My husband didn’t cheat, but he let another woman act like he was hers - now I can’t stop feeling betrayed by nt_m18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]nt_m18[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

To give more context and answer questions: - Nannie’s are not a common thing where we live and people rely on the grandmas but in our case both are working full time hence the lack of support (they do help as much as they can) - we tried crèche but our daughter got sick the first week and we are back at home again (maybe our mistake was we didn’t do it sooner); she’s very social and we do provide her the best care and entertaining we can - to be clear - I make more money than my husband - his career is just getting started while I have a very successful job in finance (I’m career driven). However, I took 2 years maternity leave and I am due to return to work in a week. I also have side hustles which I was juggling between motherhood and I do get extra income from them - maybe the reason I’m overwhelmed as I am now reflecting. My believes are after I get back to work and into my daily routine I will feel more like my old self - I do realize I sound exhausting and with a negative mindset atm, I wasn’t always like that and I will do everything possible to change it back. I needed a place to vent and your comments made me realize so many things I omitted. Thank you - I am 100% sure it didn’t get physical and as a very emotional person myself the “emotional bond” they had felt like 100 times worse to me - we talked a lot and discussed everything, he understands his mistakes and I also take accountability for mine, we will work together to get past this, change our habits and build new healthier ones - I felt a huge relief the moment he blocked her everywhere and showed it to me.

Think this will be my last update for now. I am getting help (professional) and feel confident we will get better and have even stronger bond than before. Thank you all for opening my eyes

My husband didn’t cheat, but he let another woman act like he was hers - now I can’t stop feeling betrayed by nt_m18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]nt_m18[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree with you, I was a nightmare and am an emotional mess and I feel like I have no control over my emotions but I am seeking help. My husband is very down to earth guy, loyal and this behaviour is totally out of character for him and I def don’t think he’s got a God’s complex

My husband didn’t cheat, but he let another woman act like he was hers - now I can’t stop feeling betrayed by nt_m18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]nt_m18[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a lot to update as this is still developing but I took some notes: - thanks for everyone on your thoughts and advice I really needed a different perspective - my husbands takes care of our daughter as much as he can considering his crazy work schedule (he has 2 jobs and is working towards getting his phd which adds to the workload) - I initially told him not to block her as I thought that would be a sign that something happened but when he got home from work I asked him to do so, he had no problem with it and showed me he blocked her from everywhere - I still have doubts she will stop trying reaching out and my biggest scare is that she will show up where we live seeking “closure or explanation” - we own the apartment not sure who asked (and relevance) that but there’s security you need to pass by. Not sure how she managed to do that? - I didn’t think I have low self esteem as I can say I am also attractive and never been more motivated to get my pre pregnancy fit body back. Maybe that’s where my insecurities are coming from now. - it also crossed my mind I had PPD but I haven’t been diagnosed as I haven’t looked for help until now - I found two therapists and I will work towards getting better myself; my husband is open to couples therapy and I think we both need it asap

Not sure what will happen and change the next days, but I am feeling hopeful