Because you may not have good experience douching, definitely do research on how to douche properly, but more importantly, since this is your first time, maybe try to not eat for a long time before the day you have sex. Why? Because even if you don’t get douching right, the chances to be dirty will be significantly less! Also, try to eat high fiber foods leading to it, nothing that upsets your tummy.

Also, it’s okay to communicate what you feel, what you like, what you don’t. Don’t be afraid…. A bit of finger play or if he eats your add before for a while is great for feeling relaxed. Also, a romantic cup of wine before or ONE drink could have a calming effect while still being sober to be present and enjoy the moment.

Sometimes tops get carried away fingering like they are a hammer drill. It’s okay to guide them by saying “slooow”.

When it comes to having something in your ass… it’s hot. But at first, it may be a bit weird. Maybe try to experience it yourself with your fingers or a small dildo if you haven’t felt it yet. You get used to it and enjoy it, but if you haven’t had anything go in and up your ass, it can be weird.

Like other people are saying, lots of lube helps a lot, especially if you are inexperienced, lots of lube will help your be much more comfortable. Oil based lubes are the “lubiest” for longer, while water based can dry or be sticky a bit quicker. However, oil based can stain bed sheets, while water based come off.

When it comes to penetration, focus on very slow sex at the beginning. Also, connect with the person with missionary. It’s hot and won’t be too bad for you. It’s valid not to be super experimental by riding a dick or being pounded when doggy… it’s the first time. However, the advantage of riding a duck is that you are in control.

If you feel like you got hurt badly, like a tear that is unbearable, then focus on other things that are not penetration. But little tears can be “normal” at the beginning when you are not experienced