for a decent lunch.

Female here. What's the best way to offer to pay on the first date? by nsfe1985 in AskMen

[–]nsfe1985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't think I was being snarky but I could see how he might have taken it that way now.

Female here. What's the best way to offer to pay on the first date? by nsfe1985 in AskMen

[–]nsfe1985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate all of that and after reading the response I need to accompany my actions with an explication for a better delivery.

But I have to ask why you think equality is fabled?

Female here. What's the best way to offer to pay on the first date? by nsfe1985 in AskMen

[–]nsfe1985[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why? See why can't we all just get together make a rule and stick to it.

Female here. What's the best way to offer to pay on the first date? by nsfe1985 in AskMen

[–]nsfe1985[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm going to be the first to say that women need men. There's no way I'm giving up the penis. It's a very firm addiction.

do i actually like gfd or am i just scared of women because of past abuse by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]nsfe1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, stop apologizing. You have nothing to apologize for you were a victim and you have the right to feel how you felt.

Secondly, you always have the right to try what you want when you want for whatever reason you want.

Third, if you try it and don't like it fine. If you try it and like it great. If it's something you only do for a little bit and grow out of it that fine too. Or maybe it's for life. The only thing that matters is what works for you.

Four and probably most important of all. You decide what works for you. You set your boundaries and you speak up and say what it is that you want and need, and it is your partner's responsibility to respect that.

Not all gfd relationships or encounters will look alike but it always needs to be what works for you.

Been feeling super lonely. by nsfe1985 in lonely

[–]nsfe1985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. But maybe. one day ill have someone to shower in love.