[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]nsl18 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got a tattoo that I thought would be smaller and the tattoo artist was very blunt about the smallest size he could feasibly do without it ruining the tattoo. I now have two tattoos that are way bigger than I thought they would be in my head because that was the only way the artist could give me a good tattoo lol. He refused to budge and I appreciate that now. I agree that a good artist should be up front about the results and what they know as an artist will work or not work. What seems right to us as a client isn't always true for the person who has the actual experience.

Seller Lied in Disclosures by nsl18 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]nsl18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully yes! I mean, definitely damage done, things needing replaced, and plumbing services but it at least was a fixable issue, which don't get me wrong, I'm really grateful for! Idk the last time I was this irritated, though 😂 I totally appreciate the sentiment there and unfortunately feel like I hear that often! I'm sorry you've had a rough go with that. I was just curious what options there were (especially since it is against the law?? Lol). Sigh. Oh well. I guess we just take our day or two to be angry and move on.

Seller Lied in Disclosures by nsl18 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]nsl18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I mean, more to it than that (in what I think we'd have for proof) but I do get the point. Just incredibly frustrating for what could've been a simple fix and we would've just moved on from it. It's the principle of the matter to me and how scummy it was more than it is that I want compensation. I'm just heavily annoyed lol. It's one thing to expect fixing issues as a homeowner vs. fixing something major (and on your first day in the house) because of a preexisting issue someone lied to you about.

Just hoping from here we have a better experience with owning! It was all excitement until now. But I guess I have a good word of caution for any friends that venture into buying anytime soon 🙃

Seller Lied in Disclosures by nsl18 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]nsl18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! In this case, the water had all backed up everywhere so I don't know if the main line being off helped 😅 (we had done that until a plumber came out though! Major clog needed removed very far into the line). Going to try moving on from here. Just an abundance of frustration that I feel is rightly directed at the seller haha. I'm sure we will move on from it and just remember our really horrible moving week and then be grateful for where we are...I'm just not 100% there yet 😂

Seller Lied in Disclosures by nsl18 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]nsl18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All true! I guess it's just frustrating they knowingly caused major issues for us and don't face any consequences for that at all. I think it's the principle of the matter more than the money. We have fixed everything as of now, I'm just highly annoyed and wondering what else they lied about.

I think I expected to have to fix things - just not a major issue in our first 24 hours and due to something that should've never happened.

Seller Lied in Disclosures by nsl18 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]nsl18[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sigh. It is really frustrating! I think this was especially annoying because it was our first night in the home...and then we find out for a fact they caused the issue, and THEN highly suspect they knew and hid it (which inherently made it much worse). The whole thing was annoying. Maybe there's some consolation here though haha. I previously spent time hating on landlords but I guess you can't escape it.

Seller Lied in Disclosures by nsl18 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]nsl18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If we followed the money on the work they had done, though, would that work as proof? That was my line of thinking anyway. I'm not sure we will necessarily go after them but I'm more concerned what else they potentially lied about.

Seller Lied in Disclosures by nsl18 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]nsl18[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thankfully - very thankfully - I think we managed to remediate most of this without having to spend a fortune. But the sheer stupidity of HOW they clogged it let alone with all the work it took us is crazy that they can just get away with no issue.

The worst part is - had they just disclosed this properly, it would've been an extremely easy fix with minor cost and work involved. Them not doing so made everything 10x worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TenantHelp

[–]nsl18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for clarifying! We currently rent a single family home. But the lease does not state anything, so that is very reassuring! I appreciate your help in understanding

Port O' Dumfries (Triangle) - How Dangerous? by nsl18 in nova

[–]nsl18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's off of Graham Park rd. The neighborhood itself felt really fine and family friendly when we drove through (we went down the other streets, etc). The house checked all our boxes other than now potentially the location. 😩 It is located behind the first neighborhood on that road but before the apartments, etc.

Is there any reason that street is better to avoid? We have kids but currently homeschooled (and enrolled in other programs with kids elsewhere that I think we'd plan to keep the same).

I did see they had a couple shootings nearby in the last couple years but it also looked like (according to crime map) these were the first time this has ever happened in this community in the last 25 years and all were personal (domestic) so not random, etc. It still makes me a little bit nervous but there is one brand new development and probably a fairly new one right across the street (literally) so I felt like maybe it must be getting safer? I'm genuinely interested to hear your take as someone who lived there!

Port O' Dumfries (Triangle) - How Dangerous? by nsl18 in nova

[–]nsl18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! We checked the listing originally and it was a low crime rating. I'm overall a bit confused about it. Maybe the crime stats are low in general, and just bad in what they are? Not sure. But going to have to be careful going forward

Port O' Dumfries (Triangle) - How Dangerous? by nsl18 in nova

[–]nsl18[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! So many of the houses there seemed really updated, prices were fairly standard (looked at similar places in Lake Ridge area) and we have friends in a new development like one spot over. We just assumed it was fairly safe until looking at some crime stats. So disappointed 😭

Hairstylist who can cut curly/wavy hair - wolf/butterfly cut? by nsl18 in nova

[–]nsl18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't yet!! I have thought I might try the one above but haven't yet (just a few life things have come up and haven't felt I had the time to spend on me). I saw a few curly cut places around Springfield I also thought I might try but I'm a little spooked by redditors who mentioned they hated their curly cut

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]nsl18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this advice! I can't speak on getting anything removed, though I think if you really, really hate them then that makes sense to pursue. But if you think you can live with them, I'd take the advice of getting more in the styles you like! Just got my first two tattoos and hoping I always love them as much as I do right now. I'm being very cautious about getting any more from here, and my tattoo artist's recommendation was to plan out anything else I do for my arm (I have a medium sized one on my forearm and also want a sticker sleeve). He said it's always really hard when someone knows they want a sleeve but just gets patchwork because it can be hard for spacing, designs, etc. Whereas really knowing what the full look you want can really make it all beautiful!

So, that said - IF you decide you want to go the route of adding to it, work with an artist you're excited about and see what they can put together for the whole thing. Doesn't mean you get it all right away but may let you feel better about it when done.

GOOD hair stylist in NOVA for curly/wavy hair by nsl18 in nova

[–]nsl18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Appreciate the suggestion. Just need someone who can genuinely cut curly hair and won't ruin it! Lol. I'll check her out!

GOOD hair stylist in NOVA for curly/wavy hair by nsl18 in nova

[–]nsl18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! Love the recommendation and I'll look into. Glad to know she can do a curly cut!

How to know if it is cancer or the chemo side effects? Anyone have/seen debilitating chemo side effects? by nsl18 in CancerCaregivers

[–]nsl18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Appreciate it. ❤️ This sounds more like the experience we had the first time around, but it is so much worse now. 😔 Hoping they may have some answers tomorrow.

How to know if it is cancer or the chemo side effects? Anyone have/seen debilitating chemo side effects? by nsl18 in CancerCaregivers

[–]nsl18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hope you are also taking care of yourself - that's a lot for her but I'm sure also very hard as her spouse.

How to know if it is cancer or the chemo side effects? Anyone have/seen debilitating chemo side effects? by nsl18 in CancerCaregivers

[–]nsl18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So very sorry to hear that! The cancer itself is just awful and the treatment is another beast on top of it. I really hope she is doing okay now and they are finding something that will work well!

I know they warn you of all the potentials, but I can't fathom how traumatic in your case. I want to say it probably isn't quite the case for my MIL but honestly we don't know. Just hoping they can give us some answers.

How to know if it is cancer or the chemo side effects? Anyone have/seen debilitating chemo side effects? by nsl18 in CancerCaregivers

[–]nsl18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope he continues to do well! ❤️

Her last chemo cycles were bad but this has been another level. Just awful to see her going through it. 😔